Episode 12 - Sex, Nakedness and Making Love

Is your sex life feeling 2D? And if yes – is it because what happens in the bedroom is not the foremost determinant of the richness of your love life?

In this episode – the first in a series on Sex and Relationships – Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith talk about how we can establish a wholesome societal understanding of sex, the difference between sex and making love, the energetic factors that contribute to impotence and why sex and making love can be absolutely amazing and yet completely normal all at once.

Forget Sex in the City this is ‘Sex in the Rural’…there are no cocktails or $1000 shoes, but as usual, philosophy and substance on tap.


  • Mary February 29, 2020   Reply →

    What a fascinating conversation to be having, which led me to wonder if we adored ourselves and each other would there be a need for prostitution? I was talking recently to a man who told me that he feels men go with prostitutes to lessen the feeling of rejection that they have around women. That women hold all the cards, as the men think they are in charge but actually it’s the woman who is in charge. It’s amazing the games we play with each other all to avoid true intimacy.

  • Melinda Knights February 27, 2020   Reply →

    I love how this is about the quality we can experience all the time with our partner, it breaks the idea that there are only special moments, and opens us up to living a level of intimacy, deep love, and adoration together all the time.

  • Mary December 20, 2019   Reply →

    I just caught what Rebecca said that if we say cook in function and just push past the other person to get to the pot, what are we saying about that relationship? What is the quality between the people whether it be a couple or friends. Could this be the malaise of our society where everything is lived at the surface level and there isn’t that depth of intimacy that we know can be there. We hold ourselves back from going deeper incase we are rejected in some way which reopens old hurts from when we were not appreciated for the gorgeousness we all are as children.

  • Viktoria July 17, 2019   Reply →

    How prepared are we to let another person show us the depth of love they have for us. It can make us uncomfortable, especially if we do not have that for ourselves. As a woman, I have experienced this on several occasions – where I have rejected partners & made excuses as to why our relationship will not work. Reflecting back on it – the sole reason is that I could not accept the depth of love offered, simply because I did not have it for myself or feel like I deserved it. We are brought up in society which is constantly telling us that who we are is not enough, we grow up thinking we’re not worth it and therefore don’t know any better. Sensitive men are called weak & therefore true care is often mistaken as a weakness. Women want the tough macho man, yet we crave to be honoured and touched tenderly – but when that comes along, we don’t recognise it as that because society has dictated our vision differently.

    • Mary November 30, 2019   Reply →

      What you say makes complete sense to me Viktoria, when someone tells us how much they appreciate and love us it is difficult to hear and settle with such tenderness, mainly because for the majority of us we have not been held with anything like tenderness when we were young so that it is an alien concept for us. It’s so easily done I know a child who was not shown any true tenderness was not cherished for all the love that they are and when presented with tenderness and care did not know how to deal with it and rejected it out of hand. Slowly I have watched them accept the love on offer and have melted the hardness they surrounded themselves with so that they can now express and receive love it has been amazing to watch the melting of the layers of protection. But not many of us get the opportunity to be held with such love, this fact is born out of the unloving society we live in.

  • Viktoria May 28, 2019   Reply →

    How many of us have ever made love? Have we even considered it a possibility in our lives or do we think it can only happen to the lucky ones who are amazing in bed? Well isn’t it that the “skill” doesn’t matter so much, but more how you are treated – how much the other person honours who you are.

  • Melinda Knights April 14, 2019   Reply →

    Love how this expands the topic from sex and that being about pivotal moments, to bringing an amazing shared quality with your partner throughout the whole day.

  • Viktoria April 13, 2019   Reply →

    To be truly naked in front of another person, without any protection but just an open heart is probably one of the most beautiful feelings we can experience. For us, and for the person standing in front of us.

  • Viktoria April 11, 2019   Reply →

    Growing up I was always interested in finding out about sex, this taboo subject that adults seemed to always avoid bringing up. So when I got to school, I ended up visiting the sex education nurse very regularly & ask her all sorts of questions – i got the educational, functional side of it – this is what happens and this is what could happen if you don’t do this, if you don’t use protection or abstain. I heard horror stories of what other people my age got up to & so on. But never was I ever spoken about the possibility that I could find a partner that would adore me to the core & an intimate act could be honouring of one another. That the respect and love we hold for each other in our every moment is then translated to the bedroom. This is such a precious teaching, it is beautiful and touches my heart. Is it possible that we are so crushed by the lack of this in our lives that the possibility seems ridiculous and sometimes our minds make it the exact opposite of what it really is?

  • Michael Brown March 5, 2019   Reply →

    If we have a problem with our sex life do we treat it as a symptom to fix or do we address how our life is that is leading to the issue?

  • Melinda Knights March 3, 2019   Reply →

    This is the type of conversation we need, especially with our youth, to share that there is something greater than sex, it’s making love and that comes from the way we live, and are together, well before we are together physically in bed.

  • Michael Brown February 26, 2019   Reply →

    We champion a healthy sex life like it is going out of fashion, yet we promote unhealthy lifestyles and expect the two to marry up!

  • SC February 18, 2019   Reply →

    As young children we are totally in our bodies, we love ourselves full stop, makes you wonder what happens from there to teenage years where many of us by then are so self conscious and wishing we looked liked someone else – what ever do we teach our kids? – it aint working.

    • Alexis Stewart February 27, 2019   Reply →

      What do we reflect to our kids? It’s actually very simple, we’re always either reflecting the truth of who we are or the lie of who we’re not. There is no middle ground.

  • Melinda Knights January 18, 2019   Reply →

    I loved the simplicity of what Serge presented about the link between adoration and transparency. By adoring ourselves we can more naturally share all of who we are, and likewise adoring others offers people the opportunity to be met and seen for who they are and invited to bring that forth and share it in full, and feeling safe and loved to do so.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh February 16, 2019   Reply →

      A fabulous simple and powerful way of making sure every one of us is given the opportunity to feel honoured, appreciated and invited to express the full glory that we truly are.

    • Mary May 20, 2020   Reply →

      Melinda, I got to feel adoration in my body recently, it is not something I’m familiar with but I knew instinctively the moment I felt it. It was not so much the adoration of me although I could feel this as a continuum of what I was feeling in the adoration of heaven and all that it is and all that it brings. In the adoration I feel everything changes because the magic of God is felt and seen, it feels boundless.

  • Ingrid Ward January 14, 2019   Reply →

    Best sex talk ever! I absolutely love how Serge Benhayon totally demystifies what sex is and, in the process, makes it so clear that is not just one ‘special’ moment in time between two people, but every single moment you spend with each other during the day – and night. How very different my life would have been if I’d had this wonderful ‘sex talk’ as I was growing up, instead of the very boring, and often very embarrassing, ones that we were presented with, in the 50’s and 60’s.

  • Hm December 15, 2018   Reply →

    I watch my 2yr old run around happily with no clothes on- in the privacy of our home- totally ok with her body. It makes me consider how much we have, as adults, have not totally appreciated our bodies and their role for each of us. The more I love myself the more I am open with my body.

  • Michael Brown December 7, 2018   Reply →

    Making love in conversation is something so new but makes so much sense.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh December 5, 2018   Reply →

    Once again Serge Benhayon so beautifully reminds us that we have been settling for a fraction of the gloriousness that is our true nature, and invites us to look at the areas that could do with observing and reflecting on whether we could take it deeper.

  • Michael Brown November 27, 2018   Reply →

    To be open is most definitely to be free.

  • Christoph Schnelle November 25, 2018   Reply →

    Here is a study of not holding back even when you are specifically attacked for what you are saying.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh December 26, 2018   Reply →

      And never wavering from presenting with an enormous level of love, transparency and honouring.

  • Michael Brown November 18, 2018   Reply →

    The concept of ‘making love’ used to be cringy to me, as I considered it to be some holistic sensual with lots of candles and mood lighting act. This video makes light-work of that picture and paints a beautiful scene of how making love is something real, practical and available in every moment of the day (and night 😉).

  • Michael Brown November 9, 2018   Reply →

    I love the science that we can set a standard of love in our lives that then anything below that just does not feature. And if it does, it is very clear that it does not belong.

  • HM November 6, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon has presented sex in a whole new light – reminding us that it is not a derogatory word – but the way we use it has made it less. What if the standard of having sex was to be truly intimate and honoring of each other. Rather than what we perceive it to be as a crude, power hungry mechanical action that has no love attached.

  • Ingrid Ward November 5, 2018   Reply →

    Watching this very revelatory interview with Serge Benhayon I couldn’t help wondering what our lives would be like if we had this sort of ‘sex education’ presented to us at school. I am sure that it would not be a class that many would want to skip out on. And another thing I am sure of is, that the quality of our relationships and not just intimate ones, would improve out of sight, as would the whole of our lives.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh January 1, 2019   Reply →

      Oh yes please, roll on that day when this level of deep care, honouring and confirmation of our exquisite divine essence IS the way ‘sex education’ is presented. What a magnificent foundation for relationships – with ourself and All others, as well as our chosen sexual partners – this would be.

