Episode 14 - The Gods Making Love
The ‘energetic hermaphrodite’ is an utterly unfamiliar concept to us in these porn-saturated times… or at any time really.
Having lived through a long period where the Church debased the act of sex to the level of profanity – one only permitted begrudgingly when employed for procreation – the opportunity to explore the magnificence of true union between the male and female aspects was one enjoyed by very few…. and they most likely weren’t talking about it to avoid the approbation and punishment of the clergy.
But picture yourself at the local swimming pool . . .
The Church won’t even let you take your clothes off, let alone go in.
The pendulum swings and now the visually obsessed porn industry arises to fill the sex-education void. Function and performance driven – and utterly bereft of respect for the sacredness of the players it exploits in its often violent, cheap and frantic portrayals of the act of lovemaking – it barely allows us into the wading pool, with perhaps a quick dip into the ‘shallow end’. Shallow alright.
So who will take us to the ‘deep end’, to encourage us to explore the magnificent gifts that await in the depths of true surrender, where making love and the Universe itself are inextricably intertwined and inseparable? Who will explain how the ‘energetic hermaphrodite’ becomes the key to this ability to make love as a god?
Immerse yourself in this video as Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith take you to those depths. It will remind you of who you truly are…
The written introduction for this interview is absolutely brilliant. An invitation to watch the video obviously, but also to immerse ourselves into the potential of true love making, an everyday, sacred activity that is absolutely not confined to the bedroom.
I love these episodes because watching them has brought in a completely different idea about sex & making love. The idea that perhaps it can actually be a loving act rather than an animalistic, all-consuming, and in some cases even abusive experience. How many of us (men and women) have settled with “that’ll do” when we know in the core of our being that we actually deserve and know much, much better.
In this day and age sex has been made to be all about the physical act and the chemistry, little is really felt or understood about the divine aspect and absolute love that unfolds. Serge Benhayon exposes the less then sexy lie some of us have been falling for for years.
Many people in society are missing out on true intimacy, this episode is an amazing reminder of the deep level of love that is available to us all.
We know there is more to life, and that ‘more’ applies to every aspect of life in very practical and real ways. After we reconnect to soul it’s an amazing experience to bring that into every part of life and see how it expresses.
It teaches us a lot this episode – so much about how to truly honour one another, how to be open, transparent and truly, truly loving.
How far we we have gone away from this normal way of being, how many of us yearn to have this in our everyday lives yet are not willing to do their part?
What Serge presents on making love is not out of this world and extravagant, it is normal to acknowledge that to honour your partner every second of the day is making love. When I first heard the idea I was very confused and couldn’t really comprehend what it is meant by that, is it an airy fairy kind of thing? Are you supposed to be holding hands while you cook? But no, it is not – it is the quality in which we engage, the tenderness & openness we have towards one other that then relates to the bedroom. This is a beautiful teaching.
What a great discussion, I particularly appreciated the part about sensitivity, it turned the common and often derogatory meaning of sensitivity on it’s head. It’s so important that we deeply honour who we naturally are, including our sensitivity, and understand the true meaning of our expression. We seem to have so many negative views about ourselves when actually there is a richness within us all, even if it’s covered up or suppressed. I found what was shared about sensitivity very confirming.
When we deny our sensitivity seeing it as a weakness, we are hurting ourselves so much more than we know. I have come to understand that my rejection of my sensitivity hurt more than all those actions of others that made me want to toughen up in the first place.
I have come to understand that when we reject ourselves in what ever way we are in fact poisoning our bodies and if this is true where does that poison go? Is it then possible that the poison could be the precursor to illness and disease in our bodies?
I agree. It is so great to put the topic of sensitivity on the table and to realise the strength of sensitivity. The fact that what we feel gives us so much more insight into everything that is going on around us. So when we do not honour our sensitivity we are ignorant of so much that is at play.
Melinda Knights, I have watched this episode several times, and every time I hear something different, this time listening to what Serge Benhayon shared about sensitivity it’s plain to see that we have replaced our sensitivity with self abuse and so its great to open up the discussion as to why we all play a part in crushing our sensitivity and replacing it with self abuse, because it just doesn’t make any sense to me why we should do this.
The more I get to grips with the hermaphrodite the more I see it is not something that is obvious to everyone who you meet, nor is it something that gives you extra powers. It is a result of tuning into that which are our innate gestures. Walking in absolute adoration of being alive.
When we start talking about meeting each other from the depth of our qualities then I can absolutely feel how making love can access something so much more profound and divine than physical stimulation and excitement.
Since listening to Serge Benhayon my husband and I have gone to another level in our relationship together, we know with out doubt that there is so much more to us being human- husband and wife. When we bring divinity into a relationship we bring in the universe and more. And that is when it is a blessing for all to see
I love how time and again we are brought back to just how sacred, delicate and gorgeous we are through every discussion Serge Benhayon engages in.
I like the hermaphrodite conversation, it’s not something I hear very often!
It is gorgeous listening to Serge Benhayon and being able to see how every aspect of life could be lived in sacredness. We are divine multidimensional beings yet we have been living so far from the graceful expression that we are from.
An most awesome healing to listen to this video episode. It re-ignites the love I know so well deep down and how I have always been aware of this lack of love in sex. And how this multidimension (love) needs to be brought back into our lives: in our every day moves. Now life gets to be joyfull! Oh yes.
Danna Elmalah, this episode shows humanity how we have made life very functional, and so we are all missing on on the depth and quality that can be had by all of us. But while we withdraw from life so as not to get hurt then we are missing out on the multidimension (love) that is constantly being offered by the universe.
