Episode 8 - Domestic Violence: A Modern Plague
Even with raised awareness and improved education, society continues to see shocking rates of domestic violence. So, what are we missing? What are we not wanting to see?
As usual, Serge Benhayon flips the topic on its head by taking the 100 steps back approach towards decency and respect. This spherical observation of humanity doesn’t tread the usual path of male persecution, it’s not bound by gender and brings back the personal responsibility required to truly action change.
Rebecca Asquith and Serge bring revelation after revelation. When we focus on ‘fixing’ domestic violence we fail to see the allowed abuse that has crept into our relationships along the way. Could there be abuse in an underhanded comment, raised eyebrow, cutting statement or even… hiding our own beauty in lieu of protection?
Just as domestic violence has no place in our community, this is a must watch episode to support bringing the depth of love back to relationships. Which really, we all want and deserve.
We all actually know what is a level of decency and respect that we all deserve no matter what so when we have created a life that is void of this we are living in a lot of tension and self-abuse internally and potentially quietly ignoring every cell and particle in our bodies and what they are asking of us.
This is a great observation and something I can relate to in my life. We all feel that tension, it is definitely telling us something that we really need to feel and respond to.
Love the comment about the horrors of society being a mere concealment of the amazingness we truly are. So true!
Love Serge’s comment about the importance of the details. It explains why so many including myself have sought to at times dismiss the subtle details or not give enough weight to them as it is a way of hiding what is truly going on and what your intentions actually are
We should never leave behind the way we treat babies and children with tenderness and gentleness, nor should we stop understanding how delicate and precious they are, but simply carry that through for the entirety of our lives respecting everyone for the sensitive and beautiful being that they are.
Reducing protection reduces the reaction of abuse. And as is shared here – abuse happen both ways – to men and women – physical and mental. This interview starts to deconstruct what is behind what leads to what we all see as abuse.
An awesome interview. Taking abuse it back to its roots , the very place that it starts and how it is has become unacceptably acceptable to undermine each other at a certain level. What does that lead to? We definitely have to get very real and honest about our own abuse and self abuse.
In this episode Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon set the bar for decency way above what we as a denatured society have made normal through the self-abuse that we have allowed way before we have abused or been abused by another. Watching this has brought to my awareness the extent of the responsibility I have to counter the current levels of abuse at even to most subtle levels as to the tone of voice I use when addressing another. What is on offer here is priceless as it gives us such a great understanding of how we are contributing to the problem and how we can address this.
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Yes Kathleen, what Serge has presented in this episode has also woken me up to the responsibility I have to become aware of any abuse that occurs in my everyday life, no matter how subtle it is, such as “the tone of voice I use when addressing another”. I can see now that if these more subtle forms of abuse are not called out they create a foundation for the bigger forms that make up the shocking statistics we are regularly presented with. I can no longer sit back and expect someone else to fix the problem, of abuse, any fixing starts with me.
Dismissiveness is so hurtful at any level and I love how Serge shares that there is tenderness just wanting to burst out under this dismissive stance. So too when we feel dismissiveness towards us how would it be to let this tenderness out then rather than coming up with a shield to guard ourselves from it?
We don’t really want to have to look at the nitty gritty and see the different levels of abuse that are playing out in our lives, especially the ones we have with ourselves. Hence why we can find it difficult to say no to it because potentially we see it as a form of punishment or something that we deserve if we are not prepared to be absolutely loving and supportive of ourselves.
The acknowledgement and exposure of the subtlety of abuse inflicted upon men by women brings a balance that is greatly needed to bring about true change to the abuse between men and women.
Very true. This episode describes it well how it is a fallacy to imagine abuse is a gender issue and also how there is abuse present well ahead of what in the end we call abusive.
It is so refreshing to hear Serge and Rebecca talk about relationships like this. Before I heard Serge Benhayon present, I had never heard or even considered that abuse could be at the level of not adoring or appreciating someone. Yet it is definitely abusive because by not adoring or appreciating another (including yourself) you can leave another less. We are more than just function, we are human beings and not honouring this fact is itself and illness.
