Episode 5 - The State of Play Between Men and Women

When 1 woman a week is killed by a current or former partner in Australia and when men’s violence towards other men is even more prevalent again, what is truly going on for men?

Boys are born with a natural tenderness and fragility, so what is being fostered in our society that would render men capable of domestic violence many years later? And why do some women say they like ’tough guys?’

In this sensitive and considered interview, Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith explore the state of play between men and women and the essence of what a true expression of gender could look like, beyond the manufactured male/female ideals we are conditioned by.


  • Melinda Knights February 11, 2020   Reply →

    The beauty of a true philosopher is they can act like a compass and support humanity when they are lost, to navigate back to a true way of living and being. To me that is Serge Benhayon, and my life is reflection of how profound and practical his work is – it’s all encompassing and touches every part of life.

  • Mary September 17, 2019   Reply →

    When the very makeup of our society is wholly against what we call our true nature it has been very difficult to believe that there will ever be a change in the way that we treat each other. Then along comes Serge Benhayon and proves by his everyday living that there can be a way to live where we can respect each other and live with integrity these two small words respect and integrity have been lost in our society but they will come back as will the words true love, being divine and knowing our true origins. The tide is running and cannot be stopped.

  • Melinda Knights August 29, 2019   Reply →

    Got to love that final cheeky smile by Serge! Thank you Rebecca you’re a delight to listen to also. It’s a great term “the truth of our beingness” as it explains so much about why our behaviours and persona don’t match who we were as kids, as we’ve created versions of genders with an expectation we have to mould ourselves into those. We see the outplay of it all in life and a very unhealthy society lacking harmony with each other as we are completely out of harmony with ourselves.

  • Mary June 12, 2019   Reply →

    If we can grasp the bomb that Serge Benhayon dropped that we have generated a reality that we consider is real but we have generated the reality when actually the reality is the complete opposite to what is real. Then may be we will understand we have been living a false way of life for so many aeons that we have made it our truth but it doesn’t stop it from being a lie and a false reality. This is massive and if we can grasp the enormity of this then maybe we can start to heal the gross lie we have all be generating.

  • Mary June 12, 2019   Reply →

    We have definitely in my experience forgotten that there is a being within the human-being that actually is the greater part of who we are. Why we have set about generation after generation to crush the being has been made clear to us. Our spirit is the part that is crushing the being as it seeks mastery over our body and it is the Ageless Wisdom in this era brought to humanity by Serge Benhayon that explains this and more. I can say it has taken me a long, long time to feel this divine being within me and now I can feel it I would not want to harm it or anyone else because I now know they also have this precious being within them. Imagine how life would be if we all got to feel our divine being again, it would completely change how we interact with each other. To me the first step is to gain mastery over our wayward spirit.

  • Viktoria May 8, 2019   Reply →

    As a woman, there is so much I can say about this topic. There is such a dynamic between the two genders which is so toxic and so harmful for another. How many of us women love the men in our lives simply for the glorious beings that they are? How many of us go to them in need, in the need to be protected, cared for and loved? We lacked that as little girls from our fathers, brothers & grandfathers so then we go out and look for a husband who can replace that lack, fulfill the void. In that need we place demands on men, their shoulders feel burdened with the need to be a provider, to care for the woman & that pressure can lash out in many different ways. We don’t realise that when we behave in such a way towards men, we are constantly nibbling away at their heart – we build their insecurities, and support them to feel worthless. All of these attributes lead to men who are not sensitive, who are dismissive and sometimes misogynist. Of course it is men’s role to take responsibility and not allow these expectations to affect them in such a manner, but it is our responsibility to not add fuel to the fire and learn to love ourselves without the need of man to confirm us.

  • Melinda Knights April 7, 2019   Reply →

    We don’t value the being at its essence and it’s qualities, and so we allow a moulding process to inform the genders about how they are to be, but we’ve missed the fact that we are born fully formed as beings, and that can just be left to be, and nurtured and fostered to express in full when needed.

  • Ariana March 12, 2019   Reply →

    Intimate partner violence has never been at such high levels globally, yet what are we doing to change it? Are we teaching our children to be sensitive, tender and caring, or are they still living the violence of sport and having to ‘man up’ or toughen up to the harshness of our societies?

    • Mary November 8, 2019   Reply →

      Ariana from what I witnessed the other day we are not supporting our children to remain in their sensitivity. I walked past a mother pushing a young child in a ‘buggy’ and the child sneezed and the mother said to the child,
      “serves you bl…y right I told you to put a warmer coat on”.
      The child did have a coat on actually but the words were spoken with such venom, I could feel the child cringe and contract. I know from personal experience that when a child starts to withdraw from life because they feel unsafe then there is a high chance they will have issues with life as they grow older. The mother is obviously struggling herself. It seems to me we have put our focus on education and based our intelligence on what degree we have above raising and supporting our children to know who they are. If the mother has not been supported in this way how is it possible for her to support her own child growing up? And so we perpetuate the misery we live in.

    • Melinda Knights February 11, 2020   Reply →

      What concerns me is the attitude “boys will be boys” when young boys are aggressive and violent.

  • Ariana March 3, 2019   Reply →

    What is possible in the relationship between men and women is now a whole different ball game. Serge Benhayon sets the scene for a whole different way of relating.

  • Ariana March 3, 2019   Reply →

    Having an honouring relationship with ourselves and each other is spectacular, when you consider how bad it has been for way too long with women dying every week. A change has to come and this change is lived by Serge Benhayon. The respect and honouring he gives to people is second to none.

  • Michael Brown February 25, 2019   Reply →

    True love between and a man and woman is such an inspiring sight to behold.

  • Melinda Knights February 10, 2019   Reply →

    I have heard a lot of talk about gender equality over my life, and what Serge shares about the commonality of our essence, which is then expressed a little differently through the male or female body, makes sense. So often I hear gender equality based on function and performance, what we can do in the world and our physicality, not the essence of who we are. It’s easy to see our inner essence in babies and children, there is a strong sense of their qualities like tenderness, love and delicateness, and they may express it a little differently but the beauty of who they are is very much the same regardless of gender.

  • Michael Brown February 10, 2019   Reply →

    Separation is the common theme here, whether it be colour, creed, religion, race or gender, the more we rely on these for identification, the more we will find ourselves in a world where love is not the precedent.

  • Michael Brown February 9, 2019   Reply →

    I’ve always recognised that people learn behaviours and traits, and so it’s difficult to label a person with an action given that we, as a society, have taught them that.

  • Ariana February 6, 2019   Reply →

    ‘Sensitivity is in all of us’ says Serge Benhayon, what a truth to present to a world that is bent on staying as hard as possible to avoid what is so true.

  • Ariana February 5, 2019   Reply →

    Sensitivity is in all of us – if we all accepted this, the world would be a very different place than it is today.

  • Ingrid Ward February 4, 2019   Reply →

    What Serge Benhayon so wisely shares in this episode, that men and women are equally sensitive, delicate and tender, totally blows apart one of the hugely damaging beliefs that to be a man you have to toughen up, a belief that has only served to widen the gap that has been falsely built between the two genders. So just imagine if every boy was raised to know and to retain his natural qualities, what a different and more harmonious world we would live in.

    • Mary February 18, 2020   Reply →

      I agree Ingrid as it was mentioned in this conversation between Rebecca and Serge boys are not born tough, so therefore we as the adults must be raising them to be tough. And we can see this because even by the time they reach 5 years old many have completely changed their personality so what is happening in the family dynamics for this to occur?

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh January 31, 2019   Reply →

    I love the way Serge Benhayon always sheds light on the big elephant in the corner that most of us would rather not talk about and some of us even claim does not exist. And very supportive how he does this in the context of the love, sensitivity and awareness that is deep down in every single one of us regardless of the facades we have put on top of it or the behaviour we might be displaying.

    • Mary September 12, 2021   Reply →

      There’s is definitely a big Elephant in the room Golnaz it is the misrepresentation of family life
      As a race of human-beings we seem to take for granted that we are abusive towards each other. This is what we call ‘family life’ where we ‘think’ we have a right to abuse each other because we can. I remember a family member saying to me they had a right to abuse me because I was younger and they were older, it gave them an age entitlement over me. Serge Benhayon has shed light on the falsity of so-called ‘family life’ so that we can come to an understanding that this is not how we behave towards each other, this is not true family and from this understanding I can see that family life is the complete opposite of what family life should be. I have discovered that so many pillars of our society are built on lies ‘family life’ being one of them and we take them for granted in this life but they are actually the complete opposite of how life can be and that we are all equally responsible for the rottenness of so called ‘family life’ we all live in.

  • Melinda Knights January 30, 2019   Reply →

    This is the conversation we really need to have. Serge is getting under the foundation of how we live as men and women, and that it is currently a foundation not based on our natural qualities. If we were to return to our true essence, everything about society would change.

  • Caroline Francis January 28, 2019   Reply →

    Unless we as women learn to honour and nourish the natural qualities within us then there were always be men in demand of that which is not who we truly are. It is not a question of pleasing or seeking love from outside of us in any way, shape or form but an absolute love lived for ourselves as women and this can play out in many different ways in every area of our lives.

  • Ariana January 25, 2019   Reply →

    Getting back to the truth of tenderness within us all is not small thing. Serge Benhayon is bringing us back to the truth of who we are.

  • Ariana January 24, 2019   Reply →

    I love this, for all those who don’t get how fragile we are – cut your finger by accident and you will know just how fragile and delicate we all are.

  • Ariana January 23, 2019   Reply →

    To look at another knowing that we all have the same degree of sensitivity within us – that is real and very loveable.

  • Ariana January 22, 2019   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon talks about the fact that sensitivity is in all of us – men and women alike, we are all tender and fragile.

  • Jennifer Smith December 28, 2018   Reply →

    Both men and women spend a great deal of time in a state where we are not being who we are. Tender delicate fragile and sensitive are words that we do not associate with ourselves and yet that is precisely who we are in every way. Man or woman these qualities are equally present. The effort that we use to not feel this within ourselves is gargantuan. So its understandable that we need to slowly peel back the layers we have put in the way, so that we can not only feel these very beautiful qualities but live then and that we we will know intimately who we are from the inside out.

    • Mary May 16, 2020   Reply →

      It feels to me as though we are living in a bubble which is encapsulated within the body of God which to me is heaven. The life we all live within this bubble is contra to the way of life outside the bubble. We are herded together and kept constantly distracted so that there is no space to pause and question this life we lead. That is until Serge Benhayon came along and opened up the discussion and the possibility that the way we are with ourselves and others can change, just because we feel life has always been a certain way doesn’t mean that it’s true.

  • Melinda Knights December 19, 2018   Reply →

    What comes through strongly here is that we have an essence within us but somewhere along the line as we grow and develop we make steps away from your true selves, and it may be that we take so many steps that our expression becomes so foreign to our innate essence that violence or abuse is normal.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh December 18, 2018   Reply →

    I love the different approach – instead of blame and focusing on patching over the issues, to start from the magnificence that we could be living and let that guide our unfolding back to the glory of our true expression.

    • Ingrid Ward February 4, 2019   Reply →

      To let go of the blame game is such a powerful and life-changing choice to make, and as it is most likely a game that we have all played at some stage, to varying degrees, how different society would be with its demise. And in letting go of the blame we offer ourselves the space to acknowledge that our life is our responsibility and once we say yes to it, life cannot help but begin to change shape in many amazing ways.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh December 17, 2018   Reply →

    Any one of us choosing to live our true essence – with a steady reflection of the love, sensitivity, tenderness and joy that is our innate expression – would facilitate a knock on effect of inspiring and confirming the same in all others.

  • Melinda Knights December 12, 2018   Reply →

    The statement about not living the reality of our beingness is very true, we definitely are not born aggressive, self destructive, or abusive. We are so pure, innocent and delightful as children, emanating many beautiful natural qualities until the world intrudes to impose expectations, beliefs and ideals, etc, and we change ourselves and begin to live someone other than our natural state of being.

  • Hm December 12, 2018   Reply →

    We paint ourselves as a victim of gender stereotypes when in fact this is a behaviour we have to not be in touch with what it means for each of us personally to be a male or female.

  • Michael Brown December 7, 2018   Reply →

    The state of play is one that we should not be proud of, but one we can use to identify where our true strengths lie.

  • Christoph Schnelle December 1, 2018   Reply →

    A tough guy is predictable as it is a very limited image and the range of behaviour is small. This tradeoff between predictability and the threat of physical violence may be acceptable or even desirable for those who ‘like tough guys’.

  • Michael Brown November 26, 2018   Reply →

    It’s sad to see how ruined something can be that is designed to be so complementary.

  • Jennifer Smith November 19, 2018   Reply →

    The point that Serge Benhayon was saying about that it is impossible for men and women to have certain behaviours, such as the level of violence we see today, but yet these behaviours not only exist but seem to be very common place. This is a moment to stop and ponder on. For here there is a very big inconsistency. Is it what Serge is saying or is it in what we are choosing in how we are living? If there is something not right about how we are living and we are viewing new levels of violence that we have not seen in society before…what is going on if what he says is true in that these levels of violence are not part of our natural way. They do not in any way belong to us.

    • Mary September 12, 2021   Reply →

      Three years on from your comment Jennifer Smith, my understanding is that our bodies are receivers of energy that there are only two energies to choose, the soul or the astral plane. The majority of us have rejected the energy of our soul and have aligned to the energy of the Astral Plane. so it comes down to an alignment of livingness. Serge Benhayon has been presenting The Way of The Livingness these last 20 or so years, the living Way of the soul, rather than the current alignment to the astral plane which entraps humanity in indulgence which keeps us all in involution whereas The Way of The Livingness supports us all to evolve back to the universe.

  • Michael Brown November 15, 2018   Reply →

    When you see how much potential there is for both genders to prosper it is quite sad to get the reality check of where we are actually at.

  • Michael Brown November 14, 2018   Reply →

    I love not having the macho complex… so much more relaxing and assuring to be in life

  • Samantha Davidson November 6, 2018   Reply →

    Being fragile, I used to think no way how I can I do that…I used to think it is a weakness. I am willing now to know that it is no weakness to be fragile, but a strength and powerful because to feel can only be a strength. To deny what we feel to try not be sensitive, limits our understanding of the world and life.

  • Lieke Campbell November 4, 2018   Reply →

    It is very true what Serge says about women looking for a tough(er) guy. It is very uncomfortable as a woman to feel how hard we have become, at least that is my experience, so I can understand most do their best to avoid feeling that.

    • Mary March 22, 2021   Reply →

      In some cases we could say that women are out doing the men in toughness, if this is the case where does it leave the man? Is it possible that the suicide rates are so high among men because they no longer know who they are or what they are supposed to be as the women are crowding them out by playing a game of oneupmanship.

  • Joseph Barker November 3, 2018   Reply →

    Is it enough to say ‘I don’t hit my wife’ or ‘we don’t often fight’? Serge Benhayon offers us the possibility that there’s an incredible fathomless depth of Love on offer between us all, instead of barricades and walls.

    • Michael Brown November 29, 2018   Reply →

      Ever offering the next step this Man is.

  • Hm November 3, 2018   Reply →

    I agree – how Serge Benhayon is with everyone is a role model of relationships and the depth we can go to with ourselves and each other.