There is so much world wide lies and corruption, bastardisation around what sex is and for, this interview blows all that out of the water and takes us to the truth that confirms the divinity we are all from.
And it touches in me something I know very deeply to be true. It is profound and at the same time super practical and simply makes sense.
These conversations are educational in a way that breaks what we have perceived the common norms to be. I am so glad that somebody is talking about sex and making love in this way because I what we have in our society at the moment is definitely not something worth celebrating.
Our society is so over sexualised in its interpretation of everything. Anything now is so laced with it that everyone has become wary to express natural affection and love. This just doesn’t feel right. There is a vast difference between sex and making love or indeed sex and the natural expression of love – the fact that they can be confused or that that naturalness is laced with the other says a lot about the consciousness we allow to rule, but very much to the detriment of us all.
Serge Benhayon is prepared to lift the lid on humanity and expose the rot we are all living in and with. By exposing the rotten way we treat ourselves and each other Serge also offers a different way and it is possible to feel the deep settlement within his body that this different way is possible. We may not be able to live this way just yet, but to just know there is a difference is the first step to break the stranglehold that we are all held in.
Over the 19 years Serge Benhayon has been presenting, he has regularly dismantled the societally accepted meaning of many words and in turn he has offered us the true meanings. And in this episode, he does it again, breaking down the accepted version of sensitivity, one of weakness, and replacing it with the true meaning, one of strength, a meaning which many of us, especially men would hugely benefit from knowing.
There is so much more to love than the word can convey.
This interview has woken me up to the true tenderness we can be when making love and that this quality starts in us and as it builds is naturally shared.
It makes complete sense that how we are with each other in our every day life would affect how we are with each other in the bedroom – after all we don’t have switches that can turn us on and off and turn on and off one part of our life from another. I also love how you talk about the wholesomeness of the human being.
It’s super cool that this kind of TV exists and can be watched by those who know there is more to life.
Here’s how God’s can be God’s!
And when we let ourselves feel the ‘deep end’ that this interview offers us we realise how wayward from our natural way of being together we are. Making love is an inner instinct for us all. I know I have to work hard to override this and that I do this to keep myself ‘protected’ from getting hurt. The madness is that the keeping myself apart, distant and/or ‘protected’ from others causes me the greatest pain.
I always remember when I was a child and I would get hurt, I would go into a sulk and inwardly make a pact to keep myself to myself, but the moment I would have that thought would be the most painful one, when I would feel a huge surge of pain in my chest and I would feel almost paralysed. For a long time I thought that was just part and parcel of the hurt I had felt. But now I realise that it was the pain of my choice to sever my expression and connection to others.
An interview that will change our relationship with intimacy and sex forever. Absolute gold that makes so much sense of my experiences.
Serge has just flipped the meaning of sensitivity from what we have been lead to believe what being sensitive is. I have been exploring and checking myself out in how I am with people, the way I communicate and the more I claim and feel the power and exquisiteness of who I am the more my communication with others changes. So much more to play with and see where this can really go!
Gods make love and ungods make the most reduced form of love possible.
The way I have been with myself, how I have treated boyfriends in the past and how I have been treated by boyfriends the past has not even touched on the level of respect and adoration for each other the Serge is presenting. This level of depth and communication between each other is totally possible it is just wether we are prepared to compromise or not.
I’m with you on this Natalie and it’s amazing to be shown this bar of standard. My past relationships with women have certainly fallen well below this and I am inspired by these words and by watching Serge Benhayon in his relationships to lift my own to that same level. He leads by example and that is the best form of teacher.
A true teaching on the science of making love and honouring both the male and female traits we all equally have.
It is very amazing to watch Serge Benhayon talk about beauty as the universality of a person being expressed through their physical body, because this takes away all the pressure for anyone to be picture perfect in the physical form, which leads the way for a deep deep level of self acceptance.
I love the constant invitation provided by Serge Benhayon to reconnect deeply, know and live the exquisite expression of our true essence.
The Beauty of the aspect that making love has been always about true love, all the false ideals, images, thoughts, acts etc. have been put on top of this. But in fact the love making in truth has always remained, just not lived. We come to see and feel, at least I have felt it from this episode that there is a greater call of love awaiting for us — when we allow ourselves to go deeper and truly share who we are — not just in our beds but actually in 24/7 life. Thank you Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith.
How very beautiful – to know that we can make love with each other 24/7. What we share together in bed is a reflection of what we live together each day – why wouldn’t we want this to be a true and full expression of our absolute exquisiteness and love for each other.
Union of two is a wonder to see when it is done with respect to the greater union that awaits.
The ideas we have of gender are damaging, we grow up thinking we are against each other, or that we need things of each other, rather than being prepared to offer who we are in equality and with love.
Beautifully and simply said, thank you, Samantha. It makes absolutely no sense to be adversarial with one another and to do this based on gender is properly mad.
I used to seek the act of sex for some form of fulfilment and satisfaction. This was indeed nice but having let much of this go now and not ‘needing’ sex it then becomes a celebration which is far more enriching and fulfilling and is not just in the bedroom now, but in everything we do.
It’s great to have such a simple example of how we can live in a way that does throw out that gender-based human model.
If you say something that is unpopular but true – like stating that we are responsible for our own fate in many more ways than we currently think – and we continue to state the truth in the face of enormous personal attacks, then we have a level of courage, of love for truth and humanity, that is quite extraordinary.
The girls around me growing up who had the strictest parents ended up being the most ‘out there’ wild and ‘rebellious’ teenagers I knew.