Yes, I agree Joshua. What Serge Benhayon presents here brings a whole new and much deeper understanding of abuse and in its turn a deeper understanding of love and appreciation.
Abuse is abuse as long as it is not love. True love that is, not the emotionalised dramatised indulgent comforting conditional arrangements we claim are love.
The idea of “an underhanded comment, raised eyebrow, cutting statement or even… hiding our own beauty in lieu of protection” being abuse is such a left-field notion. And that is largely due to what we accept for the sake of our investments and attachments in life.
The steps shared by Serge Benhayon is a stark reminder of how far we are living our truth!
Serge often flips topics on their heads because he lives in a way that is not owned by the topics and the conscioussnesses that run them. A true inspiration.
Michael totally agree with you, he does flip it on its head and makes sense of life.
Gill indeed its not only the fact that we as a society are so far away from truth but the fact we accept this to be normal when it is anything but true. Instead of trying to find a fix to the problem its great to start to get to the root of it.
It makes total sense that we need to address the subtle levels of abuse that we tend to brush under the carpet to in effect reduce if not stop the more extreme abuse that is totally in your face. I sit wonder what are the subtle abuses playing out and when you really stop and look you get to see them and also the ones that we are choosing that are on our own back door step.
Learning to step back in tense situations and look at how we have been treated as children is nothing new, but Serge Benhayon brings in the fundamental aspect that makes sense of the whole situation, our innate and precious tenderness. When we learn to honour this in one another and our selves the more our entire mode operandi changes, as we reconnect to a natural flow and ease of communication that requires no manipulation or coercing within a relationship, just honesty, tenderness and a willingness to work things out together with love.
I absolutely love this line, that in trying to seek an answer we are trying to address the extremes. This is so profound because it paves the way, or opens the door for more awareness across the board and not just in reaction to what is grossly aberrant.
Domestic violence is much like workplace bullying. It will go on as long as we accept it and stand by without speaking up and calling it out for the abuse that it is, in both cases.
Fixing anything that is harming by simply separating what is abusive fixes nothing. It is like having Japanize fighting fish in serrate tanks. Going to the source of the energy causing the abuse is the only way to permanently end the abuse.
What is remarkable about this interview is that neither party seeks controls or restrictions as a way to resolution to this ill. Instead both bring a focus to our individual responsibility to restore true respect and integrity within our selves and our relationships, which once resurrected cannot foster violence in any quarter.
In a world that contains so much ugliness, what is underneath it is the truth that we are all absolutely beautiful at the being level, but not able as yet to live this and support others to do the same. The tension and distress of not living who we all actually are is the foundational reason for the ills of the world. This all makes so much sense to me, as does the 100 steps approach to domestic violence and the subtleties of abuse that occur well before the extremes eventuate. And what a line by Serge “Anything that does not register and adore the beauty that we all are equally is already an abusive posture….”. Listening to Serge is like receiving all the missing pieces of the bigger picture – thank you Serge.
There is certainly something to be said for the way that words and a ‘constant chipping away’ can degrade a person. It is abuse – the same as physical – and as a woman, I have a responsibility to not add to this – to not feel like the subtle things are OK because they are not as bad as a punch.
It’s a scary realisation when it arrives, that we all live in goldfish bowls with no separation from humanity. The saying “No man is an island” comes to mind…
It is crazy to consider that abuse is now so normal in society, self love, love and even care have been distorted somewhat to include abuse as part of their definition. Of course these are not true forms of love, self-love or care and hence way we need those that live true love, true self love and true care to show the world a different way
And yet that punch, kick or push is the tip of the iceberg, truly sobering to consider this, we need to get to the root of the disharmony in society and not keep looking for short term solutions and avoidance strategies.
We consider something a plague if it has horrid, lethal symptoms but what about things that have a large, hidden from the physical eye in most cases, physiological and mental effect.