  • Shami November 5, 2018   Reply →

    It is perhaps one of the greatest teachings currently available today, the fact that we can be intimate with our partners as a way to confirm the love and the adoration that we feel for them, and so intercourse does not have to be about reaching for the big climax but rather about appreciating one another to the fullest most tender depths of our expression.

  • Natalie Hawthorne October 29, 2018   Reply →

    Celebrating on what has already occurred and confirming this with each other by making love to me is the ultimate way to be having relationships with our partners. That it is in every detail, expression and movement that holds us in union no matter where we are together.

    • Ingrid Ward January 14, 2019   Reply →

      I love how Serge Benhayon makes it so clear that making love is a celebration of each moment we spend together, each moment building on the other and not even needing the physical act to complete the confirmation of how we feel about each other.

  • Michael Brown October 27, 2018   Reply →

    It’s quite clear to me that there is love, and then there’s luurrve, and the latter is that one that just oozes out of your body with every step.

  • Golnaz Shariaztadeh October 26, 2018   Reply →

    True nakedness and intimacy has nothing to do with whether you have your clothes on or not, and far more to do with how willing are you to be transparent and express from your heart. Oh how we have been led up the garden path by the many false ideals and pictures about sex and romance we have been subscribing to.

  • Hm October 23, 2018   Reply →

    This provides insight to a topic we don’t openly talk about. Yet sex is normal – we just choose to make it a big deal and in doing so we put it onto a box when in fact it can be a normal part of our lives.

  • Michael Brown October 23, 2018   Reply →

    To have a perspective on sex that isn’t driven towards performance is quite refreshing.

  • Lieke Campbell October 21, 2018   Reply →

    How we make love with our partners, how often, in what way and so on is always a reflection of how we are living with our partners.

  • Michael Brown October 20, 2018   Reply →

    I love when I have a relationship with something or someone where I learn so much every day. So much more fun that the stagnant arrangement that has been and could be.

  • Melinda Knights October 19, 2018   Reply →

    I’ve never really heard anyone talk about sex like this, that it can be about what we live together 24/7 and not some special extra event, and that everything can have an amazing depth of love, transparency and adoration together.

  • Michael Brown October 17, 2018   Reply →

    Always found the word naked really cringey, and to a degree still do sometimes but when spoken about in the quality of this interview I actually really get it.

  • Michael Brown October 12, 2018   Reply →

    Intimacy is so so beautiful.

  • Shami October 10, 2018   Reply →

    I love the way that Serge Benhayon exposes the sexual climax as not being the big finale but rather, a moment of confirmation for the love and intimacy that is already there, being lived.

  • Michael Brown October 9, 2018   Reply →

    15 minutes that delivers more than one could possibly imagine, highly recommend to anyone who wants to explore the topic of sex.

  • Michael Brown October 6, 2018   Reply →

    I love that intimacy comes from how we are with ourselves first rather than just something that is with someone else.

  • Michael Brown October 1, 2018   Reply →

    Philosophy at its finest.

  • Jennifer Smith September 29, 2018   Reply →

    Another great conversation that speaks about sex, but from the big picture of how we are living together 24/7. Making love is in every moment and in any activity. So much more than the ‘icing on the cake’.

    • Christoph Schnelle November 25, 2018   Reply →

      It is a much nicer way to live than to accumulate tension and then seeking a release.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 28, 2018   Reply →

    It doesn’t matter what subject Serge Benhayon talks about, his ability to shine the light of the Soul on the subject always leads in me coming away with an expanded awareness, a deeper level of honouring of the divinity within myself and all of us, plus a greater sense of responsibility.
    This is a great confirmation how if we truly apply ourself with love, openness and dedication in one area of life, it will impact the foundation with which we live and thus will also affect every other area of our life.

  • andrewmooney26 September 27, 2018   Reply →

    I love this take on sex as being something that celebrates the love and depth of connection that has already been felt between two people, rather than something we resort to to try and make up for the lack of love in a relationship. I have experienced both and I know which one leaves me feeling more satisfied at the end.

  • Michael Brown September 26, 2018   Reply →

    Each moment = Relief or Evolution. Sex included!

  • HM September 23, 2018   Reply →

    So interesting about how our lives are 24/7 and so there is a quality we hold at all times, and with sex, we cannot segregate it to just one moment.

  • Janet September 23, 2018   Reply →

    I love how Serge describes that making love is something that occurs throughout the day when we are in a loving relationship with our partner, by holding hands, walking together, even in a look…these moments can be as explosive and breathtaking as in the bedroom.

    • Nattalija October 23, 2018   Reply →

      Making love through the day – a reminder of the responsibility we have in each moment.

  • Michael Brown September 23, 2018   Reply →

    If we make sex everything, what quality is the rest left in, and therefore what quality does that bring to the ‘everything’ in the end?

    • Nattalija October 4, 2018   Reply →

      We create or co create the quality of sex or love making.

  • Melinda Knights September 19, 2018   Reply →

    It’s a great message, live love together throughout life, don’t reserve love for special occasions or certain activities, hold every part of life equally, and share the fullness of who you are with your partner. It’s inspiring as it’s taking life and partnerships to a new level.

  • Anna September 19, 2018   Reply →

    This is a ground-breaking episode on sex and making love from Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith. A subject often not spoken about in this way that brings a deeper understanding of how to enrich our relationships through our connection with each other. Thank you Serge for being so open and transparent around this subject, it is a much needed conversation.

  • Lieke Campbell September 17, 2018   Reply →

    Impotence explained very comprehensive way, that makes it something we can actually heal instead of learn to live with or manage with medication.

  • Rowena Stewart September 16, 2018   Reply →

    What I truly appreciate about this episode is how Serge Benhayon lifts the topic of sex and making love out of the usual sordid realms, restoring true respect, dignity and integrity to the entire Art of Making Love, an activity that actually has it roots in normal everyday activities that when lived on a daily basis elevates the physical union into an act of pure grace and joy.

  • Natalie Hawthorne September 16, 2018   Reply →

    A topic that looking back over time no doubt conversations were immature, irresponsible and abusive in some cases. This episode totally changes that, the level of respect and descentcy between each other on the level of what Serge is presenting is absolutely gorgeous and we can choose to really embrace this level of true love and know that love will not be the same or we can continue in a way that is degrading and settling for less than what we truly deserve and who we are.

  • Michael Brown September 15, 2018   Reply →

    We cannot live blandly in one area of life and expect the other to be full of magic. The fact that it is all One Life is a teaching that resonates with me hugely.

    • Janet September 23, 2018   Reply →

      Yes, I have heard many female clients over the years complain that their husbands ignore them during the day and then expect to have sex at night. These amazing conversations between Serge and Rebecca highlight all of the areas in our lives where we do not live the love we know inside, so we can learn to accept nothing less than true honouring of the being.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh September 12, 2018   Reply →

    What is offered here about making love is huge. Making love is not something just restricted to the bedroom, or defined by specific actions. It is in the quality of how we interact in any and every moment.
    This brings it home that we could be having such a depth of relationship with every single person, and that our true expression is indeed love.

    • Mary May 20, 2020   Reply →

      I was watching an interview about relationships recently and the two presenters were so in love with each other not by what they said but the way they moved and held each other in the space they gave to each other. It was very magical to watch in that they made it seem so easy and so natural.

  • Annelies van Haastrecht September 11, 2018   Reply →

    ‘Have we adored ourselves enough to be able to be naked with ourselves on a daily basis well before we come together’ Just one of the amazing questions posed by Serge Benhayon in this interview that is raising our awareness about sex and making love, how transparant are we willing to be to let someone’s love in and our love out. Much to ponder on and take into my life.

  • Natalie Hawthorne September 11, 2018   Reply →

    Transparency and allowing ourselves to surrender to that level of nakedness and to be able to adore and cherish another really is something that has not been encouraged or even spoken about. So in this episode we are being revealed what true nakedness is and I can see how far away we truly are from it when we look at the world and even my own relationship with myself and how transparent I am really prepared to go to.

  • Matilda September 7, 2018   Reply →

    The clear difference between sex and making love and the impact of both. Gold to listen to.

  • Michael Brown September 7, 2018   Reply →

    There is love in every moment, just waiting to be lived.

  • Natalie Hawthorne September 5, 2018   Reply →

    Having a relationship with ourselves that is a 24 hour basis, with out any start or end means we can’t turn the switch of at any point and that it is a life long study. This understanding and opportunity to constantly be checking in, reviewing and adjusting to what is truly needed in the next moment is truly what evolution is based on. Knowing we are apart of the Universe and that this relationship is key to living the potential of who we truly are.

  • Michael Brown September 1, 2018   Reply →

    What if we all made life about love in everything we did? Would we need to focus on anything except our own movements?

  • Michael Brown August 28, 2018   Reply →

    Making love is something that we have been sold as being an act, when what this interview presents is that it is simply a quality that can be brought through to any movement.

  • Lorraine Wellman August 24, 2018   Reply →

    This interview and what Serge Benhayon shares is invaluable, to have such a deep understanding what it means to truly make love is priceless for all of us.