The depth that most if not all of us have not connected to with ourselves let alone our partners is something that we can’t dodge or hide from. Yet we have given it a damn good go and run of its money! That point when we get to in our lives and call it for what it is that the way we have been living is not it, their has to be more. What Serge Benhayon is presenting and living is that there is another way we can be in relationships and it starts with honesty with ourselves, which can be a bitter pill to swallow.
It’s much cooler to see how a god would live life and work from that rather than looking at the lowest form of living and trying to improve it.
There is so much hypocrisy in organised religion if it wasn’t tragic it’d be funny.
I so agree with you Michael. One day humanity will look back at these days with the atrociousness of what religious institutions have carried out and prescribed, coupled by how most of us have swallowed it all and let the doctrines seep into our societies and daily lives. I imagine they will scratch their heads and go ‘Really? How is it possible to ever fall for that?’
Their rot and hypocrisy is not even hidden anymore, yet most of us still refuse to budge from the loyalty and the power we give to them.
We study the Dark Ages in shock and amazement at what was tolerated, and yet we don’t batter an eye-lid at the abuse, corruption and endemic oppression of the truth that is so rampant in the 21st century.
It is beautiful to hear that as we continue to honour our own and another’s sensitivity there is more and more depth that can be awakened. It takes sex away from a purely functional act where stimulation or relief was the main focus.
It seems that if one prostitutes themselves it is accepted as forging a life for themselves, and if one is celibate it is respected as their choice to keep their body ‘preserved’. However, live life full of love and take all of that into the bedroom and suddenly it’s deemed as weird and out of order…. makes sense much?
It’s our right to make love and to express that love however it comes. Don’t settle for less and don’t hide it!
All shapes and kinds but offering less we are not truly living our natural connection as humans beings.
Wow, this is ground breaking for men and women, knowing that both male and female aspects are within us both and can surrender inwards to, for a more wholesome way of being with each other.
Do we act with integrity 24/7? Or do we act with integrity 7/7 and spend 17/7 indulging in our own dramas and issues?
Wow there is a whole multi-dimensional aspect to making love that includes the physical body but goes way beyond the physical when we allow ourselves to be fully seen by another person.
Serge Benhayon talks about sex without hesitation or awkwardness but in the full embracing of its power and beauty, as a foregone conclusion of living in true intimacy throughout the day with one’s partner and not just in the bedroom.
Thank you Serge and Rebecca for going there – where others fear to tread and yet it is something we all know at heart. For example we know there is much more to making love than what is commonly portrayed and it is ok to express that not in a way that either person feels rejected but to say there is more and that is something grand.
Nicola I agree with you humanity is being offered something far grander than the mundane way of life we are expecting. Recent events have shown that we are now prepared to accept far less than we had before. So these topics of conversation that Serge and Rebecca have are now even more important because we seem to be accepting even less of life than we had before and we are being controlled more now than ever before. By bringing everything back to our bodies we can take back control of ourselves.
Surely we must all know the mechanical orgasm whilst it may serve some purpose is not IT. Thank you taking making love to a whole other level in this conversation that honours the whole.
And offers so many more ways to make love in addition to the physical act.
A reminder that there is always more than we choose to feel and appreciation.
I had not heard of the term ‘toxic masculinity’ before watching this interview, but Rebecca Asquith does such a great job of describing it, and how it has come about. I really appreciate Rebecca’s clear and accessible use of language, it’s like she is always speaking in a way that anyone can understand – even with some pretty complicated or big subjects, Rebecca always communicates with clarity.
What a revolutionary episode, well just like the rest of them really. You can scratch your head and go what do you mean energetic sex which is immortal beings making love, Gods making Love. How Serge has shared this it makes total and absolute sense and for me a huge confirmation as to why I never settled for the function of sex. We are capable of so much more if we so choose to connect and go deeper with it. Wholesome indeed.
Such a beautiful conversation with so many take aways. For example a great section on sensitivity and how it is a strength and also the power of surrender – how much of our language has been bastardised even including the word sex which is not a dirty word.
It is great bringing back so much love, understanding and honouring back to areas that have been turned into a caricature.
I agree – how many see sex as a goal oriented act rather than a meeting and a surrender and an opportunity to be sensitive.
Yes, it was super powerful to hear Serge talk about surrender and how it allows us to deepen our connection to ourselves and the other – so much more beautiful and intimate.
There is a difference between function and purpose.
Just as there is a difference between love and what we are sold as love.
There is something disgusting about most pornography and that effect seems often to be quite deliberate as the discomfort or even pain of the actors seems to be part of the attraction.
If everything is made about Love then we have no need for anything that is not.
Understanding this one point alone has the potential to transform all our relationships.
When I feel and connect to the multidimensionality that is available to us and then hear Serge present on sensitivity, it makes absolute complete and utter sense. It’s time to deepen my adoration for myself and enjoy this connection with the All through the form that I have.
Here in one simple episode Serge Benhayon restores the innocence to the whole topic of sex and making love, making central to the discussion the fact that no matter what our gender, we are all equality tender, divine and precious. It is these qualities that when lived in the day make the physical act such a beautiful intimate activity.
I am with you there Alison, I was on the edge of my seat listening and will be watching it again. I can recall as a child and teenager desperately wanting to talk about sex and relationships with my parents and other adults but sensing it was taboo. I always saw it as a little wrong and bad but to listen to Serge and Rebecca discuss with so much awareness, naturalness and celebration it was a healing on so many levels.