  • Melinda Knights November 1, 2018   Reply →

    I always appreciate the deep care Serge brings with his understanding of the true essence of men and women, and it makes so much sense too. Little boys and girls definitely have very beautiful natural qualities and over time it seems as we grow and develop we pick up a lot of gender ideals and messages about how to be and can change ourselves. It’s a vital topic as rates of suicide for both men and women are high, as well as there being many other issues with our health and wellbeing (and relationships) which could possibly be traced back to living separated to our natural essence and the accompanying lifestyle choices we make and stresses we experience.

    • Mary September 12, 2021   Reply →

      Melinda if we were to consider the possibility of re-incarnation, is it possible that we come in with the energy of our past life/s, that we have to nullify these before we can move on? This might go some way to understanding our lifestyle choices may not be just from this past life but lives where we have set up a pattern that will repeat until we get to the core of the issue and can heal that part, so that it no longer carries over with unseen energy into our next life. This is the wheel of rebirth until such time that we have harmonised our past lives and can detach from the wheel of rebirth. This is my understanding of evolution.

  • Michael Brown November 1, 2018   Reply →

    When we see that we are constantly 24/7 every moment in relationship, we understand that every movement counts towards something greater and grander than ourselves.

  • Shami November 1, 2018   Reply →

    “Where did we go wrong, that we ended up with a reality that is not the reality of our beingness?” This is an amazing question. A full stop question. The type of question that has every other question ever asked wrapped up inside of it. I love this question for all that it brings.

  • Michael Brown October 25, 2018   Reply →

    It genuinely pains me to the how we treat one another on this earth.

    • Christoph Schnelle December 1, 2018   Reply →

      And remarkably, much of the time when we try to improve how we treat each other, those improvements don’t hold.

  • Janet October 24, 2018   Reply →

    It is super important to consider what Serge Benhayon is saying here, with regards to taking 100 steps back and asking ourselves how a fragile and tender young boy becomes a violent brute? This is a question for all of us, and only as a collective can we change this through the way we parent and educate from young.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh October 31, 2018   Reply →

      This is indeed a significant question to ask. It also brings a greater awareness to the fact that the qualities and sensitivity of this fragile and tender young boy is still there within every single man, yet by this time not honoured and not put into practice for so long that even when the space if offered for it, it may take a while for it to start showing itself as lived expression. Brings huge responsibility to how we respond and relate to one another even when what we see is not the most gracious and endearing version.

  • Janet October 24, 2018   Reply →

    ‘Why do we have a society not based on the truth of the human being..?’ Serge and Rebecca ‘go there’ with this conversation, discussing gender conditioning 100 steps back when as a toddler both males and females are not supported to be fragile and delicate.

    • Mary September 12, 2021   Reply →

      Yes, what is it about our fragility, delicateness and sensitivity that we constantly have to crush it, so that very few dare to live this quality for fear of reprisal? Have we given up because the vast majority of humanity doesn’t want to be exposed to what they miss most about themselves?

  • Janet October 22, 2018   Reply →

    True, Ariana. Are we prepared to accept we have veered off and lost track of who we are by nature, and willing to take the steps to humbly re-connect and begin to build true foundations?

  • Janet October 22, 2018   Reply →

    Yes I agree, Fiona. We are so keen to cast judgement and blame on the presenting circumstances in front of us, but it is so very wise to trace back at hundred steps to the initial separation from the truth of who we are. Bad situations do no come out of nowhere…

  • Jennifer Smith October 21, 2018   Reply →

    “How did we end up with a reality that is not the reality of our beingness?” A wonderful comment by Serge Benhayon to close this episode. Something to take away observe and ponder.

  • Michael Brown October 18, 2018   Reply →

    You could say we are taught how to be a man and how to be a woman, but we aren’t taught how to be what we naturally are way beyond the titles of gender.

  • Michael Brown October 15, 2018   Reply →

    Being in a place where I don’t look at men or women differently is quite stunning.

  • Hm October 14, 2018   Reply →

    I have a baby boy. Everyone wonders how you get from a sweet little baby to a man who can abuse. But my what I see is my responsibility as a woman and a mother to support him to know what love is alll the time. Yes he is super cute – but I can already see in him how he can be demanding and out to get his way. He would feed all the time if I let him – but if I let him without feeling when my body is ready to provide milk – then his first experience with a woman is someone who says yes all the time and not a woman who is honouring her body.

    • Jennifer Smith November 19, 2018   Reply →

      I love what you are sharing here Hm. It makes so much sense. I have chosen to to parent in life, but I can’t recall hearing any parent speaking this way of their relationship with their child. Its quite refreshing to here a mother talking about honouring her own body and the consequences this will have.

    • Mary March 22, 2021   Reply →

      Hm is this the 100 steps back that we all need to take when it comes to parenting a child to be so aware of what could be said to be such a trifling matter, but actually can have potential consequences when the child grows up? Such an open sharing we need to closely observe how we interact with our children and them with us.

  • Michael Brown October 10, 2018   Reply →

    The headline fact is about violence between men and women, not boys and girls. So where does the former begin and the latter end? At what point do we grow into the reality that this violence is okay?

  • Joseph Barker October 7, 2018   Reply →

    If we don’t heal the hurts we carry inside the slightest misunderstanding can easily become a fight or worse settle into ongoing arrangements where we try to appease. Serge Benhayon is an amazing example to me that these hurts can be healed and upset undone.

  • andrewmooney26 September 27, 2018   Reply →

    Yes I agree Gill this is a great tool or technique that we can use in every day life for it brings us back to the awareness that everything is energy first before it happens in the physical world, which allows us to read what is going on behind the scenes so to speak rather than just falling for what our 5 senses can detect.

  • andrewmooney26 September 27, 2018   Reply →

    A great point is made in this blog that if women seek equality at all costs without checking the quality of what they are seeking to be equal to then it will not work in the long term. I am all for equality between every human being but it must be based on a quality of love, decency, tenderness and respect, rather than the competitive, combative, ‘dog eat dog’ kind of world we currently have.

  • Michael Brown September 25, 2018   Reply →

    It is an indictment of our set-up society that we can go for so long with gender violence etc, and never saying STOP. Simply just trying to ‘improve’ the situation along the way… The time will come when all the improvements will be seen for the masks of brutality that they are.

  • Christoph Schnelle September 23, 2018   Reply →

    If the interaction is without love – and love does not mean attraction here – then the interaction will always leave both parties feel less than satisfied.

  • Michael Brown September 15, 2018   Reply →

    And it seems that once we get over the obvious differences, there will be many subtle ones too.

  • Carmel September 13, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon explains that women won ‘equality’ in the West in the quality of male energy, not in the essence of a woman and that women’s bodies are now showing the signs of that fight. Certainly I entered my career in a hard way and it was only in my 60s that I began to appreciate myself as a woman and appreciated the preciousness and tenderness that is my natural way.

  • Melinda Knights September 10, 2018   Reply →

    What could be more important than to talk about the truth of human beings and their true essence? This is the foundation of human life, to live the fullness of who we are. What we currently have is not working because it doesn’t foster our being, I know because I’ve lived in separation to myself and life becomes a miserable existence, even with some of the right boxes ticked like mortgage, partner, etc. Having made my return to my essence and learning to live from that again I can wholeheartedly say that what Serge talks about is the real deal.

  • Jennifer Smith September 10, 2018   Reply →

    There is a depth that this conversation goes to that is rarely if at all gone to in discussions about men and women. How many discussions take the 100 steps back to really look at where a protective behaviour may have begun, both for men and for women? I also love that there is no blame of either men nor women for where we now find ourselves. Just a commentary on how far away we now find ourselves from our true essence.

    • Janet October 11, 2018   Reply →

      Yes, Jennifer, I love how Serge takes us 100 steps back so that we return to the personal responsibility we all have to live in the fullness of our essence, as this is who we are before any delineation of gender.

  • Michael Brown September 10, 2018   Reply →

    Men and Women have a whole lotta lovin’ to do, and we start that in the here and now with each and every step we take.

  • Janet September 9, 2018   Reply →

    If you want to watch an inspiring ‘big picture’ conversation about gender equality and our true nature as a man or a woman, look no further.

    • Nattalija October 20, 2018   Reply →

      Busts all the images and ideas that we have carried separating men and women into polar opposites.

  • matilda September 7, 2018   Reply →

    Boys are naturally tender and super gentle; girls are naturally nurturing and still. There is so much richness in relationships (which are one of the true purposes of life) when we simply accept and honour these natural qualities in ourselves, our children and those around us.

  • Natalie Hawthorne September 7, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon presents yet another show stopper of truth and we have the opportunity to reclaim and reconnect to the absolute depths of who we are as men and women by connecting to our super delicate and tender innate being, both equally so. A stark opposite to what we have been told we need to be, don’t you find that interesting, I sure do.

  • Rowena Stewart September 7, 2018   Reply →

    I love how this episode cuts any potential to blame each other but brings us back to true compassion first and foremost, the ability to observe, understand and appreciate our true qualities first, so they become the fundamental rules of engagement between men and women.

  • Michael Brown September 5, 2018   Reply →

    The reaction to the men and women divide is just as damaging as the instigations that occur in regard to the furthering separation of the two.

  • Karin Barea September 3, 2018   Reply →

    Watching this is amazing, a wise understanding of how we have got to a reality where both sexes are not honouring their sensitivity and beautiful fragility. Taking the 100 steps back to who we truly are makes total sense – otherwise we’ll remain lost in what we are told we should be rather than knowing who we are and expressing from this place that honours ourselves and each other equally.

  • Lorraine Wellman September 1, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon TV episodes have the answers for many of us and the questions we have about life, how the world is in such a mess.

    • Mary March 22, 2021   Reply →

      Serge Benhayon TV episodes are the only TV worth watching, because it is a forum where truth is expressed and no holds barred. All those questions we have about life being the way it is, is explained in a way that makes total sense.

  • Michael Brown September 1, 2018   Reply →

    The state of play with worldwide misogyny is only reflective of the state of play in our homes.

    • Matilda Bathurst September 7, 2018   Reply →

      And makes absolutely no sense when we consider our innate qualities.

  • Michael Brown August 29, 2018   Reply →

    When reincarnation is brought into the discussion, man vs. woman cannot exist – only the What Is vs. What is not.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh August 24, 2018   Reply →

    Every day I witness so many men who seem stiff as a board across their shoulders and chest, as if they are holding on to that hardness at any cost. Yet whenever I walk behind a young boy, the delicateness and tenderness is so gorgeous. I personally know how different my body feels when I adopt hardness as a protection to when I instead allow myself to move and express in my tenderness. What a travesty that this hardness becomes the ‘normal’ expression of so many men in our society. We definitely need to address the imprisoning stereotypes we impose on one another..

  • Michael Brown August 23, 2018   Reply →

    It can make me quite sad when I see very obviously extremely sweet men buying into the whole hard-nut image.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 1, 2018   Reply →

      So many of us buy into the image that we have put on to protect ourself to such an extent that we start to believe that is our true nature. For many women too it can be to hold back and act insignificant, or the other end, to be as tough or even tougher than the hard-nut acting man. Wonderful to be reminded as with every conversation on this website that all of this is just what we have chosen and our true essence is far more glorious, sensitive and powerful than that.

  • Rik Connors August 22, 2018   Reply →

    Its true about being one finger down. I cut the top of my pinky tonight cooking dinner. I’m not sure how I did it but it effected from then on how I cooked. I was trying to stop the bleeding while completing the cooking so I could eat. I felt misplaced knowing I had to now accomodate for my finger — it slowed down and brought me back to me.

    • Jennifer Smith September 10, 2018   Reply →

      We are constantly being reminded of how delicate we are in every moment and that we can move in a way that nurtures this and allows this quality to come to the fore.

  • Caroline Francis August 20, 2018   Reply →

    To have understanding and awareness for another because of the choices we are making is gold. Appreciation is key for in the appreciation and love for ourselves we create a safe environment for another to be and express where they are at and what is going on for them.

  • Simon Williams August 20, 2018   Reply →

    Watched this last night with my girlfriend and boy oh boy you can learn so much in 25 minutes. There is so much going on in the games we have played and the definition of those gender roles… how far they have taken us from our innate tenderness. And love the reminder that its simply a question for all of us to express the qualities we were born with in full, in our own way. That is what makes up the multifaceted diamond that is our potential when we come together.

  • Lorraine Wellman August 19, 2018   Reply →

    We are all born very delicate and connected, so what happens along the way, why do we lose the grace we are born with, and why do we allow this in those around us?

  • Sandra Vicary August 15, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon delivers once again in such a refreshing and simple way that makes sense of another area of our lives that we have made so complex. These interviews are worth their weight in gold in terms of our understanding about how and why men and women relate to each other in the way they do, and in my experience, are the only interviews on any TV channel in the world that are worth watching.

  • Rowena Stewart August 15, 2018   Reply →

    You can’t get better reality TV than this. Bill and Serge put all the real facts on the table that we, humanity, should be dealing with and then go on to propose true resolutions that when fully understood and applied to life, can turn these scary health figures on their heads.

  • Danna Elmalah August 14, 2018   Reply →

    It is so good to listen to truth when spoken from a body that lives it, and so you can feel in every word the truth shared by Serge Benhayon. We can either dislike or like it – the truth remains anyway. We are offered here an end to all our endless solutions that had not worked.. We are here to re-turn to what is truly equality and how we can work our ways back to living from our true essential beingness again. Thank you Serge and Rebecca for your wise words and true questioning. Exposing what has not worked and what only truly works.

  • Shami August 13, 2018   Reply →

    This interview raises the fact that we have behaviours happening across the world that are actually impossible, and yet our reality is that these behaviours exist. And, I would say, that this is cause for a great study on human-kind. A global observation of how and why we are living so far from what is wholly natural, which is to be with eachother in total and complete un-harming ways.

    • Simon Williams August 20, 2018   Reply →

      Is anyone else willing to look back 100 steps? Serge is, but I don’t think the rest of society is and that is very much because we are so totally wrapped up in what is normal and accepted (and so anything a little better than normal is met as a sign of victory), and can’t see how far we are from what is natural.

  • Rik Connors August 12, 2018   Reply →

    This is interview is brilliant — well worth the listen in understanding who we are as a man, and woman. Just the fact of understanding we are fragile and how powerful this is, is enough to change your life.

  • jennym August 9, 2018   Reply →

    Stepping back to consider the origins of our true nature and where we rejected or separated from that offers true healing rather a solution to our everyday issues of violence and abuse.

  • Rebecca August 8, 2018   Reply →

    It is interesting that in popular culture we often see men portrayed as tough, dominant, often rich and good looking, showing the women as either submissive to that dominance or trying to out tough the men. Either way, the picture of both the man and the woman is so far away from truth that we rarely get to see the potential for what a man and a woman can be together

  • Rebecca August 6, 2018   Reply →

    I love how Serge takes it all the way back – not blaming a man, not making men the issue but simply the environment we bring them up in that crushes their innate sense of tenderness, and domestic violence is the horrific consequence of removing that quality from a mans expression

  • Michael Brown July 23, 2018   Reply →

    Why play the gender game when we all innately love each other in the first place? This video is a great deconstructor if that game.

    • Rowena Stewart September 4, 2018   Reply →

      Agreed Michael Brown. Serge Benhayon not only breaks down our beliefs about how we should be as a woman and man, but totally deconstructs all the false barriers we have erected between one another. At the core level we are all the same, delicate, divine and so gorgeous. Why waste time hiding that from each other?