What a team Rebecca and Serge, sharing such valuable information and exposing the root cause of such serious circumstances that are so alive in many peoples lives today as being normal. I have found it super supportive listening to this and how it comes back to the finest detail and correspondence/experience with every single person that matters to the whole.
This interview is must a see for all. To end abuse is to reignite our beauty. So, how do we do that? – another episode? It’s been said – we must nominate and renunciate any moment we are not honouring our sensitivity – this usually for me is to slow my movements right down to exquisiteness of the tenderness that I know and deserve. Essentially give my space and all the time to feel what is there.
Accepting something that is better than previously, such as verbal abuse rather physical abuse or one cigarette a day instead of ten, is without a doubt better. However, if we accept it as the answer then we have not resolved the problem and consequently accepting ‘better’ is in fact actually harmful as we are allowing it to perpetuate.
The more we focus on restoring true love and harmony in our homes, the more we are able to address violence per sey throughout our communities. This requires honesty, willingness and the maturity to address our issues in order to cut the culture of blame in its tracks. This can only begin from within our selves and the more we establish our own inner benchmarks of love and respect towards our selves, then the simpler it becomes to create them within the home.
Actually, domestic violence has always been around. When I was young much of it was called chastisement by the physically stronger of the other members of the household. I wonder if it is worse now or people are more aware and less accepting.
The past should never be glorified just because we think it was better, as our selective memories can shape it to be something it was not.
Amazing how in depth and how absolutely insightful this interview is.
Another amazing episode exposing the truth of what is going on and the problems in the world society today . True quality respect and decency for women and men can be part of this world and this is a beautiful understanding offered of the way we can bring back the love and tenderness in our lives.
In society we hide who we are, the beauty inside, I often observe life from this point now, what is attempted to be hidden, what tension lies in what is being offered as a reality. A philosopher of deep integrity and wisdom, I Love to listen to these episodes, woo hoo for S.B TV.
The acceptance is the factor here that is often buried with the business of just doing life in order to keep our heads just above water.
It took me a while to truly believe that I was super sensitive as I had created such a hard exterior to get by in life that there was no sign of this sensitivity. Thanks to Serge Benhayon and the modalities of Universal Medicine I was able to let go of this hard layers of protection and connect and feel how super sensitive I really am and that it is actually a really beautiful quality to cherish and nurture. Where for most my life I was lead to believe and did think it was stupid, silly and a nuisance to be sensitive.
Going against the grain in the most harshest of ways is a noticeable by product of how far we are willing to go to not feel the quality we truly come from.
It’s groundbreaking to consider abuse occurs not just at the human or physical level, but at the being level. That opens up the discussion very broadly. It makes so much sense to me that abuse is founded on that tension to not live the beauty we are as beings.
This is an utter tour de force of the cause of domestic violence and as the pre-amble to this episode states, “Just as domestic violence has no place in our community, this is a must watch episode to support bringing the depth of love back to relationships. Which really, we all want and deserve.”
Everyone thinks that abuse is simply physical but when you delve deeper into what abuse really is, what we find is that men, who are typically physically stronger than women are in fact very sensitive to any forms of rejection. This means, that as women, we are not victims but we actually have the power to support men feel truly loved again by embracing them in ways that society and perhaps their parents have not been able to in the past. When I say men, I mean the men and boys in your life, the sons, students, nephews, uncles, Dads, friends, it starts at home and when we all start to value one another, this type of care and love is infections.
That is a good point. There are many forms of abuse and some of the worst leave no physical traces.
I agree “truly great TV” and raises the bar of what I have been watching for sure. We look at the “shocking rates of domestic violence” daily as there is so so much around that showing us the end result and from there we are trying to make it better or find answers and here we have a road map back for us to see where it all begins, where it all starts or you can say the root cause. Amazing we have seen years and years of violence and money spent and in a 40 minute video I have found out more about this “modern plague” then ever before.
I had to come back to this episode and I don’t think I will be leaving it for a few days between you and me. There is just so much in this and the more I listen the more I am aware. When I think about the things that this episode supports with I am almost spun in a complete circle. It’s inspired me to write more about this all myself as my background has had a lot of dealings with people in domestic violence situations and here we have an interview walking us back to the very root of this “modern plague.