Loved every bit of what was presented, apart from squirming with some things, the majority was a confirmation of what I’ve felt in my body as woman and from my husband and what we have shared on together. What a beautiful wholesomeness you bring to the topic of sex and making love where it is something that can be a celebration and not the uncomfortable and awkward way it has been dealt with in society.
If we can develop our relationship with sex founded on what Rebecca and Serge share in this interview we will change lives. As I consider this I realise how much would be impacted… destructive body image, domestic violence, sexual assault… the list is long.
Great to hear what sensitivity truly is – to express in full from the point of showing how amazing we truly are. This really does re-frame the word and use of it and makes me consider how we have misused and avoided sensitivity – but how vital it is.
And blows out the water the idea that it is weak or submissive, in fact the opposites are true.
I love how what Serge Benhayon always reflects is not just that we are so much more than this physical life and the 3 dimensional expression, but also that every single aspect of life on this planet can be engaged with in a manner that absolutely honours our divine multidimensional essence.
We all know we are delaying the inevitable of living as one, hence why there is so much force needed to keep up enthralled in the delay for as long as possible.
Yes, and those forces are needing to be stronger, hence the constant push for porn that is even more affective.
It’s a shutting down of the man’s sensitivity that incarcerates both sexes in a toxic way of being. Not only does the man rely on how a woman looks, moves, speaks to pique their interest, but for the women to to be lead to believe that this is how she gets attention/liked/love. It is a self fulfilling cycle, or a mutually generated lie that this is how it is. It is not. When we hold on to our sensitivity, we can feel and sense so much more about the opposite sex, that the pictures, beliefs, stereotypes and ideals get blown out of the way. This is a massive revelation for every relationship on earth.
I agree, Rosanna. A truly intimate relationship knows no bounds…it is a joyful and often playful way of being together, as co-explorers of love and the deepening experience of oneness.
Anyone that presents in an open and rich way such as this is gold in my books.
Now this is what I call true sex education and not the watered-down version which has been presented for way too long. And the way Serge Benhayon presented, with such sensitivity and honesty, allowed me, the viewer, to feel the truth in every word and not to be turned off by the depth and breadth of the discussion, a discussion that in the past would have had me feeling very uncomfortable with what it was exposing.
Bringing this level of honouring and regard to the conversation is the only way we will be offering true sex education. Talking about function without the essence of who we are is at best lazy, but at worst a deeply irresponsible way of relating to one another.
The way that Serge Benhayon talks about sex and making love is tremendous in this day and age, where the harsh sexualisation of both men and women has become so prevalent, leaving many sweet and gentle people in a state of settling for what they can get by way of some form of intimacy – even if this means having functional sex only without true connection with one another.
I so love the way Serge Benhayon keeps calling out the way we cheapen things and reduce the magnificence of our true expression. It is amazing to hear all the ways we are stuffing things up, yet be so deeply honoured as the beauty of the inner essence which we could be choosing, that you come away inspired and feeling like a million dollars.
Drugs are used to relief, escape, bury tension…and for some, that tension is so acute, that they become addicted. Sex can be used in exactly the same way and thus we also have sex addicts. Now, not all would consider themselves sex addicts, nor would many who drink alcohol consider themselves alcoholics, nor would many who use recreational narcotics, consider themselves drug addicts, nor would many who consume huge amounts for food consider themselves food addicts, likewise coffee drinkers, smokers, etc… But in each of these cases, whether you are ‘managing’ your vice or not, it is unarguable that it is not supporting you or a true choice for your body. Sex is no different. But as this brilliant episode (and some of the others) illustrates, there is a different way; a way that truly supports, deepens, evolves and nourishes us. Not something that could be said of any of the aforementioned ‘drugs’.
True Otto, there is a different way to live that truly supports, deepens, evolves and nourishes us. Understanding our ‘addictions’ and addressing them we allow ourselves more room to make love in life.
How cool is that, getting a far deeper understanding of what sensitivity truly is and what is on offer when we surrender to this. Show me the mountain, because I want that in my life and appreciate that I have to have this sensitivity with myself first and foremost.
The topic of supply and demand comes up again and this is so important to understand that there has to be a demand to encourage a supply – and in the case of porn, we go to the extreme of what it is not because we are not bringing love into our every movement.
How do you stop divinity in action? … Ban the action! Fortunately that quality lives on no matter what travesties we descend to, ever present with us.
Doesn’t every person truly want to be made love too? If it is presented this way, if love is something we can bring into each movement and not just the physical act, then what a way to be in a relationship. So it is time to start living and reflecting what we all naturally want.
For everything we choose to do in a wayward ungodly manner, there is a God-ly choice not being taken.
A very beholding observation that shows we are only ever one choice away from returning to our truth. This is the case with every movement; toward and as the God we already are…or in direct resistance to that divine pull?
With sex, just like pretty much every other area of the physical life, it seems that people are feeling more and more acutely that this is not it, that however hard they try it is just not enough. So how long will we carry on falling for the next gimmick and hoping the next fad will be it, while the rate of desperation, depression and senseless abuse of one another keeps increasing, without admitting that for real THIS IS NOT IT. These conversations with Serge Benhayon are Gold. They are a fabulous confirmation that what most of us are feeling IS true. There is far more to us and what is more, we could be living it today – right here right now.
This needs to be on mainstream television for the wider the audience the quicker can all understand how important this subject is and how greatly it can change our relationships to become deeper and more meaningful.
Agree Kev, something that we don’t give due care and attention to and would transform all our relationships and society. We need to understand this.