  • Natalie Hawthorne August 24, 2018   Reply →

    The level and depth of nakedness Serge is talking about is also about letting yourself be vulnerable and bringing the transparency in that. Something that in the last I have found very tricky and uncomfortable to be while around other people. There are so many ideas of what I need to be like in a relationship that this requires and absolute letting go of any control and just allowing your lead to be and knowing that this is everything and more than I will ever need.

  • Ingrid Ward August 24, 2018   Reply →

    When Serge Benhayon presents what making love truly is, is simply makes sense, showing us how shallow the idea of having sex actually is. Knowing that making love encompasses the way we live all through our days it makes absolute sense that the more we deepen our own livingness the deeper our connection to our partner will be, in every aspect of our relationship.

  • Michael Brown August 23, 2018   Reply →

    It’s fascinating how much the physical depends on and is moulded by the energy behind the act.

  • Andrew Mooney August 23, 2018   Reply →

    I really get what is presented in this interview about transparency and how this level of openness can be present in all of our daily interactions with others – even a look and how we speak can be very intimate and open with each other even before we touch another person.

  • Matilda Bathurst August 22, 2018   Reply →

    Playful and profound, this interview asks us the question about whether we confine love making to the bedroom or whether we realise it is a way to live 24/7. I love the way these guys speak about the biggest of things in an everyday way.

  • HM August 22, 2018   Reply →

    Very cool about truly being naked and transparent with one another. This is so huge, and a big part of relationships that we tend to not want to see and experience.

  • Rebecca August 22, 2018   Reply →

    I have never heard of love in a relationship made so practical and yet so beautiful – rather than all the pressure being on one form of expressing love, we can open up the field to allow every moment of the day to be an expression of love

  • Shami August 20, 2018   Reply →

    I like the way that Serge Benhayon brings the act of making love out in to the everyday practicalities of life, because this is something that we can all do. You don’t need to therefore be a rockstar in bed and if your not you’re a failure. It simply is about living lovingly with the people in your life and making bedtime activities a part of that – not the marker for your worth, but a confirmation of who you already are.

  • Natalie Hawthorne August 17, 2018   Reply →

    This makes so much sense that you can’t just turn on a switch and wham bam thank you mam the job is done. Well that is what really happens when we reserve ourselves in such a way. Bring the depth of love that we are and then with our partners in all that we do, no filtering down then means when the act of making love takes place it truly is a celebration and confirmation of how cherished our relationships are.

  • Sandra Vicary August 15, 2018   Reply →

    Once again Serge Benhayon delivers such a refreshing and open true understanding on a subject that is mostly treated with either disdain or ‘titillation’. To have such a deep understanding of what it really means to ‘make love’ is a priceless treasure that we would all endlessly benefit from in any relationship, new or old.

  • Rik Connors August 14, 2018   Reply →

    Have you noticed how more beautiful Rebecca has become and softer and more comfortable over the time of the releases of each episode of Serge Benhayon tv. A testament in itself of The Way of The Livingness.

  • Danna Elmalah August 14, 2018   Reply →

    In love with Serge Benhayon TV simply because it is raw, honest, totally mind blowing and at the same time so recognizable what is in truth shared. We all can feel it pulling us up to be more open about life and how we live in it. You can feel the truth boiling in every episode. By the revelations shared every minute passing we are invited to the truth and love we feel inside, by our own making, our own free will. Being offered the space to consider deeper things in life by watching any episode by Serge Benhayon TV is what no other TV/episode or news has been offering before (of what I have seen).. This is so much greater than any TV I have seen before.

  • Michael Brown August 14, 2018   Reply →

    It makes so much sense that how we are with our partner during the whole day will determine the quality of time alone at the end of it.

  • Karin Barea August 13, 2018   Reply →

    This brings us back to the true beauty that making love is. How crazy it is that we focus all our attention on the physical act of copulation; and then use that as a measure to determine whether an intimate relationship works or not, and when it doesn’t we just look at the sex aspect rather than the whole relationship we have with each other, ourselves, the world. There is just as much potential for connection in holding hands, sleeping, making a cup of tea. If we shut down to ourselves and each other in our everyday lives then sex becomes purely functional at best. So beautiful to introduce there is so much more to connect to.

  • Lieke August 13, 2018   Reply →

    Most answers to our seemingly most biggest issues are so simple. If we gave issues with our sex life, which I think is pretty common, it’s about the love we live, or lack of love we live not about the act of sex per se.

  • HM August 12, 2018   Reply →

    This re-defines what making love is. I know I used to feel how guys would want to have sex just for relief – and it felt awful. I would put up with it in hope to have a cuddle at the end of it. There was always more to me than the sex. But I realise that I was sensitive to how it felt and that now I am in a relationship where I can feel what it is to build love in the day so that the act of making love is just a confirmation of what is already there and not any form of relief.

  • Stefanie Henn-Hecke August 12, 2018   Reply →

    TV that evolves humanity and not making them more numb and checked out. AGREE.

  • Stefanie Henn-Hecke August 12, 2018   Reply →

    This is the best “Sex” / Lovemaking education Series ever seen on TV. It is about learning to deepen the relationship in connection and intimacy to the body with oneself and another with no excitement and beyond physicality. Beautiful that Serge Benhayon lifts the curtain of all the false pictures and beliefs around Sex.

  • Rik Connors August 11, 2018   Reply →

    I love how Serge revealed you can also have a climax of holding hands, a conversation, walking together and, to add another level doing this with not only with your partner but with whomever and anyone. Imagine being in an area of lots of people and moving in a way that is making love? Sounds like fun and playful game to play.

  • Michael Brown August 7, 2018   Reply →

    How inspiring is it that there are interviews which can show us there is a much greater sense of life than just the physical functions which we tend to get pressurised to perform, especially as young adults.

  • Samantha Davidson August 7, 2018   Reply →

    Life is energy first, put this first and everything naturally is part of the whole, a oneness, how we make the bed is no different to what we do in the bed, and so if we are open to this, then we get to choose, is it Love or not Love? We can feel it either way and so we can choose.

  • Michael Brown August 7, 2018   Reply →

    I love the concept that love isn’t restricted to something between two people, but is actually something much grander.

  • jennym August 4, 2018   Reply →

    It is a relief to realise that instead of having to perform in the bedroom as well, life and making love is really about living the sensitivity and sacredness throughout our day and something we can confirm through making love.

  • Michael Brown August 2, 2018   Reply →

    As per usual, we have reduced something so magnificent and glorious such as making love to a physicalised functional act to provide a moment of relief in our day.

  • Michael Brown July 31, 2018   Reply →

    As a young man this blows many of the ‘boys club requirements’ out of the water and exposes what is actually going on for young men.

  • Danna Elmalah July 26, 2018   Reply →

    Gorgeous, I loved watching this episode, showing us how it actually is for us to be naked, what making love is and what sex has been so far in the world. Thank you both and the whole video team to make this possible, the wisdom is shared and for all possible to see.

  • Melinda Knights July 20, 2018   Reply →

    Everything that Serge Benhayon shares to me is such common sense, why not live a 24/7 transparency and intimacy adoring your partner and expressing love, why wait for a physical experience of sex when all day long can be being in the depths of love together.

  • Michael Brown July 19, 2018   Reply →

    Learning to develop intimacy rather than seeking protected relief has been a lesson well worth taking part in.

  • Viktoria July 19, 2018   Reply →

    There is so much in the world about sex and so little about making love, in a true sense – from the inner heart. Though attending these presentations that you speak of Rebecca, I have gotten to understand this topic with such a depth and with so much respect for myself and the person I could potentially be intimate with. There is so much more to explore, talk about and understand – thank you for starting the conversation.

  • Natalie Hawthorne July 18, 2018   Reply →

    With this as a foundation there would be no domestic violence mental or physical, there would be no game playing and we would know exactly where we stand. This level of Love, respect and transparency is what we all deeply crave yet have settled for a loveless relationship because we have accepted that’s as good as it gets. Personally I would rather not be in a relationship than be in one and compromise on what I know we are worth.

  • David July 18, 2018   Reply →

    Spot on Ariana, we protect and hide at the same time as saying we want love. What Serge presents is life changing, its up to us to change first.

  • Stephanie Stevenson July 14, 2018   Reply →

    These interviews between Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon are myth busters of ideals and beliefs and thus game changers in how we appreciate ourselves and others and bring transparency and depth through being more honest with ourselves.

  • Shami July 12, 2018   Reply →

    It is interesting here how Serge Benhayon talks about transparency in the bedroom, both privately with ourselves and with our partners. As I have noticed how there tends to be a focus on how we are with our partners and with how open and transparent we are with them, but rarely does this same enquiry come in to our relationship with ourselves. And so this interview is beautiful in how it gives us an opportunity to really explore what are the foundations of all our relationships.

  • Gabriele Conrad July 9, 2018   Reply →

    Is it possible that we hanker for a climax, as can happen and is, we are told, supposed to happen in sex, because we are not enjoying our life and are forever looking for any means to heighten our senses, whether that be using another person or seeking entertainment and sensationalist news? Is it a question of anything is better than nothing?