I have never looked this deep into “domestic violence” and like most I would guess we are caught in the extreme pictures of what it is and try not to repeat them. Yet here we have a look at the start or where this truly occurs and we tend to look beyond what one does to another to look at how we are with ourselves and how we move in relation to then how we act and how we treat another. This is certainly a way to “tackle” this crime that I have never before seen approached and if as a society we are truly serious about what we are doing here then this episode should be in every home for us to view.
I love the true care and understanding that Serge Benhayon brings into the picture. Love, harmony and joy is our true essence, so to be able to get to a point of even contemplating abuse, there must be deep hurt and abandoning our true expression. So a great question to ask: well ahead of the outplays that we call abuse, where did we veer away from deeply honouring one another and the love that we held each other in?
We have such a high version of what “domestic violence” actually is. Our perception of this style of violence or abuse almost covers what it truly is, in other words we look at it down the track and in that trying fix it from the end in place of walking truly back to the start. We can’t fix the extremes from only looking at the extremes we are needing to walk back further into the”subtleties”.
An absolutely revolutionary discussion with a level of understanding and support for mankind that is amazing to hear and gives us the keys to look back 100 steps to the root of all abuse and who we are in our essence. Inspirational and essential to be heard ,Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon make an amazing interview team and could be listened to all day and inspired to make a difference. Such a beautiful understanding of us all and the abuse we live to take responsibility for.
The constant chipping away of words that you talk about Serge can be super subtle and the are deeply destructive. To be able to get to place where we can actually not be in that defence and be honouring of how we feel and expressing this is what Serge Benhayon’s teachings and modalities offer us. They have been life changing for me and hundreds of people.
If we were to get back to the true power of a man in his tenderness and a woman in her divinity – then abuse would not even be a option. But we are so far from this and so abuse plays out as something needs to fill
In the gaps. This interview exposes what we need to start to address and take 100 steps back.
I felt warm inside and giggled every time Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon shared a moment and smiled — inspiration at work, I want some of that! The depth of connection is priceless.
I love it when Serge Benhayon jokes about being arrested for a person holding back their beauty, as this is abuse, but then says joking aside this is abuse. When I consider my day and what makes me sad when I walk around town, is seeing people shut down and putting a lot of effort into turning their inner glow down or going all out to snuff it out. There are people drinking and taking drugs and people caught up in their worries and surviving. I see so much disregard and it feels so heavy and I do react a lot because it pains me to see beautiful people not appreciating or living their inner beauty and enjoying it. Why do I react a lot? Because I know I often disregard myself and do not appreciate my own beauty, which can create a downward spiral of self-flagellation and greater attempts to numb out the knowing of how awful this is for myself and everyone around me. But with loving understanding, I can choose to adore myself and live a different way which doesn’t hold back my beauty but lets it shine.
What I love here is that there is no blame game of who is right or wrong but how many backward steps we have all taken that had led to this level of disregard. Serge Benhayon points out the truth for all so that we have the opportunity to learn and heal.
We don’t consider things like this a plague because its a behaviour rather than an ‘illness’ but what if those behaviours are the dis-ease that leads to the physical symptomatic disease we see later on?
There are so many layers to abuse, as Serge Benhayon shares, and those subtle ones slowly chip away at us. It makes sense what is being presented that we have to come clean and express our hurts, both men and woman and from there we have a place of honesty to work with.
When wondering why we have wars and genocide, one just has to look at our conduct and behaviour in our own homes with so-called loved ones.
‘If I don’t adore my wife on a daily basis is that abuse?’ – Serge Benhayon drops another massive point of reflection for us to be honest about what we have settled for and where we have compromised to not be who we are. This interview challenges how we are living as a society and asks us to not focus on the extreme cases, but all the movements that may contribute to an abusive relationship that has no place within humanity.