  • Melinda Knights July 20, 2018   Reply →

    I find what Serge presents here so supportive, when I was growing up I found the role models for what a woman was around me something that deterred me from wanting to be a woman, it wasn’t the essence of the women around me, more the socialised roles that had been pigeon holed into. I have been studying Serge’s work now since 2012 and it’s definitely supported me to reconnect to the essence of the woman inside me, and to discard the ideals and beliefs that literally were like constricting cages around who I naturally am. I love the bit where Serge talks about the “spunkness” that comes out when we are able to simply be ourselves, I definitely now feel that in myself. Thank you Serge and Rebecca.

  • Michael Brown July 12, 2018   Reply →

    Men and women are seen to have very little between them when babies and toddlers, yet as adults appear to be worlds apart and at odds in most cases. Looks more like learnt behaviour than genetics or DNA….

    • Simon Williams August 20, 2018   Reply →

      Agreed Michael – the one extra chromosome does not account for the worlds apart that we find ourselves in as emerge into adulthood (or earlier).

  • Shami July 12, 2018   Reply →

    I like how Serge Benhayon talks about sharing in commonality of words. And of how it is these words that can foster people to be whole and true to themselves, regardless of their gender, making truth to oneself the most important factor in life.

  • Michael Brown July 7, 2018   Reply →

    1 women every 50 years killed by a partner or ex-partner is 1 too many let alone 1 a week. This needs addressing by us All.

  • Michael Brown July 3, 2018   Reply →

    If we look at the innate qualities of both genders rather than the learned behaviours, we see that the current state of play is ALL learnt.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 25, 2018   Reply →

    The way both men and women are living and their relationship with one another is not great. You do not need a PhD to see that. Also the ways we have adopted to make it better or fight it have brought results that have at times looked good on the surface but in truth have all back fired and left us in further misery. What is presented here is brilliant. What if we did not go for trying to improve what is already not working or even fighting it? What if we deepened our awareness and understanding of how the situation is ingrained in the first place and how we have unconsciously been promoting and ingraining it?

  • Carmel Reid June 17, 2018   Reply →

    Serge comments that parenting is bringing the being ness into the world and that our education does not support that – how did we manage to get so lost to the true purpose of our being here?

  • Carmel Reid June 12, 2018   Reply →

    I like that Serge suggests we don’t say ‘she’s beautiful because she’s a woman’ We need to fully appreciate the beauty, the tenderness and the ‘spunkiness’ that is naturally in both men and women.

  • Samantha Davidson June 10, 2018   Reply →

    I agree the women movement generally are fighting and not stepping up with responsibility, blaming men is so detrimental to our relationships. We are in this together, fighting one another is the exact opposite of what we are here to do.

    • Ingrid Ward August 13, 2018   Reply →

      I agree Samantha that a lot of emphasis amongst the so-called women’s movement is about fighting for equality. For me the word fighting sets up the scene for just that, a bitter battle, instead of approaching the healing of the inequality in a very loving and honouring way, respecting men for who they are and how we can bring the harmony to our relationships that we truly need.

  • Michael Brown June 7, 2018   Reply →

    As a gentle young man I became so frustrated and resentful of myself as girls around me went for the rough and abusive guys. So much so that I adopted a facade of what I though girls would like to see in me.

  • Hm June 4, 2018   Reply →

    We already have access to the wisdom on offer to co exist as women and men together. It is a case of choosing a different way to how we have been living.

    • Samantha Davidson June 10, 2018   Reply →

      I agree and I am learning to live this and it is truly simple, stop the blame game as a woman and you truly empower yourself, it is astounding to feel the changes in my relationships through choosing self responsibility as a woman.

      • Nattalija June 16, 2018   Reply →

        There are so many levels of ideals and beliefs that are often sold to us in order to not feel the responsibility that lies beneath.

    • Nattalija June 16, 2018   Reply →

      And saying yes to this with consistency.

  • David May 28, 2018   Reply →

    Gill I agree, the fact is no matter how we put it the current way we have things in society is far from loving and caring and yet it will only take a few changes each individually to transform how we are with ourselves and our kids and each other. Then we will start to have true equality.

  • Joshua Campbell May 28, 2018   Reply →

    Every time I watch this I am blown away by Serge’s humble playfully wise expression that has so much understanding and so much love and beholding in it that it just melts and inspires every time I hear it.

  • Ingrid Ward May 24, 2018   Reply →

    I have found Serge Benhayon’s very wise presentation of taking 100 steps back when confronted with an issue or a problem, to be so very helpful. So often when confronted by a situation that has stirred us up in some way we simply can’t see the truth that is being presented, or maybe we can and we choose not to. But by stopping, stepping back and making the choice to look behind what is unfolding – even if it takes 100 steps – we are sure to be offered the clarity as to why this particular situation arose in the first place.

  • Michael Brown May 20, 2018   Reply →

    It’s quite unbearable to think that the tender boy you see in the nursery playground or looking after his baby sister could potentially be brought up to one day take part in domestic violence or anything that harms another.

  • Shami May 16, 2018   Reply →

    I agree with Serge Benhayon when he says that it is not our truth to have women’s cage fighting.

    • Christoph Schnelle September 23, 2018   Reply →

      And even men’s cage fighting is not our truth. Far from it.

  • Melinda Knights May 16, 2018   Reply →

    It is so true what Serge says about the systems of society not fostering and nurturing the inner being. When I finished tertiary education I was not only unaware of myself, of my true inner being and how to bring that to life, I was a mess of anxiety and exhaustion from years of placing exam and school results ahead of my wellbeing. We may be producing empty people, people who may be very able to function in their occupation but may be unable to cope with life or have a strong sense of who they are.

  • Natalie Hawthorne May 13, 2018   Reply →

    When you look and see the epidemic of porn that is running rife through humanity we can’t ignore the issues at play. We are deeply disconnected to who we truly are and what each of our genders offer each other. It is so refreshing and inspiring to hear Serge express the truth and what the true core issues are. Thank you Serge.

  • Joshua Campbell May 9, 2018   Reply →

    Its great what Serge shares about the definition of words and our response to them. So often so react to the misinterpreted version of a word and think that is the truth of the word when in fact it is far far from it.

    • David July 29, 2018   Reply →

      Joshua I know this one so well, it’s taken me a long time to start to dissolve the very nothing of what certain words mean, I’ve had so many back to front. From Love, Understanding, Abuse to hundreds more.

  • HM May 5, 2018   Reply →

    Women can bring a balance back into the world – by them being in the truth of who we are and the delicateness they naturally hold. What Serge Benhayon presents here is what is happening to the world as we harden and condition ourselves to roles. But he also presents the possibility that simply listening to the body can bring us back to being who we are.

  • Shami April 26, 2018   Reply →

    Having a greater understanding of what fragility is, is like learning a whole new life science because I can see how this would permeate through every aspect of one’s life.

  • Natalie Hawthorne April 22, 2018   Reply →

    We are so lost as two genders and have lost who we truly are. The amount of disrespect and abuse that plays out is crazy. Time to put a hault on what is not truly delicate and tender and show that it is and it is divine.

    • Lorraine Wellman September 1, 2018   Reply →

      If we all start life as tender and delicate babies, what happens to those qualities along the way we call life?

  • Natalie Hawthorne April 20, 2018   Reply →

    What I am noticing is that men and woman are so confused as to how they want to be with each other, we have stepped away from our natural true selves and in doing so we don’t really know what we truly want or what the other person wants. We keep doing what we think we need to do for each other, however at the end of the day we stand here saying we are lost and lonely, even if we are in a relationship. Great to hear the truths Serge is sharing in this episode, priceless.

  • Elaine Arthey April 11, 2018   Reply →

    How diid we end up with a reality that is not the reality of our beingness….? Let’s take that 100 steps back and consider carefully this question.

  • Shami April 10, 2018   Reply →

    I love the way it has been presented here, that we can glorify the qualities of a person and make them feel adored and cherished. And how this brings about a true expression of the man or the woman – not being gender defined or imprisoned, just appreciated for their unique awesomeness.

  • Viktoria April 5, 2018   Reply →

    There is such a drama between men and women, we women point the finger at men and blame them for our mishaps, men blame women for theirs. We’ve disconnected from our natural relationships between genders so much so that we live in a world where a non-sexual relationship between a man and a woman is considered impossible.

  • Rowena Stewart April 4, 2018   Reply →

    When we bring tenderness to bear in all our interactions it can only deepen our love for one another. The big step is in letting our guard down, a step that starts inwardly first, learning how to trust our own tender natures once more and nurturing them in all ways. It is a very important activity that when truly embodied brings immense and very evolutionary changes to all relationships.

  • Matilda Bathurst April 2, 2018   Reply →

    It is poignant to consider the tenderness of a baby and consider what occurs in life for anyone, let alone many, grow up to be abusive and violent. An intelligent race?

  • Matilda Bathurst April 2, 2018   Reply →

    Exploring the state of play between men and women through the teachings of Universal Medicine brings a whole fresh perspective to how we can be together; harmony and respect of our qualities that sets aside competition and comparison.

  • Shami March 31, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon makes the point very clearly here that we are all delicate and sensitive beings, and so aggression is not our truth. And I can understand how this may not feel like the truth for many, but Serge does not hold back from presenting it anyway, even if it is just for us to consider.

  • HM March 26, 2018   Reply →

    ‘The fact that a woman seeks a tough man means that she is not willing to be fragile and tender within herself’ – as a woman I can attest to this. I was pretty driven in the past, very hard and tough and so what I thought was a compliment to me was a tough man. Give me a sensitive, caring, tender man, and he would show me all the places I was not this. And that is exactly who I married. A man who is so tender and loving and asks me to keep going deeper and surrendering to who I am as a woman.

  • fiona lotherington March 24, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon always brings such depth to the understanding of humanity and what plays out in life. He never gets stuck on the violent outplays that most of us are shocked by and can’t believe it has happened. Taking 100 steps back so we understand the root of this cause of violence and how men are denatured to even be capable of violence is what is needed, rather than the Band-Aids we usually apply.

    • Melinda Knights May 16, 2018   Reply →

      It would be so easy to judge people for violence, but the 100 steps back takes us to the essence of the person (the baby or child) and shows we are not this naturally.

  • Christoph Schnelle March 24, 2018   Reply →

    The good news is that the tenderness is already there. It does not have to be built from scratch, just re-connected to.

  • Christoph Schnelle March 24, 2018   Reply →

    I heard this statistic – one woman a week killed in a domestic dispute – in the 1980s and it still seems to be the case. Why are we unable to change this?

  • Samantha Davidson March 23, 2018   Reply →

    You do not need to be a mother, but I am, and observing how society often pressurise gender roles from such a young age is astonishing, you can really see how boys and girls feel this and either join in our react against it. We all have our own expression in who we are and also in our gender, but the point is, no pressure is required, allow it to be without opinion or judgement, no need to be enforcing ideas of what makes a man or women.

  • Alison Pearson March 22, 2018   Reply →

    There is such a depth of wisdom being shared in these incredible interviews. I can listen to the same interview over and over and each time there is another layer that deepens and expands my understanding even further. Such an amazing gift to us all.

  • Alison Pearson March 20, 2018   Reply →

    The more we hold each other in the truth of who we are, we allow the space for each of us to be who we are without the imposition of false ideals and beliefs that we’ve been living with for far too long.

  • Sandra Vicary March 18, 2018   Reply →

    Yes Sally, I totally agree. Why, in truth, would we want our boys to be anything other than the delicate, tender, caring beings that they are? After all, as far as I am aware, thats what most women I know ultimatley want a man to be. It is time we nurtured our young boys to shine out these gorgeous qualities that they all have, instead of knocking them into a shape that doesn’t actually fit them.

  • Melinda Knights March 17, 2018   Reply →

    If we look at the world and the extremes such as violence, abuse and war we cannot understand it, however looking at it from the perspective of 100 steps back it makes sense. Babies are so pristine, so innocent and pure, that’s the essence we each are until we begin stepping away to end up 100 steps down the track treating ourselves and one another in abusive ways. If the systems we have currently contribute to this then it’s feasible that one day they will be recognised as inhumane.

  • Matilda Bathurst March 15, 2018   Reply →

    It is amazing the lies we weave simply not to feel the reality of our current condition and the choices we have made to get us to this point.

  • Matilda Bathurst March 15, 2018   Reply →

    When we reject the natural qualities of men and women from the get go, as we do with all our stereotyping and methods of upbringing, we encourage the suppression of these innate gifts and leave us all bereft of the connection and harmony with which we can live and learn together. This is the madness of the current human condition. These tv episodes are absolute gold in bringing big, inspiring, philosophical discussions into our lives and homes.

  • Samantha Davidson March 15, 2018   Reply →

    I Love men, I truly enjoy being with them and we can go all strange about what I am saying right now, but I mean it in an appreciation way. Why do men and women need to be head to head – that is how I used to be…so in fact I know the answer, I was hurt so I protected myself and blamed men. I have been healing my hurts, less blame – walk in Serge Benhayon he inspires true healing and change in relationships.

  • Shami March 14, 2018   Reply →

    This is utterly gorgeous: to look to our women and see if they are flourishing and if not, to tend to them so that they may.

  • Danna Elmalah March 14, 2018   Reply →

    This is a very powerful message to us all. The state of play between men and women has been for a long long time the same, even though aspects might change or look even different, the onslaught of the lack of equalness is still going on… this interview asks us to look a little deeper and start to look back in honesty of what has made us walk away from our essence, this loving nature, we naturally have, and observe more clearly what movements we have made us come — away from that?
    Thank you for Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon to open up the floor for actual true discussion.

  • John O Connell March 12, 2018   Reply →

    ” Any problem we need to take 100 hundred steps back away from the problem before we even attempt to understand the end result ”
    This is such good advice for it usually takes some time before a problem becomes an issue.

  • Michael Brown March 11, 2018   Reply →

    When we look at the gender constructs in society it’s obvious we are avoiding something. There is too much animosity for their not to be something that we’re avoiding.

  • HM March 4, 2018   Reply →

    It makes so much sense for Serge Benhayon to say that in truth we are not capable of aggression – and whilst that might be our reality, it is not who we are, and it is up to us to look at why we are at the stage where we know how to be aggressive as a society.

  • Sally March 3, 2018   Reply →

    I loved your mention of the caption of boys will be boys in this interview, and how by their true nature they are tender and caring, yet we allow society to dictate to us that they need to be tough. Surely we should be bringing up boys to be themselves delicate and tender as they truly are, and change the society in which we live in.

    • Melinda Knights March 17, 2018   Reply →

      Thank you Sally, to me this says a lot about letting children be, that is to preserve who they naturally are.

  • Sandra Vicary March 2, 2018   Reply →

    What Serge offers here is something completley different to what we have become accustomed to not only hearing but also accepting as being normal and appropriate behaviour. To understand that men and women have equal responsibility in any relationship, whatever form that may take, potentially brings a whole new level of understanding and appreciation for one another.

  • Julie Matson February 27, 2018   Reply →

    It makes so much sense that if we as men and women are not flourishing within society and with each other, and are in fact getting sicker. Then isn’t this is telling us that something is not right with the way we are living.