  • Lucy Dahill July 9, 2018   Reply →

    This is so well worth investigating for ourselves. What would it be like to consider how we live as part and parcel of making love?

  • Michael Brown July 8, 2018   Reply →

    We will get comfortable being naked when we have nothing to hide. Full transparency is the name of the game to evolve and support others evolution too.

  • Karin Barea July 7, 2018   Reply →

    This, like every episode is pure gold.

    ‘‘Have we adored ourselves enough to be naked with ourselves on a daily basis well before we come together?’ is such a pertinent question for me. I know that if I am not loving of myself, when another adores me it can actually be pretty excruciating!! Why? because I can’t accept such depth of appreciation when I am not this with myself and the pain of that I don’t want to feel. That said, it’s beautiful opening up to being adored.

  • Tricia Nicholson July 7, 2018   Reply →

    A beautiful sharing of the quality of how we live together and how much we open up and be transparent with the quality of true intimacy making love and and openness in our daily lives . So different to the holding back not expressing love in our everyday movements and making it all about the sex act and the isolation that is felt from this. Very reflective .

  • HM July 2, 2018   Reply →

    Such a huge sharing about the quality we live everywhere – and how we can bring spunk and sexiness to all elements of what we do – and not have to silo our expression into key moments.

  • Danna Elmalah July 1, 2018   Reply →

    An oh so loving reminder of what sex (making love) actually is when we take the falseness out. Serge Benhayon speaks about how our quality of livingness ; openness and transparancy in our lives is contributing to our relationships and that it start by being naked ans transparant with ourselves, so that we can thereafter share this joy with others from our exquisite beauty in our every way. Thank You Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith.

  • Mary June 30, 2018   Reply →

    This interview should be in the pages of all magazines, especially woman’s magazines because I find most women seem to devour these in an attempt to please their partners sexually. This interview debunks many ideals and beliefs we have around sex. And this is so needed when the porn industry is depersonalizing sex and enforcing the idea that women are to be seen as just sexual objects and nothing more.

  • Natalie Hawthorne June 30, 2018   Reply →

    What Serge is presenting makes complete and absolute sense. In the past I have been sexually intimate with a partner and yet at the end of I feel distant and separate from them. Love is a vibration that we connect to and we share it with another no matter what we are doing. The act of making love is a wonderful confirmation of this but is no more or no less than any other part of that relationship.

  • Michael Brown June 29, 2018   Reply →

    One moment in the day is the summation of all previous moments, so what is the quality of THE moment when the previous moments have been lacking true quality?

  • Caroline Francis June 26, 2018   Reply →

    How can we switch it on and make love in the bedroom when there is no making love in our day? Could this be the difference between making love and sex eg. Making love, a continuous movement of connection to oneself and towards another in our day whereby sex if I may say, there is no love but an activity carried out to relieve oneself?

    • Gabriele Conrad July 9, 2018   Reply →

      Sex seems to be more often than not a relief of tension, possibly even after a fight or disagreement between the partners. Making love is a deepening of a quality already lived, a presence and consistency that needs no climaxes as it keeps enriching our every step and moment.

    • Alexis Stewart February 27, 2019   Reply →

      Sex can be very mechanical and repetitive, it can also be impulsed from ideas, beliefs and things we’ve seen or heard. Making love is a responsive extension of our beingness and is far more than a physical act.

  • Andrew Mooney June 22, 2018   Reply →

    This presentation makes so much sense – to see sex as a natural extension of how we are living and no different to the intimacy that can be enjoyed in every moment together seems like a key thing really which takes all the pressure off! No more performance anxiety for how could there be pressure if you are already living every day the joy, connection and intimacy everywhere in your life?

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh July 8, 2018   Reply →

      And equally the presentation reflects how exquisite every single relationship and interaction, whether it involves the act of making love or not, has the potential to be.

  • Michael Brown June 21, 2018   Reply →

    How revolutionary to consider that making love is something that is done throughout the day, not at some grand pinnacle.

    • Nattalija August 10, 2018   Reply →

      The quality with this intimacy is far greater in our expression of love when we take steps to build on this throughout the day.

  • Shami June 20, 2018   Reply →

    Serge benhayon makes a very important distinction here between sex and making love, which is perhaps easy to understand, but all the more powerful to actually live.

    • nattalija July 1, 2018   Reply →

      When it is lived the understanding of love making becomes far grander than we are currently led to believe.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 19, 2018   Reply →

    I love how Serge Benhayon can pick up pretty much any aspect of human life and unravel it with you until you realise you are a multidimensional divine being capable of raising yourself and everyone around you to live and once again express the stupendous grace that is our true essence.

    • Lorraine Wellman August 24, 2018   Reply →

      Yes Golnaz, it is truly amazing to observe him in what you describe, and he does so with such ease and grace.

  • Joseph Barker June 17, 2018   Reply →

    It’s amazing how we’ve ruminated about these topics for aeons yet no one has ever mentioned transparency and the way we live – it shows how addicted we have been to our momentary relief and resistant to living in a way that’s true.

  • Nattalija June 16, 2018   Reply →

    Stripping the levels of mistrust to reveal our true levels of transparency is the gold in this episode.

  • Shami June 15, 2018   Reply →

    How much are you willing to show how much you love a person and adore them… as this is the greatest form of nakedness and transparency. These are perhaps some of the greatest words ever spoken.

    • Andrew Mooney June 22, 2018   Reply →

      I agree Shami, we hold so much in reserve with each other just in case and we believe we are being close or intimate with each other but there is another level of ‘nakedness’ and openness that is possible to be lived and enjoyed with clothes on as well as clothes off!

  • Samantha Davidson June 14, 2018   Reply →

    The body sacred, divine and here for the purpose of honouring that in every way and so sex the physical activity of intercourse can only be from Love. We think bits of the body are rude, dirty, saucy, etc but every part of us is made divine and we need to let go of these pictures that harm our relationship with ourselves and others.

  • Jonathan Stewart June 12, 2018   Reply →

    Living life with the understanding of love as presented by Serge Benhayon in this interview is like opening a window bringing sunshine and fresh air into a dark, long closed room full of mould and damp.

  • Natalie Hawthorne June 8, 2018   Reply →

    To be able to appreciate and embrace that fact that it is not about the actual moment of making love but how we have lived each moment together and in the other parts of our lives that will be the outcome of the quality of making love. This changes everything, forget performance and delivering anything that is not even on the cards. Great episode, whens the next one!

  • Rik Connors June 7, 2018   Reply →

    I agree with and since truly knowing making love with your partner can be going for walk, showering together, going shopping and cooking it has brought a whole other level to everything I do. Thank you Serge.

    • David June 23, 2018   Reply →

      Rik we are so caught up in thinking life is one certain way, somehow its become the normal to mix sex with making love and love with sex. When I understood and felt the difference it made me realise just how much i was missing out on.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh June 6, 2018   Reply →

    Isn’t it ironic that we have been making such a big thing about physical nakedness. Do we seriously imagine that a whole society of people not wearing clothes would equate a very loving society? We all know the answer. It would simply be the same dynamics between a whole lot of people who happen to not be wearing any clothes. The level of openness, equality and intimacy discussed here shows that true nakedness is nothing to do with clothes and is a whole different ball game.

  • Natalie Hawthorne June 5, 2018   Reply →

    It’s just awesome how Serge Benhayon can share the awesome potentials of what making love can be with such honouring, respect and yet not make it serious. Super cool, thanks Serge.

  • Vicky Cooke June 4, 2018   Reply →

    Love this. Our nakedness ‘depends upon the TRANSPARENCY we are prepared to share with our partner’ so in other words partners can be naked literally with one another but not! Also this nakedness (transparency) is not only for our partner but a way of being that we are with all. Another awesome interview from Serge Benhayon TV … keep them rolling ✨

  • Matilda Bathurst June 4, 2018   Reply →

    Understanding nakedness in its true meaning, not about clothes but about the quality of openness, honesty and transparency with which we live and relate to one another.

    • Nattalija June 10, 2018   Reply →

      The willingness to be this transparent is the daunting part for so many as we are so conditioned to judge and critique rather than understand and appreciate.

  • Joshua Campbell June 2, 2018   Reply →

    So much for settling for porn of casual sex when you can get off on Love all the time! In sex we can remain separate and individual, where as in love we are asked to be equal and totally connected. This is challenging for most as it asks us to not be individual, a stance most desire.

  • Michael Brown June 1, 2018   Reply →

    This is what should be shown in sex ed. Taking the pressure off young people and instilling responsibility in way of life at the same time.

    • Matilda Bathurst June 4, 2018   Reply →

      Yes. It would be properly beautiful and world changing if we were taught what makes for true, intimate and respectful relationships – not ‘sex education’ but ‘relationships and love making in life’.

    • David June 28, 2018   Reply →

      Exactly it takes a subject where there is much confusion as one grows up and brings in connection, love and responsiblity.

  • Nattalija June 1, 2018   Reply →

    Breaking the ideals that have consumed our social and media projects is offered in this great TV viewing.

