Episode 12 - Sex, Nakedness and Making Love
Is your sex life feeling 2D? And if yes – is it because what happens in the bedroom is not the foremost determinant of the richness of your love life?
In this episode – the first in a series on Sex and Relationships – Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith talk about how we can establish a wholesome societal understanding of sex, the difference between sex and making love, the energetic factors that contribute to impotence and why sex and making love can be absolutely amazing and yet completely normal all at once.
Forget Sex in the City this is ‘Sex in the Rural’…there are no cocktails or $1000 shoes, but as usual, philosophy and substance on tap.
How we make love with our partners, how often, in what way and so on is always a reflection of how we are living with our partners.
I love when I have a relationship with something or someone where I learn so much every day. So much more fun that the stagnant arrangement that has been and could be.
I’ve never really heard anyone talk about sex like this, that it can be about what we live together 24/7 and not some special extra event, and that everything can have an amazing depth of love, transparency and adoration together.
Always found the word naked really cringey, and to a degree still do sometimes but when spoken about in the quality of this interview I actually really get it.
Intimacy is so so beautiful.
I love the way that Serge Benhayon exposes the sexual climax as not being the big finale but rather, a moment of confirmation for the love and intimacy that is already there, being lived.
15 minutes that delivers more than one could possibly imagine, highly recommend to anyone who wants to explore the topic of sex.
I love that intimacy comes from how we are with ourselves first rather than just something that is with someone else.
Philosophy at its finest.
Another great conversation that speaks about sex, but from the big picture of how we are living together 24/7. Making love is in every moment and in any activity. So much more than the ‘icing on the cake’.
It is a much nicer way to live than to accumulate tension and then seeking a release.
It doesn’t matter what subject Serge Benhayon talks about, his ability to shine the light of the Soul on the subject always leads in me coming away with an expanded awareness, a deeper level of honouring of the divinity within myself and all of us, plus a greater sense of responsibility.
This is a great confirmation how if we truly apply ourself with love, openness and dedication in one area of life, it will impact the foundation with which we live and thus will also affect every other area of our life.
I love this take on sex as being something that celebrates the love and depth of connection that has already been felt between two people, rather than something we resort to to try and make up for the lack of love in a relationship. I have experienced both and I know which one leaves me feeling more satisfied at the end.
Each moment = Relief or Evolution. Sex included!
So interesting about how our lives are 24/7 and so there is a quality we hold at all times, and with sex, we cannot segregate it to just one moment.
I love how Serge describes that making love is something that occurs throughout the day when we are in a loving relationship with our partner, by holding hands, walking together, even in a look…these moments can be as explosive and breathtaking as in the bedroom.
Making love through the day – a reminder of the responsibility we have in each moment.
If we make sex everything, what quality is the rest left in, and therefore what quality does that bring to the ‘everything’ in the end?
We create or co create the quality of sex or love making.
It’s a great message, live love together throughout life, don’t reserve love for special occasions or certain activities, hold every part of life equally, and share the fullness of who you are with your partner. It’s inspiring as it’s taking life and partnerships to a new level.
This is a ground-breaking episode on sex and making love from Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith. A subject often not spoken about in this way that brings a deeper understanding of how to enrich our relationships through our connection with each other. Thank you Serge for being so open and transparent around this subject, it is a much needed conversation.
Impotence explained very comprehensive way, that makes it something we can actually heal instead of learn to live with or manage with medication.
What I truly appreciate about this episode is how Serge Benhayon lifts the topic of sex and making love out of the usual sordid realms, restoring true respect, dignity and integrity to the entire Art of Making Love, an activity that actually has it roots in normal everyday activities that when lived on a daily basis elevates the physical union into an act of pure grace and joy.
A topic that looking back over time no doubt conversations were immature, irresponsible and abusive in some cases. This episode totally changes that, the level of respect and descentcy between each other on the level of what Serge is presenting is absolutely gorgeous and we can choose to really embrace this level of true love and know that love will not be the same or we can continue in a way that is degrading and settling for less than what we truly deserve and who we are.
We cannot live blandly in one area of life and expect the other to be full of magic. The fact that it is all One Life is a teaching that resonates with me hugely.
Yes, I have heard many female clients over the years complain that their husbands ignore them during the day and then expect to have sex at night. These amazing conversations between Serge and Rebecca highlight all of the areas in our lives where we do not live the love we know inside, so we can learn to accept nothing less than true honouring of the being.