  • HM February 26, 2018   Reply →

    wow what a statement – to look at the state of a women’s body in how we are running society. There has been such an increase of women’s illness, and yet we are not asking why. Serge Benhayon looks at where the world is at – the male energy that even women are going into. Perhaps this is telling of why we as women continue to get sick in our bodies.

  • Andrew Mooney February 22, 2018   Reply →

    I love the discussion here about fragility and how natural it is for us to be fragile as human beings.

  • Samantha Davidson February 22, 2018   Reply →

    Denying our fragility and sensitivity is so harmful to ourselves, it brings an imposed hardness in to the body that operates us from feeling all that is available and life and gives us a narrow perspective. We need to feel, observe and be aware of all of life and how we are within it. This is Empowering, not weak.

    • James Nicholson February 28, 2018   Reply →

      So true Samantha and such a great point to pick up on. I always used to think it was weak showing how sensitive I was and people used to think I was gay because of it. But it was simply me expressing how deeply tender I am, as we all are just have chosen to shut it down because the world generally does not accept it. Which for me meant completely fighting and going against my very nature which hurt for a long time and was very confusing growing up getting such mixed messages of how I should be rather than simply being myself!

  • Michael Brown February 21, 2018   Reply →

    There cannot be inequality without having two separate parts. Therefore the aim is not to bring the two separate parts to perceived equality but to actually come together as one so that equality is a given and not even a concept.

    • David February 28, 2018   Reply →

      Michael, I love what you share here, if we get rid of the separation then we heal the inequality.

  • Tricia Nicholson February 17, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon is leading the way in offering the truth of who we are and the expression of our genders and where that has got us to. The abuse and violence we have come to is far from who we are in our tenderness and delicacy and the livingness and respect of this. A great reflection of our responsibility and love.

  • Andrew Mooney February 14, 2018   Reply →

    To understand that both genders have been equally suppressed and denatured as this interview clearly outlined takes away a lot of the blame game, finger pointing and competitiveness between the genders and begins the real healing process that needs to occur.

  • Michael Brown February 11, 2018   Reply →

    It’s fantastic to be able to watch an interview where the conversation is actually expansive rather than fitting the confines of an agenda.

  • Nattalija February 10, 2018   Reply →

    I often wonder if the conversation shared here took front page in our social media exchanges would society be open to realising how harming and abusive some relationships can be?

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh February 8, 2018   Reply →

    Most parents want to support their children in living in this world the best they can. Yet what you refer to is so true. There is a world of difference between “moulding them to close down to fit into the world we live in” and in contrast supporting them to learn how to maintain their natural love, light and awareness whilst fully committing to living in the world.

  • Samantha Davidson February 4, 2018   Reply →

    We have become so used to relating to each other in protection and we think it is normal. We often blame each other, each gender, rather than taking stock of what there is to appreciate and also being responsible for our own behaviour. This interview is ground breaking concerning relationships between men and women.

  • Michael Brown January 30, 2018   Reply →

    It’s been an amazing journey for me, accepting many of my virtues and qualities that I used to suppress as they were too feminine and not manly enough.

  • Jonathan Stewart January 29, 2018   Reply →

    Acknowledging the fact that women have gained equality through moving into male energy rather than maintaining their true nature and quality exposes that inequality is actually still here resulting in it being entrenched further and buried deeper in the illusion of equality.

  • Carmel Reid January 28, 2018   Reply →

    In talking about gender conditioning I like that he points out that our current parenting is preparing us for the education system that does not focus on our beingness. We are brought up to be the absolute opposite of who we truly are.

  • Michael Brown January 28, 2018   Reply →

    Here is the real conversation, picking apart what we as a society have created.

  • Natalie Hawthorne January 28, 2018   Reply →

    Why wouldn’t we want to foster our beingness within as our key way of living and yet when we look at where we are as a society we are very far away from this. Generations after generations we have overlooked this and the education system is by no way touching on this. So it comes back to us and saying ok, so if we beautiful tender beings that has a body lets bring focus to this being, and together we learn and return to our truth.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh January 27, 2018   Reply →

    I love the constant invitation by Serge Benhayon to deepen our level of understanding, awareness and ability to see to the heart of the matter, and how it always ends up with remembering that our true essence, bar none, is love, tenderness and caring for one another.

  • Lieke Campbell January 24, 2018   Reply →

    I loved the comment on the fact that our fragility, our ability to feel and be sensitive actually makes us better human beings in relating with each other as we can communicate from the depth of what we felt is going on and therefor deeply support each other in life.

  • Matilda Bathurst January 23, 2018   Reply →

    I agree, Fiona, very healing indeed, and inspiring to realise that we are not at the mercy of what is presented to us from the outside, but actually responsible for living our true natures and that by doing this we break so many of the social cages of expectation and conditioning that we live in.

  • Matilda Bathurst January 23, 2018   Reply →

    How simple and beautiful to hear that we are all naturally fragile and tender and that this is our true strength.

  • Sarah Karam January 22, 2018   Reply →

    We went to an amazing festival yesterday, well, we did more than go, we volunteered our time and resources and provided a pop up café to support the amazing festivities. The event, Girl to Woman Festival, is on annually and is all about celebrating women and girls but I am only beginning to discover how this relates to the men and boys in our community and what a huge role they play in bringing about this much-needed family celebration. Which brings me back to this episode and the state of play between men and women. My sons, who attended the event had a very warm and loving way about them afterwards, one of them was being so loving towards his sister, hugging her and telling her how beautiful her hair was, how great she looked in her new t-shirt. Of course, this then allowed her to be her beautiful self and the harmony was just beaming between them. My daughter was not being hard or bossy with her brother either and you could feel that if we were supported by the world, this would be how they are in every moment.

    • Michael Brown April 11, 2018   Reply →

      Just shows that we all know they true way to be with eachother, there is nothing to learn, only to remember.

  • Vicky Cooke January 21, 2018   Reply →

    We are playing a game that just will never work … currently neither gender is where we should be by truth. Awesome that the education was spoken about here as something that is for the system … not for the being that are going through education ..but the system! So very much is said in this short interview. And if women are not flourishing we need to ask why? And Serge Benhayon has done it again ✨ in the reality bomb he dropped .. he didn’t just take it back to 100 steps he took it right back to the beginning.

  • Natalie Hawthorne January 19, 2018   Reply →

    Now thats what I call a reality check! The bombshell that Serge Benhayon drops in this episode is super insightful and powerful. It gives us the opportunity to empower ourselves to live our truth, not what we have created thinking it is our truth. A reality check worth investigating and exploring.

  • Elaine Arthey January 17, 2018   Reply →

    How come we have ended up with a reality that is not the reality of our beingness? And how come we choose to sustain this reality when we could align to our beingness and live the truth of who we are thus choosing a different reality. We have it in us.

    • Vicky Cooke January 21, 2018   Reply →

      A very good question Elaine and it shows just how very far we are from our true truth and gosh what a struggles this is .. putting sooooo much effort into something that is not even true!

  • Sarah Karam January 13, 2018   Reply →

    It makes sense that as woman we sometimes have a tendency to choose rough bad boys over sensitive caring guys. For it is easier to hide our own hardness when we are with someone that is even harder than we are. It really explains my bad boy obsession in high school, I never fully understood the physchology until now.

  • Natalie Hawthorne January 13, 2018   Reply →

    I have found it a remarkable process stripping away the layers for the woman I thought I needed to be. I simply love listening to what Serge Benhayon is presenting here and as it is been a process of really letting go and accepting that I truly am fragile, tender and precious and that this is worth cherishing and honouring. It certainly is an unfolding process and one that I can feel has no dead ends just an open road to going deeper.

  • Jennifer Smith January 11, 2018   Reply →

    The “boys will be boys” is almost a throw away line. Showing that if you’re a boy anything is possible and you can get away with anything . The eternal excuse. I keep coming back to even though something is common, it does not mean that it is part of our natural expression. So violence in whatever form is very common, but its 100 steps away from our naturally loving and tender natures. Examining honestly but without blame feels like an important initial step in returning us to living in a way that is our natural way.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh January 23, 2018   Reply →

      I love the way Serge Benhayon keeps inspiring us to peel back layers of falsity that we have for eons assumed is the best we can get, to once again see the gem that has always been there, waiting for us to remember and return.

  • HM January 6, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon just captures the very pinnacle of what holds us back. As a woman, I have certainly bought into feeling the pressure of trying to look like someone I am not. It has felt like a huge struggle that no one understands but at the same time it is not talked about. It is not the casual conversation I have with friends – and no doubt they feel the same. But we just bury what is going on rather than looking at why have we allowed this at such a mass scale. What is going on for us to try and be something we are not?

  • Natalie Hawthorne January 6, 2018   Reply →

    I used to think that being fragile was the losers game, so being tough and strong to meet the men should be how I was a part of this. How exhausting was that and I totally missed out on many years of being how I naturally wanted to be… Tender, fragile and precious, but not knowing how to be this in the world around me. Thank you Serge Benhayon for presenting the truth of who we are so I could start to let go of the shackles that I was tied up in and not being my natural divine being.

  • Carola Woods January 5, 2018   Reply →

    So poignantly presented and an incredibly inspiring TV episode – they all are, sharing how we are here both, men and woman, to inspire each other to empower ourselves to be all that we have incarnated to be, not overpower each other to gain the false sense of power that we already we naturally hold when we surrender and embrace the tenderness, fragility and sacredness that we innately are – who we really are in essence.

  • Gabriele Conrad January 3, 2018   Reply →

    It is great to hear that competitiveness and combativeness are not our true nature; it implies that we will eventually come to our senses and discard what has no valid place in existence.

  • Sarah Karam December 30, 2017   Reply →

    We are missing a big part of how to raise people to their full potential. The moment we say this is a woman and this is a man, without looking at where this information has come from, we are further away from truth than needed. The gender differences that we have come to know are actually false, men are in fact very sensitive as woman and naturally very still, even though we do not always see this in the way women and men live. What is being offered here is very needed in today’s climate. With breast cancer, period issues and a whole swag of other conditions that woman face on the rise, then we have to look at why women are struggling with their cycles and health issues, we have to look at whether we are supporting women in society to flourish. Maybe what we call normal, is not as normal as we think, but rather a sliding scale that has gotten so out of hand that we have distorted it to be the only reality, but in fact it is just a reflection of the falseness that we have brought into.

  • David December 30, 2017   Reply →

    Great episode that asks us to look at the whole picture not at the end point of the problem but getting right back to the route, where did we start to stray from truth and how have we ended us so far from the truth. I love how we don’t get into ‘solutions’ but instead look for the real root answer, celebrating the fragility and sensitivity in each gender.

  • Kerstin Salzer December 30, 2017   Reply →

    Men and women are caught in their ideals and beliefs and roles concerning how they should be as a woman or a man. As long as this exists men and women never meet each other in who they truly are but always pretending to be somebody different, a certain role or picture and as such they never meet each other truly.

  • Michael Brown December 30, 2017   Reply →

    I remember reading a statistic that over 90% of murders are committed by people who know the victim. A scary thought to consider what force needs to be brought through to murder another human being.

  • Elizabeth Dolan December 29, 2017   Reply →

    I love the approach that Serge Benhayon shares here about needing to take a hundred steps back to know how to address any problem that is before us. This takes the superficiality out of dealing with life’s problems and asks us to be more responsible in how we deal with things.

  • Michael Brown December 27, 2017   Reply →

    The old saying stands: Divide and Conquer. One just has to look around at all the things that are in place to separate us to see that there must be something more here than just chance or genetics or luck.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh December 26, 2017   Reply →

    When we look at very young children, we witness grace and tenderness reflected. So how come many years later such divine qualities turn into something that has no resemblance to what we started with?
    It is never about pointing the finger and labeling someone as the culprit and the other as the victim, but to deeply reflect on the personal responsibility each of us has in creating a world that facilitates such a change.

  • Matilda Bathurst December 25, 2017   Reply →

    Super simple, super sweet and super true. Letting our innate tenderness out once again will disarm so much of the conflict that has become our ‘norm’.

  • Matilda Bathurst December 25, 2017   Reply →

    ‘beyond the manufactured male/female ideals we are conditioned by…’ there is a whole depth of honouring, respect, care and cherishing that we can bring into our relationships with ourselves and each other that will break down the current wayward ‘norms’ in society.

  • Kerstin Salzer December 25, 2017   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon is raising an impotant point concerning parenting and education. As we do not foster and support the awareness that we are more ‘being’ than ‘human’, children are parented and educated in a way to be functional instead of learning to connect to their inner wisdom first before using their mind. This is growing a humanity of stress, heartlessness and disconnection. It is touching to hear that there is another way, that we do not need to be stuck in this functional mode, which in the end leads to illness and disease.

  • Christoph Schnelle December 17, 2017   Reply →

    The state of play between men and women is shifting with the #metoo tag at the moment. It will be interesting to know where it ends up.

  • Melinda Knights December 15, 2017   Reply →

    If we are not all living our natural state of being then it says a lot about the system of our world and how these contribute to an unnatural but seen as ‘normal’ way. We could include in this the way we parent and educate children and young adults, and the way work environments are and what they also foster. It seems that we are directing life depending on what the current beliefs and ideals are, for example “boys and men are tough”, instead of living from what’s already present and natural within us, such as the natural tenderness boys have, and preserving and fostering that. Generation after generation we change our beliefs and ideals, but we are still not living true to ourselves.

  • Melinda Knights December 15, 2017   Reply →

    It’s an extraordinary experience for me to listen to Serge Benhayon because on the one hand what he shares is brilliant, yet once listened to feels very common sense and simple – even though I haven’t heard it before. The 100 steps concept is a great example of this, as we tend to look straight at a problem, such as domestic violence, and wonder how to tackle it and come up with things like stopping alcohol consumption and going to anger management. This may provide healing in some cases but how did we get there in the first place, and what are we doing as a society to create these kinds of “normals”, like domestic violence? Serge is a true philosopher with such a deep understanding of human beings, what he is offering is so needed worldwide.

  • Michael Brown December 11, 2017   Reply →

    I’ve always enjoyed being around women more than men, for there is something in the sweetness and tenderness that lights me up. What has been amazing is that more recently I have been able to see that quality in men also and value my time with each equally.

  • Samantha Davidson December 3, 2017   Reply →

    The truth is out, there is nothing to fight, we are all born equal, but we have got our wires crossed regarding how we express ourselves and communicate with one another. Men and Women compliment one-another sublimely if we allow ourselves to be who we are born to be.

  • Shami November 30, 2017   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon inspires me to want to understand more about the relationships we have as men and as women as we all live and work together through our difficult times. In this we can develop a clarity that allows what is not the true essence of the person to be seen for what it is, and therefore there is no judgement.

  • Matilda Bathurst November 23, 2017   Reply →

    Excellent TV indeed. A gift for us all to realise the strength and sweetness of the qualities of each gender and to embrace and honour these in all our relationships.

  • Matilda Bathurst November 23, 2017   Reply →

    A brilliant and inspiring interview that wakes me up to the potential we all have to live the true qualities of our genders and the responsibility we have to be in our relationships with these, supporting each other to honour, cherish and realise what is possible.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh November 19, 2017   Reply →

    Such a great hallmark of Ageless Wisdom. Instead of focusing on the unloving choices and bahviour of a person, to start by the awareness that every single one of us are deeply sensitive, aware, loving and multidimentional beings. The next natural question becomes what led such a being to behave in opposition to the truth of their expression? And here we start seeing the most profound revelations that fundamentally honour and consider every single person involved.