  • Natalie Hawthorne May 31, 2018   Reply →

    This is one needed conversation when we look around and see the way sex is happening in our lives. To be with another with absolute respect, adoration and cherishing of one another is a rear but exquisite thing.

    • Rowena Stewart June 22, 2018   Reply →

      So true Natalie, it is a much needed conversation because what is such a rare and exquisite thing should be the norm not the exception. There is much for us to reclaim about the grace, beauty, honesty and love that should naturally be present in a relationship and that the foundations for this lie in the quality of transparency in our everyday living.

  • Samantha Davidson May 30, 2018   Reply →

    This a revelation to consider how much we are willing to be open. Although sex / making love is something physical to experience with someone with out others around, but we do not need to separate how we are, whether physically making love or not. Sexual energy is imposing and it is degrading, but love is pure and holds all equal. We tend to make the act smutty, rather than be loving and sweet with one another. The more we live this loving way everywhere the more true this is lived very naturally in every area of our lives. I am currently healing some big assumptions and behaviour around love making in relationships, I see how I have hidden myself for so long and been unwilling to be transparent.

  • Melinda Knights May 29, 2018   Reply →

    It’s fascinating about the transparency and sharing all of who we are and adoring our partner, we think of nakness as just a physical experience but it very much has to do with our being and allowing that out in full to share with our partner. And that it’s something to express and enjoy all day, not just in one part of the day.

  • Esther Andras May 27, 2018   Reply →

    This takes the pressure of sex in any form. We have made this single short word into something full of everything that it can not hold what it promises. And that is the point. We laden words and their actions with meanings they are not and value them with more or less compared to others. And that is the dilemma we have made life to be, we separate, we segregate, we categorize and judge, making some things more important than others but missing the fact and understanding that we are constantly pulsed forth by a deep love that we are, that cannot be expressed nor contained just in a few words or actions but is there in its fullness in every moment. So how glorious to have this simple fact revealed to us in this short sex talk.

  • Carmel Reid May 26, 2018   Reply →

    I like the way we are encouraged to be transparent with each other, sharing deeply personal information at a level we normally avoid, and that only by being truly honest with our partners can we truly come together in love. This means being honest with ourselves first.

    • Matilda Bathurst June 4, 2018   Reply →

      And what I am noticing is that this is an always developing process, like one moment of honesty offers another something to uncover, explore and reveal.

  • Shami May 26, 2018   Reply →

    I like the way that Serge Benhayon talks about impotence as being a part of a whole way of living in life, not limiting or isolating it to the mere functionality of bedroom activities. And I feel that this is gorgeous because it takes a lot of pressure off of men to be stupendous in that one moment and allows instead the room or the space for their expression throughout life to be explored, honoured and cherished.

    • Samantha Davidson May 30, 2018   Reply →

      Yes it a great to consider what the impotence is symbolic of in a sense, rather than just seeing it as a physical malfunction. Everything our body does and expresses, show us something deeply supportive to consider and learn for – that is for sure!

    • Rebecca June 1, 2018   Reply →

      I hadn’t thought about that – the pressure that is on men to deliver in that activity and somehow blow a woman mind and rock her world. But when we isolate that to only in the bedroom it becomes a all or nothing kind of situation, rather than as Serge presents, a whole life approach where the whole day is an opportunity to love and express and be at ease with yourself and then the bedroom is simply an extension of the day, no pressure to perform because it’s been built to in every other moment.

  • Carmel Reid May 25, 2018   Reply →

    Our life is 24/7 not just one hour of the day, it is about our livingness, the quality of being human is 24 hour and this is such a beautiful reminder that the quality of our sex life is directly affected by how we are during the day.

  • fiona lotherington May 25, 2018   Reply →

    This interview uncovered a completely different and much deeper perspective on sex. I loved that it took the hype away from the act of sex, and brought importance back to all the things that happen in our relationships, such as cooking and holding hands that are equal to sex. There is no on off switch when it comes to love and connection.

    • Matilda Bathurst June 4, 2018   Reply →

      It is super cool to start to dismantle the performance stress and hype around sex. This will free us very beautifully so to explore the real meaning of making love as shared in this interview.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 24, 2018   Reply →

    It makes me chuckle when I witness how every aspect of human life can be considered in a Soulful manner. And I love the depth to which we can go in ensuring that love, deepening awareness and evolution is ensured.

  • Michael Brown May 24, 2018   Reply →

    The most delightful and full version of the ‘birds and the bees’ talk i’ve ever experienced.

  • Jennifer Smith May 24, 2018   Reply →

    I love the conversation on impotence, for its truly about much more that that subject in isolation. What has been offered here is that we look at that one issue in isolation without even considering how we are living in the whole of our day to reach a point where one can be impotent in the bedroom. What is important here? How we are living 24/7.

  • Vicky Cooke May 22, 2018   Reply →

    I love the fact when in talking about being naked here it is nothing to do with the physical but everything to do with the energetic .. taking it to a whole new and very true level as Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine always do. Great interview and great Rebecca followed up on her impulse to do this .. it is very needed.

  • Carmel Reid May 22, 2018   Reply →

    It’s not about a problem with your sex life, it’s about transparency, how you are throughout your day – this is true, when we are frosty with our partners during the day we cannot expect a good night in bed but when we are loving in our actions all day, the loving continues throughout the night and it may be just a cuddle, it could be more, but feels beautiful anyway.

  • Leigh Matson May 21, 2018   Reply →

    As Rebecca mentioned theres so much pressure to have sex be the saviour or the ‘make it or break it’ of a relationship and yet it really isn’t. I love how casual and simple Serge spoke about the subject without any stimulation or treating it as something taboo or mysterious.

  • Vicky Cooke May 21, 2018   Reply →

    Now this is what I call sex education. Lets learn about the basics of just being first! Loved hearing about cherishing another not just in the bedroom but all the time and about true nakedness is being transparent all of the time not just with your partner but with everyone.

  • Rowena Stewart May 21, 2018   Reply →

    Serge Benhayon brings back the colour and depth to relationships and the real truth that sexual relationships devoid of true intimacy, honesty and playfulness are just a dehydrated version of the true beauty and joy that we can really attain with one another.

  • HM May 21, 2018   Reply →

    This is a totally different way to look at making love – that we don’t have to segrigate sleeping together and that how we are in our day to day interactions is where we build the quality of love and making love is just part of this.

  • Michael Brown May 20, 2018   Reply →

    I must say it is a bit far out of my comfort zone to talk about sex and making love like this, but it is interesting none the less as I have always found society’s obsession with sex quite disturbing. There is a lot within this interview that goes some way to explain that and offers a different way of being intimate with each other.

  • Jennifer Smith May 20, 2018   Reply →

    A beautiful discussion that offers a deeper understanding on making love and how it is much more than one act. It’s the way that we interact in every moment that we are together. Making love a priority in our everyday activities.

    • David May 24, 2018   Reply →

      I’ve come to understand that the very concept of Making Love is so much grander than what I had considered it to be, furthermore how I mixed up sex with making love which meant I didn’t have the truth of making love in relationships before Universal Medicine.

  • Sandra Vicary May 20, 2018   Reply →

    So much emphasis is put on sex in relationships, but what is so important is the connection two people have with each way before they get to the bedroom. A brilliant yet simple true and deep understanding of how it is possible to truly ‘make love’ whether it is in the bedroom or cooking dinner together.

  • Matilda Bathurst May 18, 2018   Reply →

    Understanding nakedness as a quality of openness with each other is a very beautiful realisation and a very beautiful thing to practise living and developing.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 17, 2018   Reply →

    It is a travesty that the prolific access of the young to porn introduces sex and glorifies it as a great accomplishment. Yet when we hear Serge Benhayon talk about exquisite nature of making love, an intimacy no joy of renting to one another which transcends way beyond the bedroom, it becomes obvious how far removed the engagement with sex (instead of making love) is from the intimacy most of us seek.

  • Rebecca May 17, 2018   Reply →

    No one has ever discussed relationships and sex in this way – one that opens it up from being a single moment that is weighed down by all our expectations on it to deliver the relationship something very important, to being a single moment in one long expression on love in every moment, from brushing our teeth together and cooking dinner, to driving in the car and passing in the hall.

  • Natalie Hawthorne May 16, 2018   Reply →

    In a world where sex has become so animalistic, abusive and degrading, and then to hear Serge Benhayon present that there is a way of being with each other that is possible where we make true love and it starts with a level of respect for each other is so confirming of what I have felt and always known was possible, I had just not come across yet.

  • Samantha Davidson May 16, 2018   Reply →

    I very much did separate sex, from making love, from the rest of life…how can this happen? How can you have meaningless sex one day and make love the next, how can we have a fight and then walk into a bedroom and be tender and make love…it is impossible…This simple and wise exploration into relationships and how we are with ourselves and each other… opens up a universe of intimacy in the true sense. I love it.

  • Carmel Reid May 15, 2018   Reply →

    When it comes to sex education, in schools it tends to be limited to the biological aspects, very rarely are relationships discussed, even though the relationship is a key part of making love. Serge Benhayon explains that making love is not just for the bedroom, it can be going for a walk holding hands. Rebecca Asquith asks about the energetic transaction between two people, a different way of looking at sex.