What is offered here about making love is huge. Making love is not something just restricted to the bedroom, or defined by specific actions. It is in the quality of how we interact in any and every moment.
This brings it home that we could be having such a depth of relationship with every single person, and that our true expression is indeed love.
I was watching an interview about relationships recently and the two presenters were so in love with each other not by what they said but the way they moved and held each other in the space they gave to each other. It was very magical to watch in that they made it seem so easy and so natural.
‘Have we adored ourselves enough to be able to be naked with ourselves on a daily basis well before we come together’ Just one of the amazing questions posed by Serge Benhayon in this interview that is raising our awareness about sex and making love, how transparant are we willing to be to let someone’s love in and our love out. Much to ponder on and take into my life.
Transparency and allowing ourselves to surrender to that level of nakedness and to be able to adore and cherish another really is something that has not been encouraged or even spoken about. So in this episode we are being revealed what true nakedness is and I can see how far away we truly are from it when we look at the world and even my own relationship with myself and how transparent I am really prepared to go to.
The clear difference between sex and making love and the impact of both. Gold to listen to.
There is love in every moment, just waiting to be lived.
Having a relationship with ourselves that is a 24 hour basis, with out any start or end means we can’t turn the switch of at any point and that it is a life long study. This understanding and opportunity to constantly be checking in, reviewing and adjusting to what is truly needed in the next moment is truly what evolution is based on. Knowing we are apart of the Universe and that this relationship is key to living the potential of who we truly are.
What if we all made life about love in everything we did? Would we need to focus on anything except our own movements?
Making love is something that we have been sold as being an act, when what this interview presents is that it is simply a quality that can be brought through to any movement.
This interview and what Serge Benhayon shares is invaluable, to have such a deep understanding what it means to truly make love is priceless for all of us.
The level and depth of nakedness Serge is talking about is also about letting yourself be vulnerable and bringing the transparency in that. Something that in the last I have found very tricky and uncomfortable to be while around other people. There are so many ideas of what I need to be like in a relationship that this requires and absolute letting go of any control and just allowing your lead to be and knowing that this is everything and more than I will ever need.
When Serge Benhayon presents what making love truly is, is simply makes sense, showing us how shallow the idea of having sex actually is. Knowing that making love encompasses the way we live all through our days it makes absolute sense that the more we deepen our own livingness the deeper our connection to our partner will be, in every aspect of our relationship.
It’s fascinating how much the physical depends on and is moulded by the energy behind the act.
I really get what is presented in this interview about transparency and how this level of openness can be present in all of our daily interactions with others – even a look and how we speak can be very intimate and open with each other even before we touch another person.
Playful and profound, this interview asks us the question about whether we confine love making to the bedroom or whether we realise it is a way to live 24/7. I love the way these guys speak about the biggest of things in an everyday way.
Very cool about truly being naked and transparent with one another. This is so huge, and a big part of relationships that we tend to not want to see and experience.
I have never heard of love in a relationship made so practical and yet so beautiful – rather than all the pressure being on one form of expressing love, we can open up the field to allow every moment of the day to be an expression of love
I like the way that Serge Benhayon brings the act of making love out in to the everyday practicalities of life, because this is something that we can all do. You don’t need to therefore be a rockstar in bed and if your not you’re a failure. It simply is about living lovingly with the people in your life and making bedtime activities a part of that – not the marker for your worth, but a confirmation of who you already are.
This makes so much sense that you can’t just turn on a switch and wham bam thank you mam the job is done. Well that is what really happens when we reserve ourselves in such a way. Bring the depth of love that we are and then with our partners in all that we do, no filtering down then means when the act of making love takes place it truly is a celebration and confirmation of how cherished our relationships are.
Once again Serge Benhayon delivers such a refreshing and open true understanding on a subject that is mostly treated with either disdain or ‘titillation’. To have such a deep understanding of what it really means to ‘make love’ is a priceless treasure that we would all endlessly benefit from in any relationship, new or old.
Have you noticed how more beautiful Rebecca has become and softer and more comfortable over the time of the releases of each episode of Serge Benhayon tv. A testament in itself of The Way of The Livingness.
In love with Serge Benhayon TV simply because it is raw, honest, totally mind blowing and at the same time so recognizable what is in truth shared. We all can feel it pulling us up to be more open about life and how we live in it. You can feel the truth boiling in every episode. By the revelations shared every minute passing we are invited to the truth and love we feel inside, by our own making, our own free will. Being offered the space to consider deeper things in life by watching any episode by Serge Benhayon TV is what no other TV/episode or news has been offering before (of what I have seen).. This is so much greater than any TV I have seen before.