  • Julie Goodhart November 16, 2017   Reply →

    Serge expresses the true and irrefutable state of the world (irrefutable because each of us can see it play out, no matter where we live) with a level of complete and true understanding – for the man who is aggressive towards women or the woman who hardens herself to be who she thinks she needs to be to succeed in a ‘man’s world’ – for all people. That is refreshing and not often seen, but that is natural for us all.

    It is both inspiring and liberating to me to feel how just by being willing to see another person, and ourselves, in our innate sensitivity can break down gender barriers.

  • Rebecca November 12, 2017   Reply →

    I love how Serge takes on these issues that the world faces with a calmness and assureity – when we consider life from the perspective of energy first, it makes sense of so many seemingly senseless things.

  • Samantha Davidson November 11, 2017   Reply →

    As a humanity we are seriously sick when we can not live in harmony, we survive but we do not flourish, we see each other more as the enemy than our true compliment. We are all responsible for how we are with each other, there are no victims here. We all, women and men have a natural expression with can work in harmony with one another, do we allow it to be lived and expressed…I would say for the majority no…Serge Benhayon, may confront some, but if you listen to the words with an open heart you will hear and feel love to a depth that is rarely if ever encountered in humanity.

  • Jennifer Smith November 2, 2017   Reply →

    Is what we call normal…normal? This is very important to ponder further on. We have had clear downward spirals in relationships, health, lifestyle choices etc and have not questioned this. We have simply re calibrated our normal.

  • Sarah Karam October 31, 2017   Reply →

    One of the things that stood out in this interview was that raising a child to be who they are is about showering them with love, that is not necessarily aimed at the fact that they are a boy or a girl but more at the essence of the quality they are, this is such a beautiful way for us to bring forth our next generation. The gap we have made between men and woman starts with the culture of how we rise our children, if we make our love for them about the essence of who they are and not what society expects them to be, we already turning the tide.

  • Jennifer Smith October 29, 2017   Reply →

    I was working on a hospital ward one day and saw one of our patients, who was a very big man walking down the corridor, carrying his very tiny 6 month old baby. I found myself having to stop and watch. What I realised at that point is that when men (and women too) are with babies we are as we are naturally meant to be. Very tender and sensitive. Not only are we born this way as babies and then children, babies and children inspire us to return to this very natural state also.

  • Michael Brown October 16, 2017   Reply →

    I saw a video where young boys were asked to slap a girl, and they all beautifully refused. When asked why, they gave the most tender and sweet looks and answers into the camera. The question then being – Where does this natural way of being disappear to to the point of violence we have currently?

  • Shami October 14, 2017   Reply →

    This part about ‘liking tough guys’ is very exposing, because it shows to me a deeper unrest that is happening in women’s lives that many of us are perhaps yet to be aware of. But this is what I love about Serge Benhayon, when he presents this kind of thing that just makes me stop and look more closely or differently at what there is to consider.

  • Natalie Hawthorne October 8, 2017   Reply →

    Recently I was discussing that endometriosis is starting to be come a common condition for women. This is huge in the fact that it is being casually talked about as if it is normal to have this condition. Every movement and action has an impact on our bodies, if they are not harmonious then we need to look at the way we are moving and living that is not supporting this.

  • Natalie Hawthorne October 6, 2017   Reply →

    This masculine energy that Women in the west have turned to is something that I have known very well. From such a young age I could feel the competition with men and override and pushing to keep up or out do them. Now in my early 40’s and thanks to Serge Benhayon and the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom I have been able to connect much deeper than this, feel the innate stillness within and feel how sweet, delicate and precious it really is. That this is what I had been seeking my whole life I just didn’t know how to connect to it. 2014 was a year where I knew my life was about to change and I had been waiting for it my whole life. Huge appreciation for Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family for consistently showing to me that we are indeed much more than the physical form and that as a Woman I hold something very precious and sacred within me that is there for all to see and feel.

  • Rachel Murtagh October 4, 2017   Reply →

    So much understanding is brought to the table… and with understanding, there is no battle of the sexes. We find there is a beauty in the expression of men as men and women as women and underneath is all a commonality of sensitivity.

  • Natalie Hawthorne October 3, 2017   Reply →

    Its our responsibility to educate and bring up our young to bring their full beingness to all that they do. This comes back to our relationship with ourselves and what best to teach, share and educate but to come from a lived expression of someone that is making those choices also. Leading by example and being role models is exactly what is needed so when we do encourage our young to do the same at least they are getting a reflection that this true.

  • Natalie Hawthorne September 30, 2017   Reply →

    This is something that we can’t deny – and that is the responsibility in our parenting skills and Education system and how this is key. The way we teach, share and integrate our way of living in connection with our Soul/Being and not to disconnect from this in and throughout life.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 27, 2017   Reply →

    When reflecting on and discussing the issues between men and women, it is common for there to be anger, blame, opposition and animosity.
    In this episode we have a wonderful example in Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith of how any issue, however contentious, can be observed, examined and discussed with the greatest level of love, care, honouring and consideration for all parties.

  • Natalie Hawthorne September 25, 2017   Reply →

    The fragility that both genders have is something that in the past i would have considered weak, pathetic and annoying. But today this is completely turned around as I have started to let go of the protection that I had created that was propped up by all this hardness and toughness. I thought I needed to be that way so I was cool, liked and also because I didn’t want to be hassled – so if I put off a tough persona then I was less likely to be hassled. There is so much beauty in allowing ourselves to be fragile, tender and precious not just for ourselves or the selected few but for all, and show that this is indeed our natural way of being.

  • Michael Brown September 24, 2017   Reply →

    What if in previous lives we were a different gender? Would that make us consider how we treat members of the opposite sex?

  • Stephen Gammack September 15, 2017   Reply →

    There needs to be a much deeper conversation about gender equality. What we are fostering is a false equality, particularly in the Western Societies as talked about here. An equality that asks women to give up their natural nurturing qualities is not a real equality but is actually harming us all. Men need the reflection of women deeply caring for themselves, and women can be leaders without replicating errant male ways, and yet this is such an emotive subject and difficult to write about with out it seeming like a restriction on the emancipation of women. If we are meant to be fragile and precious then it should make us question all the leadership and successes we have to date celebrated in men and women and consider if this is what we want to continue chasing and accepting as normal.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 20, 2017   Reply →

      It is true that often when it is mentioned that women do not need to take on the hardness and the bullish driven characteristic currently shown by many men, many take issue with it as ‘restriction on the emancipation of women’. Yet what if these characteristics are not even natural for men? Then what?
      The clarity Serge Benhayon shines on the many predicaments we are facing offers a much needed space for reflection and re-assessment of our ideals and beliefs.

  • John O Connell September 14, 2017   Reply →

    This is so wonderful to listen to, the clarity of how to examine a situation in that the end result is not the problem. Its important to not go into reaction of the end result, problem, but to go back how ever many steps to realise the source of the end result which is called a ” problem “. Just lovely.

  • Rowena Stewart September 14, 2017   Reply →

    Whatever well worn topic is placed in front of Serge Benhayon, he never fails to ignite it with a new perspective and true purpose. When we make life about coming back to our innate tenderness, sweetness and powerful fragility regardless of our gender, we establish the true footings for successful relationship with both genders. Wise words in a world that continues to pitch gender against gender, words that uphold and empower our collective values.

  • Stephen Gammack September 12, 2017   Reply →

    Both genders are equally worse off- this feels true, we can compare the genders as much as we like and call out the behaviours of both sexes, but things will only change if we accept that much needs to change about how we all relate and the values we place on ourselves. “We are (all) fragile by nature” what a great starting point to make such a change.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 12, 2017   Reply →

    It is refreshing to witness someone call out the abuse and atrocities for what they are, as not acceptable in any shape or form, yet also hold all parties in absolute love, understanding and regard.
    On top of that, here Serge Benhayon is offering expanded insights into the state of play between men and women that is deeply honouring of us All.

  • Christoph Schnelle September 11, 2017   Reply →

    I find it interesting how quickly the tenderness can disappear from boys’ behaviour. At age 2 they may be very tender but at age three they may already be quite different. This is very early.

  • Lucy Dahill September 11, 2017   Reply →

    I love that there is no bashing in this interview, it is a discussion about how we can all appreciate each other more. There is a surrendering offered to the body when we stop trying to justify our gender and simply live from the essence of who we are. Now that is well worth dating!

  • jennym September 10, 2017   Reply →

    It was so supportive to feel the healing that is available when we are not fighting or competing against each other as women and between the genders.

  • Rachel Murtagh September 10, 2017   Reply →

    How beautiful is it to confirm that men and women are the same and equal in their tenderness? We spend so much of our lives putting on a front, trying to toughen up, putting on an act to hide the fact that we are indeed sensitive beings. What if both sexes honoured their sensitivity and lived it so… how much of life would change?

  • fiona lotherington September 7, 2017   Reply →

    It was so refreshing to hear men and women being discussed without any us and them. This interview shows the depth to which we need to go in order to turn around the problems we are experiencing in our relationships with ourselves as men and women and between the sexes. We need to step back a long way and question everything we think we currently know, not just a few steps to be able to see clearly.

  • HM September 6, 2017   Reply →

    Wow – how powerful is the quote ‘the world will be saved by the western woman’ – this really sums up where we are as a society and how much opportunity there is for women to work together. There is way too much separation that keeps us from living our potential.

  • Tricia Nicholson September 4, 2017   Reply →

    A beautiful expression on tv of true harmony between men and women and the livingness of all that is said that can be felt and is known as truth . What a difference to most tv broadcast and how refreshing and real this is to hear, it offers so much to us all in society to take heed from. Expression of who we really are and the absoluteness of this for both men and women and our appreciative interactions together confirming our sensitivity, tenderness and love.

  • Otto Bathurst September 2, 2017   Reply →

    Exquisite television brought to us by an exquisite man and an exquisite woman. Absolute living proof of the power of the combination of man and woman living in their true expressions.

  • Mary September 1, 2017   Reply →

    I can look back to when I was raising my daughter it was very noticeable that the young boys of her age were not allowed to cry if they hurt themselves and even at five there seemed to be huge pressure them to do well, compete against each other and excel at school. And this pressure was often coming from their fathers interestingly enough, so is it something that gets passed down from generation to generation and if this is the case perhaps it’s time to draw a line across this behaviour and say enough is enough, and start treating young boys and girls as the beautiful children they are.

  • John O Connell August 26, 2017   Reply →

    ” We ( male and female ) are fragile by nature we are very tender ” this is so lovely and true . The more we supports what is true about people the more it will be lived .

  • Stephen Gammack August 16, 2017   Reply →

    The tagline: “boys will be boys” its really actually not that subtle when it is laid bare here. And yet how many phrases and mannerisms do we associate with boys and men that keeps us stuck in a false picture of who we men are, which is gentle, tender and dare I say it naturally feminine in so many ways.

    • Lucy Dahill September 11, 2017   Reply →

      So true Stephen, there is such a cap put on men being tender and gentle yet the outplay of that is potentially men who don’t allow themselves to feel that tenderness as a positive and therefore fight it when it starts to come into their lives.

  • Rowena Stewart August 9, 2017   Reply →

    The depth of observation and understanding here is enormous. Serge Benhayon teaches us how, by taking some enormous steps back from every situation, we get to see a root cause and therein perceive another way forward. So far we have attempted to establish gender equality by ‘fighting for our rights’, yet the very essence of this takes us further away from our innate tenderness that lies within both men and women. The more we appreciate our true tenderness, the more we naturally grow together, re-discover our natural expression in this inherent partnership between men and women. Equality is not about doing the same things, it is about expressing from the same energy.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh August 6, 2017   Reply →

    Oh it makes my heart melt hearing the unwavering love, tenderness and honouring with which Serge Benhayon speaks. I consider myself very loving and caring of people, yet I have a long way to go until I am able to hold people with so much grace and understanding regardless of what their behaviour and choices. He is a true role model for fundamentally and unconditionally loving people.

  • Viktoria August 6, 2017   Reply →

    This war between the genders has been something that has been bugging me for a very long time. From a young age I always knew that boys are tender, and I never really understood what the term “boys will be boys” meant, until just now. This phrase always seemed like an insult to men so I was never interested in using it, and indeed it is. We are constantly doing/ saying things to keep ourselves in this illusion of ours.

  • Samantha Davidson August 2, 2017   Reply →

    I am in a relationship and comprehending the games we play in our genders really does allow us and me to be more free of judgement, protection and expectations. I am here to express being a woman, my husband a man, but both are equal in this, there is nothing to be superior or inadequate about. There are many binds in society that lead us astray from true relationships, it is so important that interviews such as this are on the internet, they blow the lid on the illusions we have buried into our interactions.

  • HM July 29, 2017   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon makes a great point about allowing people to be more of who they naturally are based on where they are at – so a woman who is caught up in what she looks like and is quite driven cannot go to the complete opposite overnight, but she can start to appreciate who she is underneath the drive and start from there.

    • Natallija August 2, 2017   Reply →

      Appreciating the comment you have shared here about ‘appreciating the women we are under the drive” is where I have been for a few weeks now and I must say the change is incredible. How amazing is it to view TV and be given a gift to heal an old way of living that keeps from being who we naturally are.

  • Natalie Hawthorne July 29, 2017   Reply →

    Now thats what I call a reality check! To ask where did we go astray and what caused this is not something that we have been asking and why. The comforts of how we are living and what we have created we are so attached to, that we don’t want to expose and question them because we then get to see that we are fully responsible for the loveless ways we have created.

    • Otto Bathurst September 2, 2017   Reply →

      Yes. We are not even asking the question – let along trying to find the answer. In fact, I feel that the the answer is very simple if the question is asked with absolute intention to find the truth; open ourselves up and the answers are there. So, how bad does it have to get before humanity has the humility to ask this question?

  • Rowena Stewart July 29, 2017   Reply →

    These interviews are worth watching several times over, as each time another piece of wisdom comes to the fore. Re-uniting both genders with our exquisite tenderness brings us back to a true foundation of relationship, firstly within our selves and then with each other. Never before has the issue of gender relationships been spoken about in such an empowering way.

  • Rowena Stewart July 26, 2017   Reply →

    It is so refreshing that this conversation goes nowhere near the usual norms that this topic usually engenders. When we consider life and our relationships between genders from the point of our ‘Being-ness’ and innate tenderness, we are empowered to see that the way to develop a truly honouring relationship is not through ‘fighting for our rights’ but in bringing to the fore what has been to date a very protected but immensely powerful quality within us. When we truly recognise one another’s tenderness, these relationships naturally resume their natural respectful expression.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh August 10, 2017   Reply →

      It is a profound realisation that it is never about fighting, discord or demands. If we look through our history this has never brought a harmony, unity and honouring of one another, in fact it has always fueled further separation, animousity and abusive dynamics. “When we truly recognise one another’s tenderness, these relationships naturally resume their natural respectful expression”. A great truth to remember in every relationship.

  • Natalie Hawthorne July 26, 2017   Reply →

    Amazing interview with Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith – an incredible job. Having this recorded so we can go back to every time we want to is absolute Gold. The biggest thank you to you both for such amazing truth. Life changing stuff!