    • Samantha Davidson May 16, 2018   Reply →

      Carmel, great point about how we are taught about sex in schools and often in our homes, the basics as in the physical implications and the reproductive system. It reminded me of how when I was around 12 I asked in school about the relationship side of it, and I remember a laugh that crossed the room. I understand now that people can only go where they are able to go themselves and they offered what was within their ability. Which is what I have done in my life, but I am committed to going deeper and being more open and intimate with everyone and learning to live a day where I make Love my way and not separate how I am in one area from. We do make sex in to a separate thing when in truth it merely reflects, like every other part of our life, where we are at with ourselves and our relationships.

      • Vicky Cooke May 26, 2018   Reply →

        I agree Samantha, I teach sex education with young people and always say to them the physical side of it is not ‘it’ and that there is so much more to a relationship but you are right in saying people can only go where they are at with this and their understanding but it is so important that we have these discussions so a different reflection of relationships and sex is offered to them for when they are ready.

  • Rachael Evans May 14, 2018   Reply →

    This is a great example of how we seperate life. We make it into parts, some we enjoy and others we don’t. But how can that be when it is US who is in and experiencing these situations? We are the ones who are with ourselves when we go to work, to bed, to eat, to be with another intimately, so what is it we are not ‘enjoying’ or liking about the situation? I agree with Serge on the nakedness – how naked are we willing to be and maybe we find it easier to be naked at work then we do with our family etc.

  • Michael Goodhart May 14, 2018   Reply →

    The way Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Baldwin discuss how making love is really in every interaction we have with each other, like holding hands and going for a walk together really takes all the pressure and mystique out of sex and helps bring it back to the basics and joy of being together, without having such a ‘peak experience’ , but rather a steady building of a connection and deepening of appreciation for each other that creates a foundation of love never to go below afterwards.

  • Michael Brown May 13, 2018   Reply →

    With such massive pressure on both men and women around sex this is such a burden-easing interview to watch.

    • Matilda Bathurst May 18, 2018   Reply →

      ‘Burden-easing’… a cool description and an invitation to consider one of many ways we can relinquish our perception that life is meant to be a struggle.

  • Joseph Barker May 12, 2018   Reply →

    The way Serge Benhayon undresses this topic makes it clear we’ve been prostituting ourselves all along – for we all know the truth about love in our heart.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 11, 2018   Reply →

    Today Serge Benhayon demonstrated the example of not holding any protection or any agendas when walking towards someone in contrast to engaging a different energy when walking. I saw how the impact of even the slightest level of holding back our absolute openness is huge. I felt teary considering the magnificence which the whole of humanity could live if we all adopted the level of openness and transparency with which Serge lives.

  • Shami May 11, 2018   Reply →

    How amazing to consider that making love is something that can bring a depth of connection and beauty to all aspects of life and is not just a grabbed moment of climactic thrill, but actually is a part of one’s whole expression throughout life.

  • Shami May 11, 2018   Reply →

    I love this part where Serge Benhayon talks about going to sleep with your partner in explosive intimacy. How gorgeous to make beautiful just the act of sleeping together, with the openness and sweet vulnerability that this brings, which is a space that can carry on throughout the day and support all other activities and relationships.

  • Lieke Campbell May 10, 2018   Reply →

    Hearing this I wonder why I haven’t ever connected the proverbial dots before because it makes so much sense that we can’t isolate our sex-life from the rest of our life. If we are having issues in our sex-life we have to simply look at how we are every minute of our day with ourselves and our partner. Are we adoring ourselves and them or is this occasional? Knowing this gives a simple and beautiful way forward in life.

    • Leigh Matson May 21, 2018   Reply →

      Every single part of life can be seemingly placed in a box and we can pretend they aren’t interrelated but when we do start entertaining and exploring the connection life starts to make a whole lot more sense!

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 9, 2018   Reply →

    I love the simplicity with which Serge Benhayon introduces and expands on such aspects of life which when considered, and especially if put into daily life, would make a profound difference, not just for ourselves but also for the whole world.

  • kehinde james May 9, 2018   Reply →

    This short interview answers all the questions never asked about sex: What does it mean? How is it different from making love? Compare these profound questions with the absolute nonsense sold by media: film, theatre, literature and magazines. It’s not just a physical act, a function, but love and deepening the quality of our relationships. How could we have strayed so far from the truth and made life miserable for so many, when it could be joyful.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 13, 2018   Reply →

      With many areas, including sex, we have settled for a caricature version of our glorious expression. Wonderful that this conversation takes us there and gives us the opportunity to re-examine our relationship in this area.

  • Rowena Stewart May 9, 2018   Reply →

    Life takes on a whole different meaning, expression and enjoyment when we finally understand that everything we do in life can make Love. The real meaning of this term goes way beyond the bedroom and can infiltrate everything with a sparkle, even the most mundane chore can be transformed when done with a delicate, light and playful touch.

  • Natalie Hawthorne May 9, 2018   Reply →

    The principles of first loving yourself unconditionally before you love another makes absolute sense and when I first heard Serge Benhayon share this I didn’t really know what he meant. But that was me trying to avoid how much I had dis-connected from my soul and innate being. Basing our relationships with our divine being within first means that when we share this with a partner we are celebrating us coming together on a really equal basis and that is the foundation. That is worth cherishing for sure and each other in this no matter what.

  • Jonathan Stewart May 8, 2018   Reply →

    Presenting that sex is an extension of how one has been living rather than activity in isolation brings a depth and intimacy not only to sex but to the whole of life.

  • kehinde james May 8, 2018   Reply →

    This interview is profound as is it is beautiful: making love is how we walk together, cook together, hold hands, even clean the house. Seen this way removes the pressure of performance in sexual function and allows us to lovingly be with another all day long.

  • kehinde james May 8, 2018   Reply →

    Serge gently demolishes previous perceptions of sex and offers another way exposing, as he does, how we complicate life when things can be as simple and clear as this. Sex is not separate from other parts of our life and making love starts outside the bedroom, in the quality of relationship we have with our partners moment by moment Crazy to have ever believed it could be anything else.

  • Rowena Stewart May 8, 2018   Reply →

    It’s not really sex that we are interested in, its intimacy and that always begins with those gorgeous moments outside the bedroom that enable us to open up like flowers to each other. Making love then becomes the icing on a very big cake made from intimacy, openness and fun.

  • Jenny James May 8, 2018   Reply →

    True nakedness is the transparency and intimacy that we allow between each other – Love this interview.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 7, 2018   Reply →

    This is so evolutionary, just like when I first heard Serge Benhayon present about relationships: the fact that relationship was not limited to the narrow definition I held at the time which involved focusing on one person at the exclusion of others. Similar expansion is offered here.
    Making love is a 24/7 thing, it is not limited to the period of engaging in the sexual act. Listening to Serge Benhayon broaden this into other aspects of daily life, not only does it take away the obsessed focus and pressure that goes with what takes place in the bedroom, but it also opens up the possibility that we could be having this same quality of relationship with every single person in our lives.

  • Mary May 7, 2018   Reply →

    We seem to have placed such value in just having sex and are actually missing out on the seemingly little things that make a relationship everything it can be. And let’s be honest we are all looking for that ‘special’ relationship. Both male and females know they are missing out on something spectacular we are seemingly so hung up on ideals and beliefs we don’t seem to want to deepen the intimacy in the relationship and instead go for the mundane and in that we dislike the emptiness we are left with.

  • Mary May 7, 2018   Reply →

    What if something similar to this interview was shown in schools as part of the ‘sex education’ To say to both boys and girls that if we cherish and loved ourselves first and in that openness and transparency may be the girls would have more confidence and self-respect in themselves that they would be able to say no, actually I’m worth more than this. Let’s get to know each other first. We seem to have placed such value in just having sex and are actually missing out on the sprinkles that go with it that go to make it everything it can be.

  • Gabriele Conrad May 5, 2018   Reply →

    Putting impotence in a much greater context of how we carry ourselves in daily life makes sense and adds the energetic factor to a thus far much narrower medical understanding of the condition.

  • Gabriele Conrad May 5, 2018   Reply →

    Regarding making love as a confirmation and not as a stand alone highlight of the union of two people takes the pressure away and turns making love into a 24/7 mutual dedication and commitment.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 4, 2018   Reply →

    We have made a big deal about nakedness, as if we are making a statement of intimacy by taking our clothes off. Yet there is plenty of evidence showing that this is plainly not the case.
    Another form of nakedness, no protection or holding back the love and tenderness that is our true nature, no games, no pretense and being completely transparent.
    Babies and young children tend to be like that and most of us melt in their presence. There is no reason why we cant choose to be like that as adults. Serge Benhayon himself is a wonderful example for that.

  • Carmel Reid May 4, 2018   Reply →

    I love the way that making love is what we do in our every day activities in our relationship, not just in the bedroom

  • Shami May 4, 2018   Reply →

    This is such a great interview, far beyond what any sex education class can give at school, bringing in to view what transparency between couples can actually be like.