Looking at the violence issues we face today and knowing where to begin can feel overwhelming, but it is refreshing to consider that the answer may be raising the bar – across the whole of society. This approach actually makes sense. When you think about the big picture, we cannot force or coerce a criminal from being a criminal, you cannot talk a violent offender from re-offending, it does not work – and locking them in a cell, we have tried that already. It is about inspiring change so that this change filters down to the way we raise children to know themselves so deeply and wholly that they would not ever be able to perpetuate these crimes on a fellow human being in the first place.
Understanding that my self-bashing or anything I do that means I’m not my lovely being, is experienced as rejection by another brings a loving responsibility to how I live. This is huge and a depth of sensitivity I can feel in men but had not wanted to fully acknowledge because it means I cannot pretend that how I am is a private affair.
Wow – Serge Benhayon presents that abuse is genderless, and that anything that does not honour and appreciate the beauty that is there already is an abusive posture. This is such a powerful foundation to have – as it highlights just how far we are as a humanity from truly appreciating and honouring who we are.
To understand that domestic violence is the end result of subtler forms of abuse, such as that bad look or an unkind word that we have accepted as being ok, is a revelation. It shows how each of us need to take greater responsibility in how we talk to another and not accept anything less than caring, loving communication.
Such an incredible insight into such a desperately needed conversation, to expose that which is destroying lives and be open to the support that is on offer to heal such hurts.
This is a conversation that offers us healing. Healing to ourselves and how we are choosing to live and treat ourselves in every moment of everyday. Healing for those we are in relationship with and how we are with others. It takes the conversation on domestic violence to a very deep level and says there is much more going on before what we see as the end result of domestic violence. It asks whats happening for us as a society if we are seeing more extreme levels of behaviours and then as a result lower further our standards of decency and respect in all of our relationships? In other words how far away have we stepped away from our true natures?
The fact that domestic violence occurs in the most wealthy good-to-do households just shows that what we have termed success is not really It.
When I reflect on the modern plague of domestic violence it makes me wonder how and why we have allowed this to be so normal, what is great is getting underneath that and seeing that nearly every relationship in the world allows a level of abuse and that unless we make relationships about love, which first means knowing and feeling what true love actually is, then domestic violence is just a more extreme version of what many people put up within their relationships. And that all starts with how we are with ourselves, something that I would say in my case was very abusive from when I was young onwards.
I love the simplicity of the responsibility offered here. If we take care of, nurture and cherish our relationships with ourselves and those around us, we are incrementally turning the tide on the violence and conflict that has become our ‘norm’.
Yes the level of love, care and honouring Serge Benhayon reminds us is our natural expression, truly exposes how we have settled for relationships in life which falls very short of our true nature.
This recognition of the absolute beauty which is actually everyone’s true essence and expression is a vital place too. Anything less than this is doomed to fail since we are already starting with a lack of honouring which is felt as a hurt at our inner core and results in the many forms of reaction some of which we consider abhorrent.
We have truly figured out how to not be ourselves and to play gender games that make us less. But Serge Benhayon loves humanity so much that he continues to present the truth of who we are as a reflection back to us. A beholding love.
This is revelatory and makes total sense. In lots of training and work with agencies, ‘ve never heard of looking at domestic abuse from beyond the physical level – the verbal and/or physical abuse, the coercive and controlling behaviours; the strategies and interventions that are put in place start from the extremes because that’s where the problems are so obvious and often life threatening. But what if we start at the being level where we truly cherish our beauty? Having just been on child to parent/carer domestic violence training today they spoke of poor attachment being a huge contributory factor – the care takers weren’t able to honour the baby’s sensitivities and the baby formed distrust of the world and negative beliefs of themselves. Agencies are focusing on supporting caretakers to respect themselves and rebuild relationships. I’m hearing a call for a much deeper level of caring and nurture to bring myself and to others.
What would you consider worse for humanity – A war between two countries, OR, every household in those 2 countries hosting domestic violence in any shape or form?
I know that before I opened my eyes to see the effects of subtleties I would have said the former every time. Now I see the big picture and that in truth without that domestic violence there could be no war.