It makes so much sense that how we are with our partner during the whole day will determine the quality of time alone at the end of it.
This brings us back to the true beauty that making love is. How crazy it is that we focus all our attention on the physical act of copulation; and then use that as a measure to determine whether an intimate relationship works or not, and when it doesn’t we just look at the sex aspect rather than the whole relationship we have with each other, ourselves, the world. There is just as much potential for connection in holding hands, sleeping, making a cup of tea. If we shut down to ourselves and each other in our everyday lives then sex becomes purely functional at best. So beautiful to introduce there is so much more to connect to.
Most answers to our seemingly most biggest issues are so simple. If we gave issues with our sex life, which I think is pretty common, it’s about the love we live, or lack of love we live not about the act of sex per se.
This re-defines what making love is. I know I used to feel how guys would want to have sex just for relief – and it felt awful. I would put up with it in hope to have a cuddle at the end of it. There was always more to me than the sex. But I realise that I was sensitive to how it felt and that now I am in a relationship where I can feel what it is to build love in the day so that the act of making love is just a confirmation of what is already there and not any form of relief.
TV that evolves humanity and not making them more numb and checked out. AGREE.
This is the best “Sex” / Lovemaking education Series ever seen on TV. It is about learning to deepen the relationship in connection and intimacy to the body with oneself and another with no excitement and beyond physicality. Beautiful that Serge Benhayon lifts the curtain of all the false pictures and beliefs around Sex.
I love how Serge revealed you can also have a climax of holding hands, a conversation, walking together and, to add another level doing this with not only with your partner but with whomever and anyone. Imagine being in an area of lots of people and moving in a way that is making love? Sounds like fun and playful game to play.
How inspiring is it that there are interviews which can show us there is a much greater sense of life than just the physical functions which we tend to get pressurised to perform, especially as young adults.
Life is energy first, put this first and everything naturally is part of the whole, a oneness, how we make the bed is no different to what we do in the bed, and so if we are open to this, then we get to choose, is it Love or not Love? We can feel it either way and so we can choose.
I love the concept that love isn’t restricted to something between two people, but is actually something much grander.
It is a relief to realise that instead of having to perform in the bedroom as well, life and making love is really about living the sensitivity and sacredness throughout our day and something we can confirm through making love.
As per usual, we have reduced something so magnificent and glorious such as making love to a physicalised functional act to provide a moment of relief in our day.
As a young man this blows many of the ‘boys club requirements’ out of the water and exposes what is actually going on for young men.
Gorgeous, I loved watching this episode, showing us how it actually is for us to be naked, what making love is and what sex has been so far in the world. Thank you both and the whole video team to make this possible, the wisdom is shared and for all possible to see.
Everything that Serge Benhayon shares to me is such common sense, why not live a 24/7 transparency and intimacy adoring your partner and expressing love, why wait for a physical experience of sex when all day long can be being in the depths of love together.
Learning to develop intimacy rather than seeking protected relief has been a lesson well worth taking part in.
There is so much in the world about sex and so little about making love, in a true sense – from the inner heart. Though attending these presentations that you speak of Rebecca, I have gotten to understand this topic with such a depth and with so much respect for myself and the person I could potentially be intimate with. There is so much more to explore, talk about and understand – thank you for starting the conversation.
With this as a foundation there would be no domestic violence mental or physical, there would be no game playing and we would know exactly where we stand. This level of Love, respect and transparency is what we all deeply crave yet have settled for a loveless relationship because we have accepted that’s as good as it gets. Personally I would rather not be in a relationship than be in one and compromise on what I know we are worth.
Spot on Ariana, we protect and hide at the same time as saying we want love. What Serge presents is life changing, its up to us to change first.
These interviews between Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon are myth busters of ideals and beliefs and thus game changers in how we appreciate ourselves and others and bring transparency and depth through being more honest with ourselves.
It is interesting here how Serge Benhayon talks about transparency in the bedroom, both privately with ourselves and with our partners. As I have noticed how there tends to be a focus on how we are with our partners and with how open and transparent we are with them, but rarely does this same enquiry come in to our relationship with ourselves. And so this interview is beautiful in how it gives us an opportunity to really explore what are the foundations of all our relationships.