  • Christoph Schnelle May 4, 2018   Reply →

    It takes a while to get used to the idea that there is a difference between sex and making love, more than just semantics and quite tangible.

    • David May 7, 2018   Reply →

      Christoph, I agree I used to see the two as being interchangeable although I often had ‘hooked’ up with people and had sex when there was certinly no love – not even a name really! The more I have explored the difference the greater I see how the truth of love and how I was certainly selling myself short by settling for sex with no love.

  • Matilda Bathurst May 4, 2018   Reply →

    Playful and profound, if this is the first of a series about sex, nakedness and making love, I look forward very much to what is to come.

    • Jonathan Stewart May 8, 2018   Reply →

      Hear, hear.

  • Joseph Barker May 3, 2018   Reply →

    Making love is everything

    • Danna Elmalah November 11, 2018   Reply →

      And everything is love when we choose so.
      Gosh, what a rich episode of Sex, Nakedness and Making Love. A science that goes beyond imaginary or ideals, one that is felt inside the body and leaves us to feel our essence of beingness. There is nothing wrong with us, more we have to see and feel within ourselves the adoration we deeply hold. Let us express this forth..

  • Joseph Barker May 3, 2018   Reply →

    It’s startling to come to this site and see these videos – each explicitly revealing all humanity needs to know. Every question we’ve ever asked is covered here and Serge and Rebecca are only 12 episodes in. Wow! And what they share applies not to just one thing but to the whole of life. It just goes to show how making love in your life works, and enriching everything. Now that is what I call hot 🙂

  • Rowena Stewart May 3, 2018   Reply →

    This episode should be part of our sex education in schools, so that as well as teaching kids about the practical aspects of safe sex, they are also educated about how to take relationships to a much deeper level than just a physical act, that so often feels very empty when not accompanied by a tender intimacy that comes with being playful, tender, open and honest first.

    • Michelle McWaters May 5, 2018   Reply →

      Agreed. So many teachers like to keep it to the functional facts in school. I have just supported a lesson on hormones and puberty in biology to a group of Y10s where the atmosphere in the room was over excited and this excitement was dealt with “let’s just keep it to the facts’ – but ever wondered why our kids’ behaviour can get more raucous during these lessons? Is it because they have learned shame around sex (a deeply held belief stemming from religious doctrines that paint it as bad/sinful ) and have not been given the opportunity to connect to a deeper awareness of their bodies, of relationships, of the world/universe and that, as you say Rowena life can be playful, tender, open and honest? When we meet all aspects of life in this quality including sex/making love then there is no shame or embarrassment, simply an acceptance that life is much more than what we can tangibly see but certainly not more than we can tangibly feel.

    • Golnaz Shariatzadeh May 6, 2018   Reply →

      Yes these deeper foundations of life which every conversation with Serge Benhayon keeps bringing us back to, are sorely missing from our education. An important addition and investment indeed.

  • Matts Josefsson May 2, 2018   Reply →

    This episode about sex, making love, makes so much sense.

  • Natalie Hawthorne May 1, 2018   Reply →

    Now that’s what I call setting the bar on true intimacy and making love based on absolute respect and love for ourselves and for others. Not holding back and appreciating each other in this.

  • Shami May 1, 2018   Reply →

    I feel that this interview with Serge Benhayon is very revealing, or exposing, of the way that we all live with ourselves and with eachother. Because there is a livingness being described here that is deeply intimate, open and playful, and that has no barriers to being vulnerable.

  • Kathleen Baldwin May 1, 2018   Reply →

    This is the freshest take on sex, nakedness and making love that I have ever heard. Let’s normalise living 24/7 in love rather than reducing ourselves to the distorted current view of sex served up to us in movies and various magazines.

  • Lieke Campbell May 1, 2018   Reply →

    I love how you talk about sex or making love and it being part of our whole life and not just a switch we turn on or off. It makes sense and it exposes the trends we see with Fifty shades of grey and people making their sex life more extreme or even aggressive because it wasn’t satisfying. These are not the answer because they are not addressing the lack of love that is there in the relationship, with ourselves and with everyone else around us.

  • Joshua Campbell April 30, 2018   Reply →

    Such simple medicine. With the truth presented so clearly it is evident that there ought not to be any relationship dynamics in this world let alone domestic violence and abuse.

    • Michelle McWaters May 6, 2018   Reply →

      Yes, I love the clarity of truth that Serge Benhayon delivers. It cuts through the miasma of fog in a very beautifully profound way – truth offered very simply. It supports me to understand that life needn’t be complicated or riddled with hurts.; that it can be simple, loving and joyful.

  • Michael Brown April 30, 2018   Reply →

    A topic that has previously made me cringe delivered in a way that breaks down what it means to be human and builds it back up into the majesty it is, by particle design, meant to be.

  • Fiona Cochran April 30, 2018   Reply →

    Everything is interlinked, we like to think we can ignore pockets of our lives and that they will just go away without having to deal with them but it makes sense that if we ignore one aspect of our lives that it will have an impact on all other areas of our lives. So, if we have tension at work which we do not dealt with it will come home with us and effect our relationships at home.

  • Rowena Stewart April 29, 2018   Reply →

    What is shared here is very innate within us. Any sexual act that is devoid of a tender, playful and honouring connection with one another is just an empty way to get relief. And building relationships based on these qualities is so much more enriching and gorgeous, a beautiful process of discovery and joy that can easily last a lifetime and more!

  • Jonathan Stewart April 29, 2018   Reply →

    A topic delicately, lightly and playfully discussed yet with profound insights into a very hot subject.

  • Natalie Hawthorne April 29, 2018   Reply →

    The words Serge shares is the ‘Cherishing one another’ – this is something that most and I certainly did in the past find cheesy and sickening. Now I can say they are music to my ears, when we start to love ourselves we start to appreciate that this can be something that is really sincere, deep and precious so why wouldn’t we want the same for our partners. In the past I would have missed the me side of things and imposed on my partner a need or a want that I was lacking. Turning this round and saying I am worth this for myself first and need nothing from another but to simply enjoy and appreciate them. So Cherishing is something that is deeply beautiful and totally possible and normal if we so choose it. Thanks Serge.

    • Christoph Schnelle May 4, 2018   Reply →

      It feels easy and natural to cherish another once we cherish ourselves.

  • Aimee Edmonds April 29, 2018   Reply →

    It’s pretty ridiculous really that we think we can all of a sudden ‘turn it on’ in the bedroom, be super loving or connected, or feel sexy within ourselves, yet very little or no other time of the day have we honoured ourselves, connected to each other, hardly spoken or touched. No wonder there is so much relief in having just sex, as making love asks us to be more with ourselves and more with each other and evolve together.

  • Eva Rygg April 29, 2018   Reply →

    Beautiful – how simple this topic is when we make it about love being everything we do or express in our day, holding hands, coking a meal, a conversation, anything.

  • Rowena Stewart April 28, 2018   Reply →

    When we choose to make the whole of life about love, from cooking, talking, working and then the physical act of making love, we restore true romance and magic to our relationships. The quality of how we interact on a daily basis is the love we take to bed with us, superb couples counselling that begins with how we prepared are we to go naked before we even take our clothes off.

  • HM April 28, 2018   Reply →

    I have had sex where it has just been all about that moment and the climax and everything else isn’t as great – and it really shows. I was hoping sex would fix things and tick a box – but what is presented here is gold – the fact that how we are in all other areas – cooking, walking, talking – is the same as making love – it is an equal quality expressed in different movements.

    • Matilda Bathurst May 4, 2018   Reply →

      And then the moments in the bedroom are simply an extension of all the making love that has gone on through the day… super simple, without need or relief and an opportunity to deepen our nakedness (transparency and openness) in life.

  • Ingrid Ward April 28, 2018   Reply →

    Understanding that making love is about every detail of how we are living our day and not just one hour in the bedroom is a huge game-changer. Keeping that in mind, offers us the opportunity to take an honest look at the quality of how we are actually living our lives.

  • Hm April 28, 2018   Reply →

    This subject highlights that we don’t talk about sex and making love often enough. We keep it as a secret and mystery topic when in fact it is a big part of life. To actually talk about it brings it to the surface and encourages us to all be more honest with what is truly going on. Even I flinched a little at the title which makes me consider that I avoid this conversation at times.

  • Rik Connors April 27, 2018   Reply →

    Had to watch it again didn’t I ! This had me hanging onto my seat more the second time embracing everything that was talked about and felt from this viewing. I love the simplicity of how gorgeous it felt between Serge and Rebecca with how all-encompassing and big their smiles were to each other – Beauty and the encapsulation of making of Love.

  • Monika Rietveld April 27, 2018   Reply →

    I love the topics offered in the episode; making love, sex and nakedness described in the true forms. There is so much to learn for us all about this and how great is it that we don’t have talk about this in secret. I look forward to more.

  • Jeanette April 27, 2018   Reply →

    I really enjoyed this. It takes the pressure away that many people live by these days what with the abundance of media outlets insisting that sex rather than making love are where it is at. Not so, as it is revealed here.

  • Jonathan Stewart April 27, 2018   Reply →

    The significance and implementation of transparency as espoused by Serge Benhayon in this episode brings a depth and beauty to love-making that transcends the function of sex.