Yes, this is very different tv viewing to what we are generally offered these days…Serge and Rebecca share an in depth and no holds barred conversation about what really matters in life.
Its quite revelatory to see that when we make it just about the physical we can be actually mystifying something because we don’t take into account the whole picture, all that we are physically, energetically and divinely.
I love this how Serge is offering us to re-imprint our relationships with an openness, honesty and treating each other as equals. To actually honour what we know and can fee is possible but we have settled and accepted as ok when it has just been about sex. I know this level of love, respect and honour is possible and this is what my next relationship will be based on. To the best of our ability and being prepared to explore, learn and communicate everything that is there to be looked at. There are sooooo many conditioned ways and ideals and beliefs that need to be lovingly called out and it starts first with our own relationship with ourselves. Step by step saying Yes to more Love and Truth for all.
If we are equally in essence both male and female then clearly when we live that essence this is expressed energetically in whatever it is we do in life, whether that is making love, arranging a vase of flowers or writing an email.
I love how Serge is reminding us, that two people can make love on a much deeper level, it doesn’t have to be just functional. One key element is to surrender to oneself and to the other person. The moment we chase an outcome, the magic can’t happen.
Man, the pressure we are put under out in the world to perform or achieve a certain outcome is horrendous. What I love more than anything about these interviews is they all say: Here, live your own way, you don’t need to conform to the cult of individuality that has enthralled us all for so long.
Before the new rules about showing smoking in movies, almost every single movie that ever showed a sex scene, or the end of a sex scene, would see the man (more often than the woman, though it was also often both) reach over to the bedside table and light up a cigarette. If the act of sex had been everything that everyone trumps it up to be, why oh why would you immediately need the ‘relief’ of a cigarette? Surely we would feel such a deep settlement in our body and such a deep connection to our partner that the last thing we’d be wanting to do is ‘relieve’ ourselves from that feeling? Surely? So perhaps it’s possible that sex isn’t all that it is cracked up to be? Perhaps sex isn’t it? Perhaps there is more? This interview and the other couple previous to this are game-changers in introducing us to the depth, joy, power, fun and amazingness of making love – from which no-one would ever want the ‘relief’ of a cigarette.
I never actually looked at the smoking link before, but yes, what you are saying makes so much sense – like surely the most intimate and full-of-love moment would not need a moment to then ‘have a break’. Surely that moment should be followed by – that was amazing! Now, where to from here?
Incredible to have this level of truth, integrity and wisdom available to humanity at the click of a button. Now that is a rare technological advance that actually supports humanity!
I love how every conversation with Serge Benhayon invites you to be more magnificent in your expression than you have so far dreamed of.
I’m not sure about anyone else, or should I say I am sure about everyone else, who would not want to surrender past the mechanical part of an orgasm? Yes please!
From the start of this conversation I was riveted. In an era where porn is the normal how refreshing and in fact downright joyful it is to hear a true conversation about sex and making love. We are so much more than just physical human beings.
Yes it is exquisite to have conversations that keep reminding us that “We are so much more than just physical human beings” and I just love how Serge Benhayon TV is showing that every aspect of human life can be revisited and our relationship with it deepened to this level.
This is worth watching on repeat it’s so full of beauty and wisdom. Such revelation about the physical and energetic body in an relationship really calls me to be more responsible and understand the greater depth of connection and love this can bring.
I agree if we are honest we all know that functional physical sex alone is not enough and will never be enough on its own.
‘…the magnificence of true union…’ A beautiful quote from an inspiring interview. Not caught up in performance or a constricted version of physical relief, making love is not only a whole body experience but a whole way of living; the physical act being a confirmation of what is already sure and established in a relationship.
As always, in every episode, there is soooooo much presented here and Serge and Rebecca compliment each other beautifully in that they literally do not leave a stone unturned anything that is briefly mentioned is then discussed and taken to a far deeper level. Two things that really stood out for me listening to it this time was ‘it is the couples responsibility to bring back adoration into the relationship’ and ‘the supplier is not the villain it is the demand that is the villain’. Like we really need to talk about this especially the later, that alone is a huge reflection and discussion for us to have and initiation for change.
Amazing. As always Serge Benhayon TV asks the viewer to go to a much deeper level of awareness, consideration and responsibility. There is zero holding back here and we, the world, need to hear this because we know exactly what is being presented here we just do not allow ourselves to currently talk this way.
This is fantastic to demystify what is key in the process of our relationship with sex and making love. How there is two ways this can be experienced and that most of us have not connected to the fact that this is possible and available to us. We can’t make love unless we are in love with ourselves and have a deep connection and relationship to our inner essence. This is what I have been developing and deepening and look forward to celebrate another in this way together.
As children we live being very aware of our natural sensitivity – over the years we build more protection to hide it in order to not be humiliated, teased or to avoid feeling hurts.
I love what Serge Benhayon presents in this interview about sensitivity not being about sharing all our woes and problems but it is actually to show our amazingness.
I agree Stephanie it completely flips it on its head.
I love the constant invitation in everything Serge Benhayon presents for us to connect to and live the precious and exquisiteness that is in every single one of us.
As always, these conversations between Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith expose many old and deeply ingrained beliefs and ideals in the way we choose to live. Rejection of ourself is quite a common trait that Serge has now turned completely on its head to reveal there is another way –
‘start adoring yourself – this transforms the energetic quality pouring through your body’
Yes I love that call Ariana, time to up the way we live each day so it naturally comes to the way we make love with ourselves and with another.