To listen to this interview very much confirms that we are able to live the love we are and to expose everything which is abusive, if we choose to go this path which returns to our inner love.
Yes. And I love this quote from the interview, ‘The horrors of society are only a disguise for the beauty we are’, which sums up the madness of our existence in resistance to our natural qualities that would not even consider raising an abusive finger, word or gesture… ever.
Another incredible interview with Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon, opening up the conversation about the root causes of domestic violence and the responsibility we all have to be honest about, and commit to change, any abuse in our relationships with ourselves, because this ripples out to feed the extreme acts that we are then aghast and ‘surprised’ about.
Before we attempt to solve political crisis and international wars we need to address what goes on in our own homes.
Once I became honest about the lack of intimacy in my life and that I was settling for much less that what I deserved I could see that this is what I thought was ‘normal’. But it was the fact that I was seeking it from outside of me. With Universal Medicine as presented by Serge Benhayon I got to feel and see that there is a Love super strong and powerful within me and it was this that I was actually craving as I had disconnected from it.
Abuse is when we hold back our beauty. That is a big one to take in and really see the truth in it. We as a society are so used to this, and so we walk around as less, and as a result put up with less.
Even with our ever increasing levels of education and temporal intelligence, we have not been able to truly shake the barbaric behaviours we like to consider are a part of our past – domestic violence, slavery, war – it is all with us in our present because we have not dealt with why it is still a part of human life.
Domestic violence is just one of many symptoms that the increasing level of ‘intelligence’ around the world in the form of degrees, PhD’s, Masters and education in general is not providing us with a way of truly understanding why people abuse their closest loved ones, and how we can live together in harmony . And yet here, in this video, 100 steps back, we can begin to see something else at play – which provides us with a clear understanding.
An interview that inspires us to explore domestic violence and the root causes… being curious and committed enough to go beyond superficial temporary fix-its to the heart of the matter and the abuse we deliver to ourselves on a daily basis that forms the foundation for the extreme versions to sit.
To admit that we are all part of the abuse and that until such time that this changes this plague will only get worse – I know I have struggled with this, and to even start seeing the tiniest things with myself where I abuse myself was huge, and how if I am allowing that with myself then I allow that elsewhere. Turning the table on this and saying no to abuse on every level is the only way forward and discussion like this is exactly what is needed, to bring an honest, open, non-judgemental truth to it. Thank you Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith.
Becoming aware of and addressing the subtlies of abuse brings us back to appreciating and honouring our immense sensitivity and when we do, there is no room in life for the smallest of abuses to exist. If we do this on a domestic level, we will eat away at the foundations of war and no longer provide the fuel it needs to thrive.
If violence or abuse is a part of a relationship in anyway, than that means that whatever the relationship is based on is many ‘steps’ away from that 100th step as Serge Benhayon so brilliantly puts it.
In this interview, Serge Benhayon talks about men and women coming to terms and being open with our hurts, in order to heal, so that we may all begin to move towards a more harmonious way of living with eachother, that does not include violence or abuse even at the most subtle levels. The fact that our hurts can be the driving factor which is causing so much disharmony amongst us, is very sobering, because this means that by not being willing to heal these underlying factors we are actually continuing or continuously contributing to a way of life on earth which, at present, is not such a pretty picture when it is looked at closely and with greatest honesty.
Amazing – decency and respect are not the basic levels of communication and relationship we are taught from young, and yet they should be the minimum of how we interact with each other.
Serge Benhayon is one of a handful of people I have come across who, even when speaking about horrendous issues that would normally make me want to crawl into my shell and give up on humanity, expands the topic, broadens your understanding and brings such a depth of love and responsibility to the core that instead I always always come away feeling more empowered, inspired and committed to live all the love that I am.
So true, Golnaz, and by speaking about ‘the horrendous issues’ in the way he does Serge demonstrates that to bring about real change is by first being completely honest and transparent and then we can truly know what needs to be addressed, otherwise it is only playing with smoking mirrors.
The fact that we need to go back 100 steps is a daily reminder of how far we have taken ourselves away from what true potential we have to live.