Is it possible that we hanker for a climax, as can happen and is, we are told, supposed to happen in sex, because we are not enjoying our life and are forever looking for any means to heighten our senses, whether that be using another person or seeking entertainment and sensationalist news? Is it a question of anything is better than nothing?
Yes, that was so simple yet has the potential to be applied in our lives and have a truly profound effect.
This is so well worth investigating for ourselves. What would it be like to consider how we live as part and parcel of making love?
We will get comfortable being naked when we have nothing to hide. Full transparency is the name of the game to evolve and support others evolution too.
This, like every episode is pure gold.
‘‘Have we adored ourselves enough to be naked with ourselves on a daily basis well before we come together?’ is such a pertinent question for me. I know that if I am not loving of myself, when another adores me it can actually be pretty excruciating!! Why? because I can’t accept such depth of appreciation when I am not this with myself and the pain of that I don’t want to feel. That said, it’s beautiful opening up to being adored.
A beautiful sharing of the quality of how we live together and how much we open up and be transparent with the quality of true intimacy making love and and openness in our daily lives . So different to the holding back not expressing love in our everyday movements and making it all about the sex act and the isolation that is felt from this. Very reflective .
Such a huge sharing about the quality we live everywhere – and how we can bring spunk and sexiness to all elements of what we do – and not have to silo our expression into key moments.
An oh so loving reminder of what sex (making love) actually is when we take the falseness out. Serge Benhayon speaks about how our quality of livingness ; openness and transparancy in our lives is contributing to our relationships and that it start by being naked ans transparant with ourselves, so that we can thereafter share this joy with others from our exquisite beauty in our every way. Thank You Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith.
This interview should be in the pages of all magazines, especially woman’s magazines because I find most women seem to devour these in an attempt to please their partners sexually. This interview debunks many ideals and beliefs we have around sex. And this is so needed when the porn industry is depersonalizing sex and enforcing the idea that women are to be seen as just sexual objects and nothing more.
What Serge is presenting makes complete and absolute sense. In the past I have been sexually intimate with a partner and yet at the end of I feel distant and separate from them. Love is a vibration that we connect to and we share it with another no matter what we are doing. The act of making love is a wonderful confirmation of this but is no more or no less than any other part of that relationship.
One moment in the day is the summation of all previous moments, so what is the quality of THE moment when the previous moments have been lacking true quality?
How can we switch it on and make love in the bedroom when there is no making love in our day? Could this be the difference between making love and sex eg. Making love, a continuous movement of connection to oneself and towards another in our day whereby sex if I may say, there is no love but an activity carried out to relieve oneself?
Sex seems to be more often than not a relief of tension, possibly even after a fight or disagreement between the partners. Making love is a deepening of a quality already lived, a presence and consistency that needs no climaxes as it keeps enriching our every step and moment.
Sex can be very mechanical and repetitive, it can also be impulsed from ideas, beliefs and things we’ve seen or heard. Making love is a responsive extension of our beingness and is far more than a physical act.
This presentation makes so much sense – to see sex as a natural extension of how we are living and no different to the intimacy that can be enjoyed in every moment together seems like a key thing really which takes all the pressure off! No more performance anxiety for how could there be pressure if you are already living every day the joy, connection and intimacy everywhere in your life?
And equally the presentation reflects how exquisite every single relationship and interaction, whether it involves the act of making love or not, has the potential to be.
How revolutionary to consider that making love is something that is done throughout the day, not at some grand pinnacle.
The quality with this intimacy is far greater in our expression of love when we take steps to build on this throughout the day.
Serge benhayon makes a very important distinction here between sex and making love, which is perhaps easy to understand, but all the more powerful to actually live.
When it is lived the understanding of love making becomes far grander than we are currently led to believe.
I love how Serge Benhayon can pick up pretty much any aspect of human life and unravel it with you until you realise you are a multidimensional divine being capable of raising yourself and everyone around you to live and once again express the stupendous grace that is our true essence.
Yes Golnaz, it is truly amazing to observe him in what you describe, and he does so with such ease and grace.
It’s amazing how we’ve ruminated about these topics for aeons yet no one has ever mentioned transparency and the way we live – it shows how addicted we have been to our momentary relief and resistant to living in a way that’s true.
Stripping the levels of mistrust to reveal our true levels of transparency is the gold in this episode.
How much are you willing to show how much you love a person and adore them… as this is the greatest form of nakedness and transparency. These are perhaps some of the greatest words ever spoken.