There is a connection and honouring mentioned here that is truly stunning for both people in a relationship and all I can feel is that surely this is something we would all want to experience.
We don’t explore the magnificence of true union between the male and female enough. In fact there are so many forums, sites, programs and activities that tend to completely take us the other way. This conversation between Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith is so confirming and honouring of the absolute divinity that is the truth of who we are. Very gorgeous.
These episodes are true education, intelligent life, sex and relationship lessons that restore the depth, wisdom and beauty to our purpose here on Earth.
I love that word ‘wholesome’. There is something very nurturing and inclusive about this word and that is that is leaves nothing out. It includes very much the physical aspect or that which we see, but it never discounts or leaves behind the very important energetic aspect of who we are. Wholesomness puts everyone on equal footing.
Yes. The word wholesomeness is entirely inclusive and there is an unsulliable purity to it that is strong and inspiring.
Our sensitivity is such a strength that we all have. A very beautiful and confirming conversation on who we are and what is very much possible.
This is an amazing interview which takes sex or making love to another much deeper level of understanding – that it is not just a physical functional act but an energetic interplay as well and we need to consider this aspect if we are going to have truly amazing, deeply meaningful sex that goes way beyond physical satisfaction. The potential here is huge.
Throughout these video interviews there are topics, long held as taboo for discussion in this open and wholesome way. A beautiful enrichment to our lives in truly making love rather than ‘making do’ with functional sex for relief.
Yes and this topic is one that is held with a kind of taboo why is that? I have noticed that when there is a pushing against that taboo then the sex that is spoken about is dominating and challenging in a control and verging on abuse way, not in a deepening and honouring way such as spoken about here. This interview definitely has me looking afresh at what is possible in a relationship.
I love what is expressed here about orgasms, not because they are a goal or outcome, but because we so often misinterpret what the body shares and do not consider ourselves with love. We are sensitive, divine and gentle beings and we are here to feel it and live it. I love what Serge shares about the surrender here as a woman, it is not a weakness but a power.
Yes agree, we do know deep down there is so much more to connect and surrender to within ourselves, our bodies and with each other. To be open and willing to go there takes relationship to a whole new level of awakening.
Love the title of this video, ‘The Gods making Love’. Do we settle for mechanical sex or a deeper connection and willingness to be transparent with each other, to truly surrender and make love from the depth of our being. Thank you Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Ashquith for discussing so openly about the difference between sex and making love… and the ‘energetic hermaphrodite.’
This conversation and the depth of awareness it invites is so deeply confirming and honouring of the grandness that we are a part of and are also in essence. Yes the title ‘The Gods making Love’ is a perfect title.
I love this topic of men and women having equal responsibility to lift each other up, to allow the other to see the reflection of love, it is so beautiful. Every true choice is our responsibility and it allows the other to say yes.
Amazing, this is a revolution in relationships. We often have such unhealthy attitudes to the physical movements of making love. Even if we say we like it, as I have, we have conditions, expectations and ideas and issues around it that are more of a priority than the actual connection of two beings. This blows this out of the water, we are here to be self responsible and connected, intimate. No separation and fantasies, real deal love.
What I love about these interviews is that no topic is a no-go zone. Everything can be discussed playfully, light-hearted and always bringing to the fore the power we have and the responsibility we have in making life about love.
Such a sensitive topic, yet it’s handled with so much care and playfulness. There are so many taboos around sex, around masturbation, around everything intimate. These conversations lift the vail on our “dark” corners of behind closed doors, we have a lot to ponder on as a society.
I agree, a subject that for most of us can bring up issues, handled beautifully, inspiring to consider how we can be in relationships and the purpose of our relationships, and that we do not need to conform to ideas prevalent, but feel the truth for ourselves, from our bodies.
A refreshing conversation that allows bucket loads of honesty to be shared. Not an ounce of sensational journalism noted here!
A necessary and long overdue conversation that takes us beyond our physical genders into understanding and appreciating our sensitivity, beauty and tenderness, intimate qualities which form the true ingredients of making Love.
I love the resonance of truth resounding through my body when hearing to the countless pearls of wisdom Serge Benhayon delivers in every word spoken and also felt in the quality of every movement he makes. Multidimensionality is now being appreciated and accepted as new-normal.
This is such an awesome and complete interview in every way. True TV that is enriching and opens new discussion, possibility and learning. This is what we need more of – open and deeply honest discussions that go to what is constructed so tightly that it is almost impossible to see what is really going on. Let’s talk about sex and make it a universal discussion that is based on love and understanding.
Yes I agree we need to be having these kind of honest conversations and explorations about such topics much more as a society.
This presents such a different way to look at relationships and sex – in that there is a way it has been done that is not loving or true, but that it is possible to have a sexual experience and surrender to this as a man and a woman.
‘Who said sensitivity is not robust and power-full?’ ‘With an enormous amount of authority that allows you to express to a depth that has never been known before and it is almost like you have the backing of the Universe to express that.’ BOOM there we have it Serge Benhayon has just given humanity the true meaning of sensitivity. Sounds frigging awesome to me ✨
I love this comment and your ‘BOOM’ it is indeed awesome, beyond words, what is shared here and loving you appreciation of it. Empowerment and true lived confidence through knowing we are sensitive beings is without doubt the most supportive choice I have considered in my life time.
There is no subject that Serge Benhayon can not talk on and bring a wider understanding than just the physical appearance. I’ve loved hearing of the word ‘wholesome’ being used in the context of sex and making love.
How different could life be for us all knowing that in everything we do in life we have the choice to make love to ourselves or not. In that act of making love it is to hold ourselves so precious and surely we all deserve to feel this that which lies within us to bring it into our everyday normal.