  • Kerstin Salzer July 19, 2017   Reply →

    When women and men allow more of their tenderness and fragility in their lifes relationships between men and women will look different.

  • Fiona Cochran July 17, 2017   Reply →

    ‘We are accepting a game where we are the pawns’ yes and it’s a game which is getting more serious and extreme by the day as more and more people seem to accept living with hardness and abuse.

  • Fiona Cochran July 17, 2017   Reply →

    The statistic that 1 women a week is killed by a current or former partner is so shocking and yet these figures are not widely discussed, in the sense that there is something seriously wrong with the way we are living and what is going on for us if this is the case. We need to start being honest about what we have accepted as ‘normal’ as it is so far from normal and the truth of who we are.

  • Fiona Cochran July 17, 2017   Reply →

    What has become our normal is so far away from our natural way of being and we have come to accept this as our reality rather than question what is actually going on.

  • Jonathan Stewart July 16, 2017   Reply →

    Exposing that the gain of women’s equality is not true equality because it has been won through the use of male energy and at the expense of their health rather than through the honouring and acceptance of their true nature is a hugely significant revelation and accounts for so much of the present disharmony within the sexes.

  • Jonathan Stewart July 16, 2017   Reply →

    Exposing the falseness of some women’s desire for a ‘tough’ man as a cover, a protection of the fear of their fragility lays bare the truth of the true nature of women and their glory that is suppressed by society.

  • Natalie Hawthorne July 15, 2017   Reply →

    Is it not fascinating that what we have created to be our normal is very very far away if not the opposite to who we naturally are designed to be. Our choices to what energy we allow in and through us is one of responsibility that we can’t really ignore for to much longer. If we do our bodies are going to be letting us know loud and clear.

  • Kerstin Salzer July 14, 2017   Reply →

    When Serge Benhayon is talking about the state of a baby and its natural tenderness it is deeply to ponder why we ended up as a race of humans with so much cruelty going on.

  • Jonathan Stewart July 13, 2017   Reply →

    The proposal by Serge Benhayon that for true healing to occur requires taking ‘a hundred steps back’ rather than finding a solution to the symptom/situation really does present the way forward to address and resolve the present worldwide crisis in illness, disease, mental health and social dis-order and by doing so will establish brotherhood on Earth.

  • John O Connell July 13, 2017   Reply →

    Thank you Rebecca Asquith, I love Serge Benhayon’s simple story about how if a person cuts their finger while preparing food, a situation just about everyone can identity with, is simple evidence that shows how sensitive and fragile we as human really are – male or female.

  • Jonathan Stewart July 12, 2017   Reply →

    The journey to return to our tenderness as shared by Serge Benhayon and explained here without judgment as to why to do so is so challenging, makes so much sense that it feels so much more achievable.

  • Jonathan Stewart July 12, 2017   Reply →

    The co-dependence between men and women to protect us from our fragility based on a false interpretation of the meaning of fragile, exposed by Serge Benhayon in this conversation, is a paradigm shift no less significant than discovering that the world is not flat but round. To adopt and live from the understanding presented here changes the whole dynamics of relationships not only between men and women but in every relationship no matter what gender, age or nationality.

  • Rowena Stewart July 12, 2017   Reply →

    Love the ‘bombshell’ at the end. We are so entrenched in the reality we have created and I really appreciate Serge Benhayon’s ability to take a huge step backwards in order to observe the whole issue not just a thin section of it. We are all so innately tender and sweet what, on Earth, are we subscribing to that has resulted in such awful violence against one another when our true natures are in fact the complete opposite.

  • James Nicholson July 9, 2017   Reply →

    So very true Ariana and something we can all feel within. A child just tends to forget it as they grow up. We are all deeply sensitive and tender beings – Serge Benhayon helps to expose this fact and has helped re-kindle this in many men worldwide including myself.

    • Natallija August 8, 2017   Reply →

      The tenderness you share here is what is the powerful sharing of this video has for all to hear and feel. That like many there is another way to be and live that is far from what we are currently projecting to the world.

  • Caroline Francis July 5, 2017   Reply →

    For a man to know who he is in a world that is set up against knowing who he is I have to question my or our responsibility as women in this. When a man is not being himself what have I allowed into my life? By allowing a man space and truly loving him from a place of love for oneself opens the door offering the true qualities to be let out and expressed.

  • John O Connell July 4, 2017   Reply →

    Its lovely when Serge Benhayon explains ” sensitivity allows us to communicate and relate at a level that we have until now not experienced as a community ” is it not amazing and tragic ,we have gotten ourselves into the mess the world is in between men and women where we kill each other due to the fact that we have abandoned our sensitivity so as to not feel the truth and be sensitive to whats truly going on .

  • Adele Leung July 3, 2017   Reply →

    No matter how the reality of men and women are today, to redefine what the truth is of genders, we are to live what we know is true for us within our hearts. To let go of all the pictures of what defines a man as well as of a woman, and simply live this truth with ourselves and with others.

  • Natalie Hawthorne July 1, 2017   Reply →

    I remember being 12 years of age and playing rugby with the boys at lunch time and trying to be as tough as them, such an extraordinary force of masculine energy and being really hard, even sometimes aggressive in a subtle way. This hardness was encouraged as we grew up and I totally lost sight of my sweet, tender and delicate nature. Thank goodness for Serge Benhayon and the modalities of Universal Medicine I have been able to heal and let go of what was causing such a destructive being that I was pretending to be.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh July 8, 2017   Reply →

      When I see the tenderness in young boys and in those men who like Serge Benhayon choose to live the true power and grace of their essence, I realise that the hardened and aggressive nature so frequently attributed to men is not honouring of even the men. The fact that women have also been adopting the same in a bid for ‘equality’, shows how lost we all have been as a society.

  • HM June 30, 2017   Reply →

    Ariana – pictures are what hold us back from being who we are in full. Even starting to acknowledge we have a picture starts to break this cycle of ‘never enough’. And as you say here – starts to give us a foundation of what is real.

  • John O Connell June 29, 2017   Reply →

    Thank you Rebecca a beautiful interview. I have always wondered how we as male and female got to a place of hating and disliking each other . For when one holds a new born baby male or female that is not what you get.

  • Kerstin Salzer June 28, 2017   Reply →

    It is beautiful to hear and repeat hearing what we naturally are, as our picture of ourselves is often not meeting this joy, we naturally are.

  • jennym June 28, 2017   Reply →

    What I love about these interviews is that no matter the topic the understanding behind any topical issue lies 100 steps back where we separated from who we truly are. It means that we can avoid complicating things and if we choose deal with things at their root cause not at the symptom level.

  • Carmel Reid June 27, 2017   Reply →

    This is such a simple explanation that helps us to understand what is truly going on in the world

  • HM June 26, 2017   Reply →

    I love what is shared here about being delicate and sensitive and how we are all naturally this. And in truth we all know we don’t like pain and yet we cause it to each other all of the time.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 25, 2017   Reply →

    How refreshing to have a conversation which unravels the issues between men and women without taking sides or blame and with such a deep level of love and honouring for everyone.

    As well as profoundly informative, this is a great example for the way to approach any relationship issues: in a manner that calls out what needs attention whilst seeing the highest in both parties and honouring them as such.

  • Kerstin Salzer June 25, 2017   Reply →

    I can only say Thank you. Thank you for this interview and raising this topic concerning men and women where most of us have given up on ourselves and stay trapped in hardness.

  • Katerina Nikolaidis June 24, 2017   Reply →

    Watching this video was like being bathed with the most delicate precious essence rekindling my own essence in the process – to celebrate our delicateness, to celebrate our fragility and honour it always, and not acknowledge that the reality we have ‘generated’ as Serge Benhayon brilliantly points out is ‘not the reality of our beingness.’ Wow – let us fully feel that, accept it and turn our lives around and in the entire world in the process.

  • SCE June 21, 2017   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon – redefining standards – Any kind of abuse is a million miles from who we are.

    • Natallija June 29, 2017   Reply →

      Yes and the willingness to let this ride is the marker of the quality we are willing to live.

    • Fiona Cochran July 17, 2017   Reply →

      Yes, yet another example of Serge Benhayon ‘redefining standards’ and exposing what is not true. There is so much that we have accepted as normal which is so far away from the truth of who we are.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 21, 2017   Reply →

    The honouring with which Serge Benhayon relates to men and women equally and the reflection he offers that we are all so much more loving, precious and divine in our essence than we have been living is truly exquisite.

  • Aimee Edmonds June 20, 2017   Reply →

    We are so much more than the stereotypical slander that is imposed upon females and males everyday. Thank you Serge Benhayon for bringing truth to our natural state of being with each other, and how far we have walked away from that. Because of you, I now bring more understanding to relationships and also what others are telling me that is very much one sided. There is always more to look at and deeper to feel in situations between people then what they are outwardly expressing.

  • Victoria Lister June 19, 2017   Reply →

    There’s no doubt about it – there is in truth very little that is different between men and women. What we have accepted and normalised as our so-called ‘differences’ – the reality that is not the reality – however sets us apart enormously. Thank God there is Serge Benhayon, a man who knows the reality we should be living, to show us the true way forward.

  • Samantha June 18, 2017   Reply →

    Wow I love what Serge Benhayon exposes here, naturally we are all super tender and sensitive, we have just not been given the tools to deal with it – and most do what they can to hide this.
    Love love these episodes.

  • Shami June 16, 2017   Reply →

    In this interview it is very apparent that there is no condemnation of men or women. There is no mightily cast judgement. There is even no comparison. There is simply the stating of the facts as they are and a willingness to go to the depths of why things are the way they are so that we can begin to make the necessary changes. This to me is a great part of true philosophy – a seeing of the whole and applying that whole to daily life so there may be evolution as a one humanity.

  • Kerstin Salzer June 14, 2017   Reply →

    To have Serge Benhayon here, who is living what he is talking is giving a deep reflection what everybody is able to live, the vivacessness, love and joy is not only for some, but for everybody. Men and women are mostly captured in their roles like in an empty prison. Serge Benhayon is free in his expression of love and he leads the way where everybody can go if we choose it.

  • HM June 12, 2017   Reply →

    The tougher and more hard women feel they need to be to get through life, dictates the toughness and hardness men call in to be ‘a strong man’ – so we have to look at what we are choosing as a society for this to be happening right underneath our noses.

  • Vicky Cooke June 12, 2017   Reply →

    ‘violence is impossible for any gender, yet we have violence’. Definitely something to ponder on. We have violence yet it is impossible for us. So how far away have we walked from the truth of who we are, from the truth of our natural gentleness and tenderness? Also ‘What is the woman’s body showing us in the current way we are in society .. women are not flourishing.’ So much is said here in this interview for us to discuss.

  • Shami June 12, 2017   Reply →

    The statistics that Rebecca Asquith gives us at the beginning of this interview are extremely confronting and for me they bring up a lot of sadness. I can understand why Rebecca brought this current situation in to the interview with Serge Benhayon and I am so grateful for his responses because, as always, he brings not a solution to the predicament but an greater understanding of why we are where we are in the first place, which empowers every person to begin to make changes, in their own time.

  • Natalie Hawthorne June 10, 2017   Reply →

    When we look at the female statistics of illness and disease we can’t deny how very far we are away from being who we naturally are. If we look back generations ago there was a much more simple life being lived. Today as Woman we are expected to be able to do absolutely everything, pretty much all at once, how can this possibly be harmonious to the natural divine beings that we are. I know I have adopted a way of living in the past that was all about the doing and still to this day I catch it coming in. Since meeting Serge Benhayon and studying Esoteric Women’s Health I have totally changed the way I am with myself and the way I am in the world. A way of being that is changing day by day and becoming deeper by the minute.

  • Jenny James June 10, 2017   Reply →

    Awesome TV Serge with Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith! Until we truly realise and appreciate how precious and tender we all absolutely are, we will always be at odds with ourselves and each other.

  • Jennifer Smith June 9, 2017   Reply →

    Arianna, what you have said here is very true. What we see here we have allowed and its not about blaming its about taking responsibility and saying that I want to live another way. Unfortunately though until something extreme happens such as an illness, it is a rare thing for us to stop and consider that there is in fact another way, a way which is so so natural.

  • Jennifer Smith June 9, 2017   Reply →

    l love how in this interview there is not an ounce of criticism at all, but certainly a questioning. A questioning asking us how far away are we from the essence of who we are; the essence which is very naturally there when we are small children. What happens as we grow into adulthood and loose touch with that very beautiful innocent and exquisite nature. I saw a video of 2 small children today, one had hurt their knee. They walked up to the other child, who was a boy, and put their leg out. The little boy put down his broom, knelt down and very meticulously and gently kissed the knee of the little girl. Once that was done the little girl went on her way. We look at and share these videos, because we love them and the sweetness that is offered by children in these situations, but do we stop and say…”wow that was me when I was a child, What’s happened? Where have I gone?

  • rosanna bianchini June 8, 2017   Reply →

    Beautiful answers here of what the true expression of gender could look like, everything stripped away to reveal the truth of our natural essence.

  • Shami June 8, 2017   Reply →

    Isn’t it interesting how we can live our whole lives, trying to find solutions to everything we can see and feel is out of kilter with what we all innately know is true, only to find that the answers genuinely do live in ourselves and the in the ability to take 100 steps back through all of our choices and as a global race of people to find what was there at the start, and to find that none of those ill behaviours are really who we are at all.

  • Natalie Hawthorne June 8, 2017   Reply →

    Life style choices that are reflected in the body can never lie, it is about being open and honest to see what you have been choosing to get you where you are today and see where you can make new choices that will not foster dis-harmony in the body.

  • Natalie Hawthorne June 4, 2017   Reply →

    The functioning that Serge talks about is literally everywhere. We have chosen to confirm to a way of existing that means we do what best we know in any situation and function through life. In this function we start to feel like it is ground hog day, same thing over and over even if it might be slightly different. We all know deep down that this is not our true emanation of who we can be. Cutting a cycle that is like a broken record to explore and connect to our inner most quality within is where we can only truly find the Joy that each day holds, no matter where you are and what you are doing.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 4, 2017   Reply →

    We generate our reality, we are the ones that say what is normal, so what we are seeing is a reality we have made real. This is such a significant insight shared by Serge Benhayon and a profound invitation to ask how come “we have a society that is not based on the truth of a human being? and where did we go astray that we ended up with such a reality?”

    • HM June 7, 2017   Reply →

      Well said – we certainly do generate our own reality. The fact is there will come a time when we can’t ignore the state of the world anymore. we either contribute to it or we heal it. Those are the choices and this episode starts to ask some relevant and big questions to society.

  • Melinda Knights June 3, 2017   Reply →

    Wow, I could not at times tell who was the interviewer and the interviewee because both brought such incredible things to say and there was an obvious equality there. There were no roles. That is highly unusual but very welcome in itself. The content was amazing to listen to, yet it was also very common sense, what’s shared here is achievable in terms of societies making changes to how we treat each other and the kind of world we therefore foster. Serge Benhayon is a true philosopher and very needed globally.

  • Vicky Cooke June 3, 2017   Reply →

    Woah … domestic violence is in many cases the only way someone may feel they can express themselves!!! A far cry from the tender young boy or girl they were. Not only does this show the importance of taking it back 100 steps so we get to see and feel the much bigger picture to understand someone but it also really highlights the importance of expression and being able to express ourselves in a way that is true where we are met and heard so this does not get bastardised and turn into the violence in which on many occasions it has done.