Introducing the fact that domestic violence is the end spectrum of many steps taken walking away from our natural sensitivity as men and women and shows we cannot be complacent and think the abuse, no matter how subtle, is ok and acceptable because it’s mild in comparison to full blown, obvious violence and often death. Watching this and understanding how domestic violence and abuse isn’t something that happens to other people. What is presented is how we all have a part in this – whether we know it or not; so, I greatly appreciate being aware of how this part is played out through how I am with myself, therefore with others.
I agree Karin, when we take 100 steps back, we are faced with a far broarder spectrum of behaviour we need to focus on and address to be able to heal the end result of domestic violence
There are more plagues in society than we care to see and domestic violence is definitely one of them.
There is such a difference coming to life in a way where we feel we need to be defensive almost in our approach, such as the example of sex education. “How not to get pregnant, how to say no” are defensive. Coming from decency and respect we learn and understand that we can be open with one another and there is no need for defence. In defence we shut ourselves down to each other. Decency and respect are an important foundation for us all.
How do we go about attempting to fix countries and world issues when we can’t get our own houses in order? A bit like trying to blow out a candle whilst the house is burning down.
Great analogy, Michael, exposing how futile and ineffective our superficial approach to domestic violence and its root causes is.
It is great to be reminded many times of our need to address the root cause of issues such as domestic violence as well as the end result that we see in society. Domestic violence happens in our homes, in our families. How are we not living the decency and respect as our foundational blocks?
We could say that we have reduced the meaning of relationship when we consider the abuse we are allowing into them.
“Decency and respect that have the foundations of love and nothing less” – a level we can’t step below because of the very support in their foundational blocks, with these we establish the quality we live, learn and grow up in.
If we as a society simply address the tone of our voice, we will be miles in front of where we are today. Abuse can start at this simple point, the way we move, the way we speak and the way we stand. If we allow ourselves to take one hundred steps back, we discover things that we may never have thought we would find. It is quite amazing when we observe our conditions in this way. This is a life changing episode, thank you to everyone that is apart of the production team, great job getting quality viewing out there.
” a woman that does not honour her sexiness is a rejection to her partner , because he sees that the rejection of her own sexiness , is a concealment of her beauty towards him “. It’s so wonderful to listen to this interview and learn the truths as to what men get upset about in relationships.
It is always wise when facing any issue to consider the responsibility we ourselves have in the situation.
And these conversations with Serge Benhayon take the understanding and relationship with personal responsibility to a whole new level.
An amazing conversation of what is abuse and how subtle it really is. The extremes have begun somewhere and we find their sources in the subtle levels of abuse that we choose to ignore and put up with. Whats interesting is that we have not considered that how we treat ourselves is either abuse to others, or it’s loving and supportive. It highlights how important self-care is as a starting point in turning around these behaviours.
Jennifer indeed that’s the key, its the subtle levels of abuse that we tend to ignore yet they are a pandemic across the world.
Real TV is about empowering us to change what is not right in the world and Serge Benhayon TV definitely does that. The more we wake up to the subtle ways we abuse one another, the greater our ability to prevent extreme behaviours. This change begins within our selves and the quality of our self-talk. When we take this in hand, the quality of our relationships naturally follows suit.
This week I spoke to a woman about the abuse she had suffered for a number of years. And by offering support, she disclosed that no one had ever cared that much to support her or talk to her before. It made me stop and see where the world is at – that we don’t talk about what is quickly becoming a normal behaviour. We are desensitising ourselves to what is happening and compromising on love.
Serge Benhayon says here in this interview, that for women promiscuity is not the answer to a lack of intimacy in life. These words are profound and very revealing because they ask every woman to look at and address if there is a lack of true intimacy in our lives, these words in fact ask women to be honest, and if willing to go there it asks us to be truthful about why there is promiscuity in the first place – to ask the question and take things from there.
We can focus on wars and battles if we like, but as long as there is war within our homes we have not a chance to remedy the separation on a wider scale.