It sometimes makes me sad to see how much we reduce the grandness of life to fit our 3-dimensional comfort zones.
When so much is offered in this episode to ponder on the bigger picture that can be lived rather than idolised.
Another episode that asks us to surrender to our profoundly beautiful sensitivity and tenderness within both genders, hence deepening our aptitude to be intimate, open and honest with all. This is true sex education, as it begins with who we are first and foremost, which once really connected to, inherently guides the quality of all our intimate relationships.
Again and again listening to Serge Benhayon present I find that true understanding of any aspect of human life starts from there: it begins with who we are first and foremost. It involves recognising the limitations we have put in place as a result of not honouring our divine essence, as well as realising the exquisiteness of the potential we have already within us.
What is presented here in this interview is an understanding of sex and love that is an alternative and true antidote to the degrading porn culture that is rampant and wide spread in present society.
Love hearing Serge explains and share the true meaning of sensitivity. For how long as it been mis-understood and re-interupted. The more I take the time to connect within to my Soul and feel how deeply beautiful and precious I am the more the sensitivity naturally just happens when I am with or without someone around me.
The meaning of sensitivity as explained by Serge Benhayon – to express all that one feels with authority – gives a real sense of solidity, honesty, integrity and power.
This has unravelled the bastardised versions of authority – hard, cold, aloof and controlling!
Great to listen to this again, its so interesting how different the description of the orgasm is when its approached from the perspective of humans as multidimensional beings (not just physical), that a woman falls deeper into love with herself as a surrender to all she is – amazing.
When two bodies meet they have sex.
When two souls meet they make love.
Bringing that which is heavenly in and through the physical form whether that be through the physical act of making love or simply by making a cup of tea, cooking a meal, attending a meeting, doing some work etc. is indeed a most godly act and one we are all capable of. Thank you Serge Benhayon for making multidimensionality so normal.
And thank you for living it so normally Liane Mandalis ?, imperfectly so.
Serge’s composure and ease within himself is so inspiring to feel and watch. He is so humble with the amazing life he lives and the majestic beauty he experiences each and every day. Yet he does not hold anything back. This is the ill with comfort. Most of us seek comfort from the horrors we experience, and for those that are comfortable enough, they will see that they live an amazing life and not seek anything greater much less be open to the fact that there is in fact far more that can be lived each and every day.
Oh my we have dropped ourselves sooooo far below who we truly are. We have covered our true divineness with layer after layer after layer. Every time I listen to Serge I become aware of yet another layer that I could choose to let go of.
Beautiful clarification on the topics of sensitivity, its power and universality, and on adoration and the fact that it is sorely needed in our relationships, all of them.
Sensitivity being a strength is such a great thing to experience in relationships because we can get to know each other deeper, as Serge says, so that we can confirm them as beyond human, a huge empowerment. When we are sensitive, we can feel the depth of beauty in everyone we meet.
Hear hear Serge Benhayon the mystification of Sex from the functionality that we have created it to be. This is exactly what we need to be talking about when we stop and look at a world where sex comes in the most cheap, disrespectful and degrading form that it is today. The younger generations are being asked and exposed to so much at such a young age and we are all apart of this explosive bastardisation of what sex really is. Love these episodes Serge and Rebecca, thankyou.
From the beautiful truth of this interview, it is so clear to understand how we had deviated away from what is true and delicate in our relationships. What we live and express is a far lesser quality (and I might add, abusive ) to what which we could otherwise experience.
Making love used to have cheesy connotations of romantic gestures that were actually sleazy but in a disguised way; and sex was fraught with guilt. But listening to this I feel what a beautiful experience making love is and how it deeply honours both parties. So much rubbish surrounds making love and sex Hearing the depth of what’s possible in this interview I feel inspired to deeply love myself.
We have indeed lived through a very long period where the church has demonised sex and in many religions the woman was shunned because she is considered unclean when having her periods to the point where she had to leave the community for fear she would turn the milk sour! And this is still a phenomenon in some countries today. How can we honour the woman to be in her sacredness when life is conspired to be against sacredness? If the woman is being rejected for all that she can be, it feels to me that then that leaves the man feeling rejected too. So we have made a seemingly perfect set up where both parties feel rejected and can be individual and not come together in true union in the act of making love, which to me is the union of two bringing the universe back into our world.
I’ve never heard the topic of sex and making love discussed with such beauty and understanding, if it’s discussed at all. Discussions are never so open and respectful of genders. They usually come with ideological bias, theory and often prejudices fuelled by hurts. After listening to this I’m inspired, inspired to be much more loving because it is so beautiful.
In relationships we all have the potential to develop at a deeper level beyond functional living together and having sex. There is a joy in living with appreciation of each other, enjoying the reflections offered to us every day, either reminding us what we need to learn or let go of, or confirming that we are living the love that we truly are.
And thus, it never gets boring as there are always greater depths of intimacy to develop, more adoration to express and more sensitivity to enjoy and enrich our life.
Wow so awesome to hear the true meaning of sensitivity. This blows it out of the water on what we have been lead to believe. Surrendering and being willing to express and share the exquisite emanation within us something that we can all start to explore and return to our natural state of being.
It’s amazing how many more dimensions there are to life than what we make the norm.
As is it devastating that we have made life here on Earth so one dimensional in terms of the reduced way of living we have introduced and abided by and the absolute compression of our senses we have allowed under the guise of ‘the norm’.