  • Christoph Schnelle June 3, 2017   Reply →

    I wonder how much it cripples us when we permanently are living a way that is not us – how much energy does it take, how much does it affect our life? Actors find being in a role hard work, perhaps it is for men as well.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 7, 2017   Reply →

      I have noticed the change in the body of young boys when they start playing such roles. It is especially obvious from behind when I witness their tender backs as they walk. With the younger boys there is a beautiful flow and openness, as if their whole body is alive with a gorgeous playful pulse and their shoulders is in a delicate dance. This is such a delight to witness. Then at some stage there seems to be a hardening, as if they are holding their breath. Their little shoulders seem to stiffen in movement and the pulse in their body is not as playful. The difference is remarkable.

  • Stephen Gammack June 3, 2017   Reply →

    I find the questions from Rebecca Baldwin deeply insightful. It is rare these days to find such depth in an interviewer, and I can feel how much this allows for the conversation to flow into so many angles of reflection about men and women in society. Because if we stop we can see that there is much to reflect on about how men and women’s roles have become confused and what is shared is that what we accept as normal, like men and now women cage fighting, is not our natural state, and from this perhaps lies the reason for our growing rates of ill health, the choice to not live what is truly supportive for our bodies.

  • Michelle McWaters June 3, 2017   Reply →

    I love what is being discussed here. Of course it makes sense that if a child is rejected for being who they are or are told to “man up” they will shut down their sensitivity. It is no wonder that men and women struggle to relate to each other when we struggle to relate to ourselves first!

    • Aimee Edmonds June 20, 2017   Reply →

      Well said Michelle, I was having a story relayed to me this afternoon about a boy picking on the girls in class, and it was very one sided about the boy being nasty, and yes the behaviour is not acceptable, however, as they kept talking I said ‘what is going on for the boy?’ and that is when some truth started to be shared. It does not serve us to only look superficially at situations and judge from there, that is where so many of us are misunderstood and not seen for who we truly are.

  • Marianna June 2, 2017   Reply →

    Indeed, and to think that the issues of domestic violence etc are the result of the dramatic deviation away from our true nature. It is this deviation away from our true nature of love, harmony and tenderness that I find incomprehensible.

  • Marianna June 2, 2017   Reply →

    This interview is a tremendously in-depth discussion of the state of the world

  • Stephen Gammack June 2, 2017   Reply →

    I must admit I still feel the pressure to act with a level of hardness as a man in society. It is confusing to want to express tenderly, and yet have reaction to this and to feel lesser from being fragile and tender. I have been uncomfortable and not accepting enough of my own sensitivity. Serge Benhayon presentations have been pivotal in developing my understanding that it is ok to be a man who is not naturally rough.

  • Natalie Hawthorne June 2, 2017   Reply →

    When we get honest and admit that there is a lack of beingness in the way we are living and how this has created an existence where by we accept abuse either from ourselves and or others as our normal, it is no wonder we are where we are because of the denial and dismissal of how precious and tender we truly are. Everything is set up for us to not be this at all, but to be tough and shut down.

  • Vicky Cooke June 1, 2017   Reply →

    Yep or as Serge expresses take 100 steps back and we get to feel so much more stripping it right back to get to the root of the problem.

    • Viktoria August 6, 2017   Reply →

      To find out that there isn’t actually a problem, but just beauty underneath it all!

      • Nattalija April 8, 2018   Reply →

        Yes that is the ill truth we are sold and offered the truth is such quality TV.

      • Ariana March 17, 2019   Reply →

        Yes – in the face of what we see in the world it comes as a surprise that we have no issues between us, but in truth – just beauty. We need to live the beauty however in all we do or else it’s just words.

  • Stephanie Stevenson June 1, 2017   Reply →

    Wow – an invitation on TV to return to the absolute truth of who we are rather than be bound by a seemingly real way of living, that is in fact an energetically manipulated illusion.

  • Natallija June 1, 2017   Reply →

    I have watched this episode a number of times and I am so touched by the topic and what this offers us all when we look at how far we are heading in the opposite direction of the natural qualities we are able to live as men and women.

  • Kathleen Baldwin June 1, 2017   Reply →

    In this interview Serge Benhayon brings to light the wholeness of our being by qualifying the characteristics that both sexes have in common in our essence so we can all know ourselves from here first and then express the uniqueness of our particular sex in all the beauty and flavor that our gender has to offer. . . . now this is an equality that can never be argued with because we are all the same in essence.

  • Shami June 1, 2017   Reply →

    This interview is Epic in every sense of the word. My most favourite part is the smile at the end, when Serge Benhayon knows the magnitude of what he has just delivered.

  • Danna Elmalah May 31, 2017   Reply →

    A huge bomb just landed – when I heard the full episode number 5.. Jaw dropping, showing us all the steps we have turned away from what both our genders are in truth representing.. And the falsity we have fallen for. And hence we are now in the result of and need, as Serge explained,to go all the way back to where the problem started, meaning we indeed need to take 100 steps or more back to eventually truly resolve it. Yet we need to be very understanding that our both men and women have not lived the truth of who we are – and so being very tender on our return to dissolving all the lies we have allowed to be our reality – which is not our own, original truth. Thank you Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith – this is huge news – an invitation to come back to who we truly are. And no longer allow society to be run by lies.

  • HM May 31, 2017   Reply →

    As Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asqith have shared, men are naturally tender. I am blessed to know a handful of such men who are this in full, Serge being one of them. It has opened my eyes to the fact that a tough man is just a man who has allowed society to tell him who he should be. When a man is prepared to drop this, there is no stopping the realness and tenderness that is underneath.

    • Christoph Schnelle June 3, 2017   Reply →

      Yes, a tough man – does he have the backbone to be himself?

  • Leigh Strack May 30, 2017   Reply →

    When you begin watching a TV program, mostly you get a feel for how the episode will unravel and there are very few true surprises. Watching Serge Benhayon TV is full of wisdom, all interconnected to the core subject but expanded to include way more than one may have been willing to consider. This episode is full of surprises, yet is no surprise as to how we have come the the point we are currently at that violence is such a horribly ‘normal’ part of our society. Lets all take a moment to stop and really hear what it is that Serge is sharing with us and maybe our next generation will be given the freedom to grow and hold on the the natural tender essence we are all born with.

  • Natalie Hawthorne May 30, 2017   Reply →

    When we stop and listen to what Serge is presenting here that it is actually impossible for any gender to harm yet it has become our reality to do this makes you see it with different eyes and understanding. We have strayed so far from our natural essence to be doing something towards another that is actually harm and hurting them and ourselves. I say lets start stripping back right to the beginning so we feel supported to address what is not true in our lives. It doesn’t need to be violence as the extreme either we can start to look at our own lives and see if there is any level of abuse that we accepted as our reality.

  • Stephanie Stevenson May 30, 2017   Reply →

    As always, Serge Benhayon exposes lies and delivers truth with an absolute clarity, that leaves no doubt as to what is actually true.
    Women think they love tough men and to be treated that way, but it is a way of avoiding feeling the tenderness, delicateness and fragility within.

    • Stephen Gammack June 1, 2017   Reply →

      Yes Stephanie, I loved that part too, it is true that men want to feel safe to be gentle and tender, certainly for me anyway. I always felt a bit confused when I heard women saying they wanted a tough guy, as I knew that wasn’t me. Nowadays I feel very sure in myself that there is nothing to be gained by being hard and tough and that being gentle and fragile is a great thing to be.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 29, 2017   Reply →

    We can see how children of both sexes are immensely tender, delicate, sensitive and incapable of aggression in that. So this is our true nature – whatever age we are, but often it is not our reality.
    I love the simplicity of what Serge Benhayon proposes: if that is not our reality, then it is for us “to question the reality we have made real. as opposed to a different reality that is available to us.”

  • Vicky Cooke May 29, 2017   Reply →

    Another incredibly awesome and much needed interview with Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith. I love the analogy of the cut on the thumb to expose just how sensitive we actually are I have so experience that even with the smallest paper cut in how much it hurts and how my whole body is aware of this one tiny paper cut. ‘The fact is It is not our truth to be ruthless’ ‘It is not our truth to be aggressive’ – “hear hear!”. So much to discuss here. Thank you.

  • Natalie Hawthorne May 29, 2017   Reply →

    This is awesome to listen to, watch and feel. Feeling the truth of what Serge Benhayon is presenting and the depths of what he is saying totally exposes where we are today and our state of play. The reality that we have created which is so far from our natural expression of men and women.

  • Elizabeth Dolan May 29, 2017   Reply →

    I enjoyed this interview hugely. Rebecca Asquith is a great interviewer and it is obvious the equality between her and Serge Benhayon. The state of play between men and women is something that a lot of people are interested in and it was wonderful to have it discussed without the usual blaming and shaming that goes on when gender is the topic. Serge Benhayon clearly sees beyond the norm and I just loved his suggestion that if we are to really understand what is going on for men that we have to take 100 steps back to find the answer. This to me is brilliant because it ensures that we are not trying to find answers from a reaction to the current state of play.

    • Nattalija April 9, 2018   Reply →

      The respect between the interviewer an interviewee is palpable. There is no competition or one upmanship but a willingness to bring more and more understanding to the topic that harms us all equally.

  • Shami May 29, 2017   Reply →

    To take 100 steps back where we would arrive at the start of a person’s journey, where they are a tender child who would never hurt or cause harm. this is the door to understanding ourselves as a one humanity and this is where true understanding comes from.

  • Stephen Gammack May 29, 2017   Reply →

    If we accept that to relate and connect with other people is a good thing then we surely must also embrace our sensitive nature. Because as explained here the two go hand in hand, our ability to be open and share how we are feeling relates strongly to our sensitivity. If this is an innate quality, which I believe it is, then we should stop using phrases such as “he’s too sensitive” and instead see the strength in this word.

  • HM May 28, 2017   Reply →

    Very exposing here how women can go for ‘tough’ men to look tender in comparison. I was hard as nails and very driven and certainly wanted the mucho man. So hearing this really brought home my reasoning behind that and it is only in the last few years, after connecting to and appreciating who I am as a woman, that I have let go of the investment in tough men.

    • Ariana January 20, 2019   Reply →

      That you have the awareness of this alone is a celebration HM, and you have acted to connect to the truth of who you, we, all are.

  • Andrew Mooney May 28, 2017   Reply →

    The simplicity and depth offered here to the conundrum of the ‘battle of the sexes’ which has plagued humanity for a long time is truly profound. Well worth listening to.

  • Kerstin Salzer May 28, 2017   Reply →

    This is a conversation I certainly will listen to on a regular basis as it contains so much wisdom presented with love and delicacy concerning women and men.

  • rosanna bianchini May 28, 2017   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon’s understanding of man and his psychology is deeply touching to witness here, – such delicacy in the way he is able to bring men back to know who they are so that they can begin to be all of who they are.

  • Sarah Karam May 27, 2017   Reply →

    This has to be my favourite episode so far. The gender issue is so interesting, the points Serge Benhayon make in this video are so normal and make so much sense that when I am watching, the main thing that crosses my mind is wondering why I didn’t say this stuff already or why more people aren’t bringing this to the table? The stand out line for me was “What if our reality is simply a version of reality but not “the” reality?”
    I have to agree, what are we basing our current state of affairs on? Well perhaps we are trying to solve the problem without taking 100 steps back? Great feeling, to watch TV and feel like you didn’t waste any time.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 30, 2017   Reply →

      I love the sobering and empowering insights offered through such a conversation. It is so easy to despair at what we see in the world and either give up or knee jerk into trying to force a solution without having a full understanding of just what it is that requires attention. Just these two concepts alone, of realizing that what we hold ‘real’ is a reality we have created which inherently means we have full power to change it, and the need to take 100 steps back in order be able to understand the dynamics at play instead of being a puppet of our reactions, just these alone are huge.

  • HM May 27, 2017   Reply →

    This poses the question – what have we allowed? A huge interview that certainly asks me to look at, even as a woman – how do I see a man? For his absolute tenderness first no matter what? It calls for responsibility in all aspects of human life – from the parents to the friends to the partners.

  • Stephanie Stevenson May 27, 2017   Reply →

    What we accept as ‘normal’ in life now is far from living from the innate Divine Essence and naturally tender being that we are that we all are. A great exposure of what is truly going on to examine how these behaviours exist.

  • Kerstin Salzer May 27, 2017   Reply →

    It is so beautiful to hear and deeply resonates in my heart what we as woman and equaly as human beings are in truth. This I never heard in any other interview and discussion about women or men.

    • Natallija November 5, 2017   Reply →

      And this is just the start of such powerful discussions we are offered to extend and support us in the world of sensational media and device watching.

  • Stephen Gammack May 27, 2017   Reply →

    Has there ever been a time in history where we have allowed boys and men to express tenderness fully. Perhaps a long time ago, but considering the travails of our current times wouldn’t it be an incredible experiment to allow tenderness and gentleness to flourish, make that a worldwide campaign, marketing and giving men permission to be themselves. “Boys will be boys” indeed.

    • Nattalija April 9, 2018   Reply →

      Tenderness in the missing ingredients that our men are craving to express. Serge Benhayon is offering the world this revelation. A sign of how far we have moved from our nature way of expression.

  • rosanna bianchini May 27, 2017   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon has the most amazing ability to take those hundred steps back to be able to observe and discern what the truth is, underlying any behaviour. In that understanding there is huge space for the situation or behaviour to be turned around.

  • HM May 26, 2017   Reply →

    Love this interview and the statement expressed here about the fact that men have not even reached the point by which they can openly express that the toughness is not truly them. Wow – how far away have we come from supporting and nurturing the tenderness we naturally are. It also shows the responsibility we have as parents and adults to reflect to kids that they can be who they are.

  • Stephen Gammack May 26, 2017   Reply →

    A conversation on men and women with no blame and no bashing of either gender. The more we understand the human condition we have created the less we feel the need to take sides. Instead we can start to understand and accept more. I thought the revelation on why women go searching for macho men was so beautifully simplistic and revealing. It makes sense that when we look for something to hide up what we don’t want to feel, and such reasoning can apply to every relationship we have, how much do we want another to reflect to us?

    • Natallija June 2, 2017   Reply →

      Yes Stephen Gammack I found this revelation very valuable as I often couldn’t understand why friends had chosen certain partners yet now from watching this episode I am more aware of the partners that I chose as well. A very revealing and humbling lesson.

    • Rowena Stewart July 13, 2017   Reply →

      Very true Stephen, I agree. A) It is a relief to hear someone present on the relationship between genders without beating a drum about either one, and B) What an awesome awareness to bring our attention to, the fact that we seek a greater level of toughness in a relationship in order to make our own level of toughness seem gentle! It all brings us back to realizing that underneath the armour we, men and women, have created for our selves, is an exquisitely tender essence yearning to be expressed.

  • Kerstin Salzer May 25, 2017   Reply →

    This discussion about men and women in our society is turning us and our world upside down in expressing and showing who we truly are. It is giving deep respect towards the true expression of men and women, which most of us are not used to as it has been almost lost.

    • Natallija December 3, 2017   Reply →

      This discussion is front page news. A reality check on the roller coaster of ideals and beliefs. Realness of reality TV!