  • Leonne Barker April 27, 2018   Reply →

    This episode is one of my favourites. True sex education that encompasses the truth of love making and honours our divine nature.

    • Michelle McWaters April 28, 2018   Reply →

      Absolutely! This needs to be shared with all teens during sex education classes which normally focus on the function of sex and how not to get pregnant. What has been shared here goes much deeper to a truer and more loving way of being that encompasses everything – not just one facet we like to compartmentalise and put ourselves under pressure with. A totally awesome episode that cuts through our current consciousness around sex supporting us to reconsider our approach.

  • Jennifer Smith April 26, 2018   Reply →

    How we are in life, affects everything in our life. No exceptions.

  • Fiona Cochran April 26, 2018   Reply →

    I’m looking forward to the next episode if the second is anything like this one.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh April 26, 2018   Reply →

    There is so much advice out there about relationships, promoting all sorts of strategies ranging from demanding what you want, manipulating your own way, to bending backwards to please the other person. But it was not until meeting Serge Benhayon that I started to understand that there is no strategy or switch that can deliver a true relationship. The most gorgeous relationships are based on a foundation of transparency and loving, appreciating and honouring ourselves and one another 24/7.

    • Matilda Bathurst May 4, 2018   Reply →

      There is so much inspiration in the consideration that the quality of our relationships with our partners (supported alongside our relationship with ourselves) is the same quality with which we interact with everyone else in our lives; I see this in action in my life all the time.

  • Golnaz Shariatzadeh April 25, 2018   Reply →

    Who would have thought a discussion of Sex, Nakedness and Making Love could be so inspiring?
    This is a testament to how every conversation with Serge Benhayon is an invitation to deepen awareness, understanding, commitment and responsibility in life, offering a confirmation and honouring of the exquisiteness that is our true essence. The topic is simply the detail of human life we are focusing on at the time.

  • Sandra Vicary April 25, 2018   Reply →

    Another deeply beautiful expose by Serge, on the truth of what it really means to ‘make love’.

  • Michelle McWaters April 25, 2018   Reply →

    So beautifully simple. What has been expressed here takes the pressure out of the ‘performance’ of sex/making love. To view the act of making love as no different to holding hands, making a cup of tea, going for a walk etc., as these things are making love if they are done in a quality that is intimate and adoring – therefore what is experienced in the bedroom is no different and doesn’t have to come with any more reverence or expectation than what is lived during the day.

    • Lucy Dahill July 9, 2018   Reply →

      Yes, that was so simple yet has the potential to be applied in our lives and have a truly profound effect.

  • Melinda Knights April 25, 2018   Reply →

    This seems very common sense to me, that we don’t compartmentalise life and make any one activity more special, but that life is based on a quality of loving and adoring ourselves and each other throughout the whole day.

  • Nattalija April 25, 2018   Reply →

    I love this – making love 24/7 no start and no end!

    • Eva Rygg April 29, 2018   Reply →

      Exactly – every area of our life is equally significant and equally worthy of love.

  • Victoria April 25, 2018   Reply →

    Making love can be a way of living with connection, nakedness and transparency. That leaves the act of sex feeling pretty empty.

  • Rowena Stewart April 25, 2018   Reply →

    I love how once again Serge Benhayon restores our correct perspective on the subject of sex. When we bring our attention to making our normal everyday tasks sexy and playful, then naturally this has to bring a deeper quality into our love lives in all ways. Look forward to more in the series that can only deeply enhance all our relationships, even those platonic ones!

  • Joshua Campbell April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Listening to Serge and feeling just how full your life can truly be when you make it about love really exposes the utter lack and void-hungry need that porn is entirely based on. I was an avid porn addict when I was younger and love was no where in sight!

  • Monika Rietveld April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Of course everything influences each other, so if I am saying ‘no’ in one part of my life the rest gets effected as well. It doesn’t matter whether I say no to an opportunity at work it all comes home with me and comes in my relationship with my partner. We can make love everywhere and with everyone in how it is described here.

  • leigh matson April 24, 2018   Reply →

    This video makes a lot of sense.

  • Lieke Campbell April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Yes makes so much sense what is shared here. From young I have grown up with the idea sex was going to be the high of my life and then when it is actually not so easy and flowing, it can be easy to give up on life completely because what is now the high in our life? Learning it is all equal of importance in our day makes sense because why not make every part of our lives amazing? Equally so?

  • James Nicholson April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Thank you Rebecca and team an awesome topic we so often shy away from talking about yet something we most of us think about!

    • Eva Rygg April 29, 2018   Reply →

      Yes, very liberating to make this an everyday and natural topic as it is.

  • Natalie Hawthorne April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Wow imagine if this was shared with every single child instead of a disfunctional ‘Birds and the Bees’ talk, and that’s if your lucky enough to get that. This is so needed a healthy relationship with sex and honouring relationship with our partners.

  • Adele Leung April 24, 2018   Reply →

    I feel this strongly. Sex or making love is not a separate part from Life and it can never been asked to perform as such with the quality that is from the real us. And in life, the love and adoration we hold for ourselves and for our partners is absolute. Transparency is a process and a beholding. In a culture where we do not adore ourselves or know then how to adore another or accept adoration, there needs to be patience, lots of it, to accept and to keep holding each other in appreciation of every detail and moment. Even if expressing appreciation is not acceptable there are many other ways to express love and we never give up or exhaust this until eternity.

  • Nattalija April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Thank you for sharing how we can get so caught up in the word impotence that refers to the sexual topic but how often does this relate to the grander scale of how we hold these behaviours in other parts of our lives. Holding back on a far greater level than we choice to feel.

  • Gabriele Conrad April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Giving the term ‘impotence’ a much wider and deeper definition makes sense when we know that energy always precedes physicality and that we cannot compartmentalise life.

  • Fiona Cochran April 24, 2018   Reply →

    I loved watching this episode, there is so much lightheartedness and humour and what I could feel is how Serge is no different in this interview behind the camera than he is when he is presenting on stage.

  • Natalie Hawthorne April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Thankyou Rebecca for initiating such a priceless episode on a topic that is far beyond being at its natural true state. Serge speaks so practical and real about what is going on and the potential of what is actually possible. I know for me one of the hardest things to do is to be transparent. More and more though in all my relationships I feel this changing and it is remarkable what is on offer for the depth of where the relationships can go.

  • Alison Pearson April 24, 2018   Reply →

    What an expansive and revelatory interview. It’s very empowering to understand and appreciate that how we are with each other down to the minutest detail has a direct impact all the way to the bedroom. Openly sharing our adoration for each other deepens our relationship and brings us closer together so the celebration of each other in the bedroom comes from a place of lived truth.

  • Fiona Cochran April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Totally refreshing viewing, how many people would have loved to have access to this type of television whilst they were in their teens?

  • Jennifer Smith April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Like everything Serge Benhayon presents, nothing is isolated and everything is connected to everything else. Sex is no different. The quality of what happens in our bedrooms depends on the quality of how we live so a moment of making love is not necessarily something that is sexual. As Serge has said here it could be holding hands or cooking dinner together. How beautiful.

  • Ingrid Ward April 24, 2018   Reply →

    What a refreshing interview on a subject that in the past would have had me feeling rather uncomfortable, but instead had me appreciating the deep level of honesty and simplicity throughout its presentation. Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith certainly know how to present in such an open way that has life making more sense than it ever has. Making sense of the corrupted meaning of sex shows how far away from the truth we have been for so long.

  • Joshua Campbell April 24, 2018   Reply →

    Man this is such a great topic to talk about! And oh so needed too. Sex forms the focus of so many peoples lives yet this alone is a falsity exposing just how much we do in fact hold back in our lives.

    • Matilda Bathurst May 4, 2018   Reply →

      Using sex to try and fix our needs is wayward madness. Opening up to making love in all that we do is the basis of true healing.

  • Aimee Edmonds April 23, 2018   Reply →

    I’ve been waiting for you to go there… and here it is for everyone! This is a topic that plagues most with pressures, anxiety, not good enough, and questions like ‘how many times ‘should’ we be having sex’ is a big one that smashes true intimacy. Do we ever ask ourselves, how many times ‘should’ we hold hands, hug or go for a walk together? I would say not many, it’s almost comical how much emphasis sex and making love has been bombarded with. It feels like with all the focus in magazines, tv shows etc. it has been designed to give us an excuse to not really go there together and look at how intimate we are willing to be with each other and everyone else in our lives. Thank you so much Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith for demystifying and pulling the sheets back on the real joy and connection we can have in any moment with another.

  • Rik Connors April 23, 2018   Reply →

    This is no doubt my favourite tv. In fact it is the only tv I watch. You feel depth of it. Its not a show but educational wisdom. Making love, and you can feel the premise between Serge and Rebecca – “Lets talk about making Love” 😉

  • Dianne T April 23, 2018   Reply →

    Beautiful, Serge and Rebecca! I’m sure there are many of us who have been feeling the deficit of daily living love and intimacy, that is making love as much or more than sex itself.

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