This episode is kind of ‘x-rated’ in the sense that x is the part of life we have wanted to censor and cut out. Serge and Rebecca go there to the awkwardness we have with our own depth and delicacy. So very beautiful if you can remain open to hearing this.
We do need to look beyond the physical to see the truth of life. I see this constantly in my everyday. We are very much cutting ourselves of from something that we naturally do by limiting ourselves to the physical.
What a beautiful sharing on energetic intimacy in our everyday life and moments making for true equality in making love together shared in full transparency and loving yourself and each other and revolutionising the idea of sex to being so much less than what we are all capable of by our living way and the multidimensionality of who we all are.
Talking about sex as a conquest makes sense because throughout the centuries men have raped women as part of war and conquest. Sadly this has been remembered by the female psyche and that can mean that for some women any physical approach by a man is seen as an imposition. Energetic Rape is an interesting way to describe the way both women and men have used the act of sex to gain control, to manipulate, to get gratification. To appreciate the ‘richness of another being’ requires a depth in our relationships that extends way beyond what happens in bed.
There is a lot for us to learn about this aspect of our relationships, the importance of surrender to a ‘rich and wholesome experience between two people’ and the importance of how we are with each other during the day, the adoring that takes away the self worth issues, that enables us to meet, not in a mechanical way, but in true love.
Amazing how much is covered in this conversation and how sensible, sensitive and empowering it is. How beneficial it would be for us all to have more conversations like this.
Thank you Rebecca and Serge for going there and a very important subject that we don’t talk about. This video greatly honours the man with woman in all of us.
You guys are incredible!
Superb interview and very intimate should we say!
Thank you God for this video, it brings us back to what making love has always been about. We have been deviated away from this truth for a long time, even though inside us we can feel the truth. Becoming honest about it and how the model has been working and how we have been living is key. Lets not be afraid and actually be open and speak what is true for us; what we truly feel, what we truly want and what ways we need to let go of..
It goes to show that self-loathing and a lack of self-worth affect every area of our lives including the act of making of love or lack of. It makes me appreciate that when we let ourselves go the knock on effect it has on all our relationships. It’s not about exploiting arrogance and saying ‘this is my body and I can do whatever I like’ but about bringing or offering an adored and deeply appreciated body to be enjoyed by another.
Keep them coming and guess what, they sure do. Not holding back one iota! Serge and Rebecca are having a conversation about a topic most could find a little offbeat. But once you start to listen to them you can see with the clarity why certain things are certain. What a fascinating subject and to be able to surrender to it is something very magical.
The depth offered is this conversation on sex is very beautiful. Its very rare if at all that we hear ordinarily conversations on sex around the quality of this one. Congratulations Serge and Rebecca on going there.
Indeed we need more conversations like this one, where we discuss all the aspects of life and our being and not keep intimacy at a level of sexual function when it is so much more.
There are so many people having problems with their ‘sex life’, I have read in the past the many questions on forums about this in the women’s magazines and websites. The thing is that the answers are always about the functional or the visual stimulation as in that the woman in question should do more effort to turn the man on or do this or pose like that etc. But what is presented here is that it is about the whole way of living of the couple together that needs to be looked at when there is issues with making love or when it does not feel satisfying. This makes so much sense and as said brings so much not only to the bedroom but the whole relationship in every part of your life.
Porn is indeed a massive problem in society today but it has come about because of our collective choice by many to make it so. Combined with what Serge shares about sensitivity and its true strength, and power we can see that of course sensitivity has been made into a pathetic and ‘weak’ word because without it lived many can get away with abhorrent and very atrocious acts of abuse that fly under the radar of most because without sensitivity = more ignorance.
As we denigrate sensitivity into being something weak and pathetic we will still crave connection and want to experience what we have shut ourselves off to. It is no wonder we will seek experiences where we can still feel something at least. But as we cut ourselves off from our sensitivity what we crave becomes more brutal so the increase in porn and more extreme versions makes sense sadly.
I love the immense honouring and care brought to sex and making love. Conversations with such depth and foundation are so needed as part of the sex education offered at school.
Sex education will never be the same once we give our sensitivity and delicateness free reign to express and inform our movements. True power is in our sensitivity and not in beating our chest or playing at being the strongman.
I love how deep these interviews go on whatever the subject matter may be.
As with all the other Serge Benhayon TV episodes this made great sense to me, that there is a profound difference between the purely physical function of sex, and the coming together of two beings sharing themselves in the fullness of their universality. There is so much more on offer than just function and physical experiences.
“So who will take us to the ‘deep end’, to encourage us to explore the magnificent gifts that await in the depths of true surrender, where making love and the Universe itself are inextricably intertwined and inseparable?” In one two words – Serge Benhayon. This wonderful man, who cares so deeply for humanity, once again offers us such incredible insights into what making love is truly about and in so doing deconstructing the lies and beliefs we have been fed, and in many cases have chosen to live, for way too long.
When a woman renounces that the performance or function of sex to seek relief is not it, then it opens the door for both the man and woman or a couple of the same sex to explore what it feels like to make love, and what it actually means to make love as opposed to having sex from a foundation of a livingness, based on the true meaning of the word love.
Very, very, beautiful – thank you Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith. I love that Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith are bringing forth a topic which most shy away from for various reasons such as sex being a dirty word to openly present for discussion in a world where pornography is rife within our communities.
Most of us don’t even realise that there is a difference between making love and the sex most relationships go for. We still have a lot to learn about the similarities between men and women and, although I think it will be a long time before the ‘energetic hermaphrodite’ becomes fully understood.