    • Natallija December 17, 2017   Reply →

      Bringing respect and depth to expression is a far cry from what we are exposed to daily in the barrage of social media interactions.

  • Peta Lehane May 25, 2017   Reply →

    The extraordinary thing is the reality we find ourselves in is so far removed from the truth of who we are….the examples and statistics given make my jaw drop and it is amazing how this false reality is continually generated to the point where so many have given up on true equality between the genders, where both are free to express from their tender, delicate selves and be completely open with one another. So very many veils obscure the truth of who we are yet these steps we need to take us back as presented in this interview, are part of the turn around humanity desperately needs to return to itself. The best TV ever. Awesome.

  • Stephen Gammack May 25, 2017   Reply →

    To take the women cage fighting as an example, I would find I would have a bit of a reaction in watching that and want to exclaim it is wrong, and yet here is Serge, and his sharing is that its not his flavour, but no reaction or condemnation, just an understanding that is where many people are at, in terms of what we seek. That is a very loving way to be, and perhaps that way is the answer we seek, as I write this in the week of condemnation over the Manchester terror attack, we won’t change anything with anger, we have to find another way.

    • Natallija June 5, 2017   Reply →

      Yes the willingness of Serge Benhayon to be open, not judgemental and non – reactive is the key to a more humble and understanding approach to all topics that lead us to wonder what is truly going on for humanity if we are now seeing a sport that far from celebrates the two players in their own right.

    • Rowena Stewart July 30, 2017   Reply →

      What Serge Benhayon’s offers us here is a vital lesson to learn so I really appreciate you highlighting this point Stephen. When we choose to return to our innate tenderness, our desire for things like this pale into insignificance, both in the watching and performing of such things. These acts exist because of our demand for them, but when we begin to cherish, honour and express our inner tenderness and wisdom, what we demand from the outer world undergoes a huge and ever evolving revolution. There is no need to protest or ban something, if we focus instead on nurturing our innate qualities no one is interested in consuming such commodities and they just die a natural death.

  • Christoph Schnelle May 25, 2017   Reply →

    I find it quite strange that to succeed many women choose to express very similarly to men. I understand how that feels very disharmonious – but perhaps any alternative seems difficult to find?

  • Mary May 25, 2017   Reply →

    Thank you Serge Benhayon,for speaking up about the inequality between men and woman. We are so out of balance with each other and it doesn’t have to be this way – as you rightly say we are, both parties, very sensitive and fragile and we can so easily see this in young children. But somehow this seems to get crushed within us and we are left struggling in a society that doesn’t foster kind words and or deeds towards each other. We now seem to live in a dog eat dog society so to say and I find this very sad because we live so far away from the gorgeousness we really are.

  • Karin Barea May 24, 2017   Reply →

    The questions asked are so poignant as to why we are where we are today with such high levels of violence between and within the genders, and oneself. What happens as boys, who are naturally so tender, grow up? Such a great look at how we are parenting children and how we need to come from a different angle if both genders are to return to their sensitive, loving selves. I know I needed men to be tougher so I could see some semblance of gentleness in myself in comparison. This was such an imposition on the men around me and such a dishonouring of my natural sacredness and delicateness which I now know I can return to.

    • Natallija June 8, 2017   Reply →

      The motto of let boys be boys or how we presume that it is natural for all boys to enjoy rough and tumble play is far from the truth. What is offered here is the innate sensitivity that we all see in little boys and how we are quick as a society to box and demand a certain way of being to belong. Thank you Serge Benhayon for speaking with such love and deep levels of humbleness in this video.

  • rosanna bianchini May 24, 2017   Reply →

    “A reality is what has been generated to be a reality” This statement really does bring us to question the type and quality of the reality we’ve created – is it one of our beingness as Serge Benhayon asks? Or, is it a reality generated from nothing more than pictures, ideals, beliefs, habits and tradition? A compelling proposition and question and ones worth exploring and unpicking.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 24, 2017   Reply →

    I love how Serge Benhayon never takes sides or make it about this person or that. He always recognises the absolute love and divinity within each and every person, and looks at the dynamics that lead to the person expressing contrary to that innate essence.

    And how astute his observations are, making more sense than anything I have ever studied or come across. A gorgeous reminder that instead of mistrust and being wary of our fellow brothers and sisters, what we need is to work together and build a society that from day one values, nurtures and honours everyone’s true essence.

    • Ingrid Ward May 28, 2018   Reply →

      Beautifully expressed Golnaz. Serge Benhayon inspires me so much in many ways, one of them being the way he “recognises the absolute love and divinity within each and every person, and looks at the dynamics that lead to the person expressing contrary to that innate essence. “. To make the choice to approach life in this way removes any form judgement of the person standing in front of us which then allows the space to see them for who they truly are in essence; a divine and amazing being.

  • Gabriele Conrad May 23, 2017   Reply →

    “The reality which we have made our reality” – what we call normal in other words because enough people are doing it: a sorry state of affairs where men and women do not live who they truly are and force themselves and each other into falsities and untruths.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 24, 2017   Reply →

      In such an environment the questions posed by Serge which invite us to stop and reassess the foundations upon which we are building our lives are pure Gold.

      • Natallija November 19, 2017   Reply →

        So often the foundation is far from this level of quality and shine and we continue to accept less when deep inside we are beyond this and more!

    • Natallija November 10, 2017   Reply →

      Yes and when we start to normalise the abnormal we then need to seriously look at what is being delivered in this episode. A truth marker with an unwavering commitment to exposing our true potential.

  • Abby Hinchcliffe May 23, 2017   Reply →

    This brings worlds of understanding not only to the state of play between men and women, and our relationship with the world. When Serge first mentioned taking 100 steps back I felt the depth of absolute honour, understanding and love this man holds people in. We are so fortunate to be graced by these interviews. Thank you Rebecca Asquith, Serge Benhayon, and the production team.

    • Natallija June 4, 2017   Reply →

      Yes Abby, the honour, coated with bucket loads of humility and understanding, allows for this incredible interview to take place. Where a topic of discussion that hits to the truth is brought to the world with such honesty and openness.

    • Viktoria August 6, 2017   Reply →

      Yes, 100% – it is so amazing to have something to watch which brings truth in our lives. We are very blessed to have this group of people who are dedicated to life and love.

    • Rowena Stewart April 6, 2018   Reply →

      So true Abby. The degree of respect that Serge Benhayon holds everyone in is quite incredible. This interview invites us all to be spacious with each other so we can take a deeper look at the origins of our behaviour and bring a greater understanding to one another’s erratic behaviours. We are extremely fortunate to have these interviews that will serve mankind for thousands of years to come.

  • Nikki McKee May 23, 2017   Reply →

    Such huge topics covered and so many bombs dropped, yet all with a sparkle in the eyes – both Serge and Rebecca. When delivered with such sparkle, it’s impossible to get down and out about the state of play between men and women and this was a very strong example of a man and a woman living in their divine-ness.

  • Ingrid Ward May 23, 2017   Reply →

    Now this is television at its absolute best; informing, inspiring and continually challenging what we as humanity have accepted to be normal, such as “fragility is a weakness”. The belief shattering statement ‘Fragility is not a weakness’, on its own is enough to make everyone sit and take notice of the wisdom that Serge Benhayon shares so very regularly. I am one who sat up and took notice 12 years ago, and haven’t stopped being inspired since.

  • Nicola Lessing May 23, 2017   Reply →

    I absolutely loved listening to and watching every minute of this conversation. What Serge Benhayon shares makes so much sense that I always feel as if I am hearing my own inner voice speaking and yet at the same time it is absolutely revelatory and deeply healing. Quite a magical combination. Great questions from Rebecca Asquith too!

    • Jonathan Stewart July 12, 2017   Reply →

      Beautifully expressed, Nicola, and know exactly what you mean. What Serge Benhayon says is so familiar yet at the same time it is new.

  • Susan Wilson May 23, 2017   Reply →

    We give our innate power away because we don’t understand that we are all meant to be fragile and gently caring – which is our strength no matter what the gender. It is that simple, so why don’t we want to see the simplicity?

    • Natallija August 18, 2017   Reply →

      There seems to be no space for fragility and sensitivity in this world as it has become a sign of weakness that tells us that we don’t fit in or the usual “toughen up ” approach. This episode is a great example of how one man allows himself to express his truth, in order for us all to know that the same truth resides in all.

  • Judith Andras May 23, 2017   Reply →

    “How did we end up with a reality that is actually not the reality of our beingness?”
    A brilliant question to ask. And it is exactly the lack of these kind of questions that lead us into this situation, because we accept the lowering of standards and the more we accept it the more we lose who we truly are and what we really come from.

    • Rowena Stewart July 16, 2017   Reply →

      So true Judith and this is the mastery of Serge Benhayon, that he puts these questions back under our noses and empowers us to remember who we truly are, time and time again.

    • Natallija September 3, 2017   Reply →

      This question is so on the mark of how far we have removed ourselves from what we truly are and what we value over our core being.

    • David March 17, 2018   Reply →

      Judith there are so many examples of this, so many different places and times where we see that we are not by any stretch living and being all of us. time for a game change on that front, time to actually start to explore who we are in all its depths.

  • Joshua Campbell May 23, 2017   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon, where would we be without you? This is a sensitive topic and one that needs to be talked about for sure, and you hold nothing back even if most would find this confronting. How many marriages out there are true after all if we have such high domestic murder rates from the people we are supposed love and who love us back? Most would not even consider that the very definition of love is clearly no where near its truth and that what we are reacting to about the other person is something that is definitely not love at all.

  • Lieke Campbell May 23, 2017   Reply →

    I loved the part about the fact that if women are not flourishing in society it means we have to look at how we made society. Instead what now often is said is that women have to toughen up or change to be able to deal with society – this is a very true comment. I would love to change society to be more supportive of women and men to be who they truly are.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 26, 2017   Reply →

      This is such a beautiful example of the difference between (a) going into opposition and fighting something, egged on by our hurts and judgments, and in contrast (b) lovingly shedding light on, debasing and healing the foundations which seeded and encouraged the loveless and disharmonious expression in the first place.
      Which one is a quick band-aid for some, and which one offers expansion and evolution for the All? It is kind of a no-brainer.

      • Natallija June 17, 2017   Reply →

        The shedding of light and bringing more understanding is what brings a healing for all rather than the cycle of “I win” attitude that is played out in relationships time and time again.

    • Natallija July 2, 2017   Reply →

      The responsibility lies in looking at the part we have played in allowing this play between men and women to continue and worsen over the decades.

      • Natallija November 26, 2017   Reply →

        Every moment we make our relationship less than love and understanding, we add to the increasing cycle of harm that we are currently seeing escalate worldwide.

    • Nattalija February 4, 2018   Reply →

      The responsibility that is shared here is the big Ah! moment we often don’t want to hear or played down as the reality is far from a blame game but a truth of how we all have a part to play.

    • Nattalija February 22, 2018   Reply →

      Our current world trends are a marker of this as we don’t need to have it on the front page but we can all feel that something is amiss.

    • Sandra Vicary March 30, 2018   Reply →

      Yes Leike, it is so true that there is an expectation for women, and men, that we should ‘toughen up’ if we are to survive living in the world that we have created. What happened to sensitivity and understanding of each other so that we can all be who we are and not pretend to be something that we are not? It would be a wonderful thing to change this perspective and to fully support each other rather than create even more of the competitive behaviour that we have grown so accustomed to.

    • Nattalija April 14, 2018   Reply →

      All parts make the whole as do our choices for the all.

  • Rik Connors May 23, 2017   Reply →

    The state of play of men and women in general and how I used to live is far from the qualities I now live. I am a living example of a tender sensitive man. I once lived as a male ‘living on the edge’. Playing hard on the football field. Surfing big waves and pulling into big barrels placing my body on the line. In the party scene I challenged what it was to ‘party hard’ by partying for 3 days with no sleep. In all of these roles I was aggressive using my size to intimidate others who challenged or contested me. Through healing via Universal Medicine and the reflection of true beauty of Serge Benhayon I realised what my body was truly craving – a relationship of being honest and just how much I craved intimacy and the realness of love and all I felt as a sensitive delicate man. I am so much more surrendered in myself and my body and not falling for acceptance or recognition outside of myself as the roles were of ‘playing hard’ to fit and mold into society. I cannot recommend more just how great it feels to honour what I know and feel from this beauty inside.

    • Mary May 23, 2017   Reply →

      Having just met you Rik, I couldn’t imagine you partying hard for 3 days straight! I was stuck by your warmth and sensitively.
      I have worked all my adult life in a male dominated industry and I have noticed that as young men they want to work hard and play harder, I have watched how many men who come into the workplace with the drive to become successful reach a certain point usually when they become dads for the first time and all that tenderness and sensitivity that they bottle up in order to compete and become successful pours out of them as they nurtures their first child it is quite delightful because at last they are allowing that side of them to be seen and felt by all.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 26, 2017   Reply →

      Knowing many men like yourself and Serge Benhayon who live with the greatest level of love, care, tenderness and integrity, I do wonder about the depth of hurt and limitation experienced by men because of the cliché characterisation so many find themselves trapped in, which keeps them away from gorgeous expression you are sharing about. And at the end of the day we all lose.
      It is a joy to read about this turn around Rik. A lovely reflection that none of those hard aggressive acts were real.

      • Natallija June 3, 2017   Reply →

        Yes the cliche and ideals that run the images of men today leave not an inch for men to surrender and give themselves the permission to just be. I have often seen young boys on the playground forced to play a particular sport in order to fit in and belong when what is truly seen is a gentle and loving young boy who is not naturally rough and hasn’t got a single speckle of competitiveness in him.

  • Jennifer Smith May 22, 2017   Reply →

    What a fabulous discussion. Even though what is talked about is what is going on for men and then for women, what is highlighted is that in truth there is no difference. We are all very naturally tender, adorable, loving etc and we have been conditioned through society to say “well that’s normal for a man or woman”. We are not questioning the status quo, we are not asking is this true. We think because something may be common, we think that this is natural. But ‘common’ just shows us how far off track we are and how far away we have gone from our delicate and tender essence that is within each and every human being.

    • Natallija June 23, 2017   Reply →

      The common is so portrayed as the normal nowadays. The levels of disregard are far greater than we care to imagine of men and women. What is so powerful in this episode is how Serge Benahyon continues to bring the truly without judgement but a moment to ponder on what we truly all are and what we so often ignore and choose to be.

  • leigh matson May 22, 2017   Reply →

    These are very rich interviews, so vastly different from anything else I’ve watched where the focus is all about the object, the achievement, the job role etc. Having conversations about our being and how that is (or not) related to in the world today is awesome, Thank you.

    • Rowena Stewart September 3, 2017   Reply →

      I agree Leigh. These interviews deliver a whole new understanding on some very well worn topics. When we begin to look at life via the quality of our being-ness, we are given a whole new portal through which to bring about truly positive changes, changes that begin within us and then naturally radiate out into the world.

      • Nattalija February 22, 2018   Reply →

        Yes and bringing the being first and foremost into all our expression would change the way we communicate with one another on a whole new level.

    • Nattalija April 14, 2018   Reply →

      This episode is a moment to really fathom what is truly going on for humanity; The more we sugar coat the more we are ignoring what is truly going on for us all.

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