I agree Shami, we hold so much in reserve with each other just in case and we believe we are being close or intimate with each other but there is another level of ‘nakedness’ and openness that is possible to be lived and enjoyed with clothes on as well as clothes off!
The body sacred, divine and here for the purpose of honouring that in every way and so sex the physical activity of intercourse can only be from Love. We think bits of the body are rude, dirty, saucy, etc but every part of us is made divine and we need to let go of these pictures that harm our relationship with ourselves and others.
Living life with the understanding of love as presented by Serge Benhayon in this interview is like opening a window bringing sunshine and fresh air into a dark, long closed room full of mould and damp.
To be able to appreciate and embrace that fact that it is not about the actual moment of making love but how we have lived each moment together and in the other parts of our lives that will be the outcome of the quality of making love. This changes everything, forget performance and delivering anything that is not even on the cards. Great episode, whens the next one!
I agree with and since truly knowing making love with your partner can be going for walk, showering together, going shopping and cooking it has brought a whole other level to everything I do. Thank you Serge.
Rik we are so caught up in thinking life is one certain way, somehow its become the normal to mix sex with making love and love with sex. When I understood and felt the difference it made me realise just how much i was missing out on.
Isn’t it ironic that we have been making such a big thing about physical nakedness. Do we seriously imagine that a whole society of people not wearing clothes would equate a very loving society? We all know the answer. It would simply be the same dynamics between a whole lot of people who happen to not be wearing any clothes. The level of openness, equality and intimacy discussed here shows that true nakedness is nothing to do with clothes and is a whole different ball game.
It’s just awesome how Serge Benhayon can share the awesome potentials of what making love can be with such honouring, respect and yet not make it serious. Super cool, thanks Serge.
Love this. Our nakedness ‘depends upon the TRANSPARENCY we are prepared to share with our partner’ so in other words partners can be naked literally with one another but not! Also this nakedness (transparency) is not only for our partner but a way of being that we are with all. Another awesome interview from Serge Benhayon TV … keep them rolling ✨
Understanding nakedness in its true meaning, not about clothes but about the quality of openness, honesty and transparency with which we live and relate to one another.
The willingness to be this transparent is the daunting part for so many as we are so conditioned to judge and critique rather than understand and appreciate.
So much for settling for porn of casual sex when you can get off on Love all the time! In sex we can remain separate and individual, where as in love we are asked to be equal and totally connected. This is challenging for most as it asks us to not be individual, a stance most desire.
This is what should be shown in sex ed. Taking the pressure off young people and instilling responsibility in way of life at the same time.
Yes. It would be properly beautiful and world changing if we were taught what makes for true, intimate and respectful relationships – not ‘sex education’ but ‘relationships and love making in life’.
Exactly it takes a subject where there is much confusion as one grows up and brings in connection, love and responsiblity.
Breaking the ideals that have consumed our social and media projects is offered in this great TV viewing.
This is one needed conversation when we look around and see the way sex is happening in our lives. To be with another with absolute respect, adoration and cherishing of one another is a rear but exquisite thing.
So true Natalie, it is a much needed conversation because what is such a rare and exquisite thing should be the norm not the exception. There is much for us to reclaim about the grace, beauty, honesty and love that should naturally be present in a relationship and that the foundations for this lie in the quality of transparency in our everyday living.
This a revelation to consider how much we are willing to be open. Although sex / making love is something physical to experience with someone with out others around, but we do not need to separate how we are, whether physically making love or not. Sexual energy is imposing and it is degrading, but love is pure and holds all equal. We tend to make the act smutty, rather than be loving and sweet with one another. The more we live this loving way everywhere the more true this is lived very naturally in every area of our lives. I am currently healing some big assumptions and behaviour around love making in relationships, I see how I have hidden myself for so long and been unwilling to be transparent.
It’s fascinating about the transparency and sharing all of who we are and adoring our partner, we think of nakness as just a physical experience but it very much has to do with our being and allowing that out in full to share with our partner. And that it’s something to express and enjoy all day, not just in one part of the day.
This takes the pressure of sex in any form. We have made this single short word into something full of everything that it can not hold what it promises. And that is the point. We laden words and their actions with meanings they are not and value them with more or less compared to others. And that is the dilemma we have made life to be, we separate, we segregate, we categorize and judge, making some things more important than others but missing the fact and understanding that we are constantly pulsed forth by a deep love that we are, that cannot be expressed nor contained just in a few words or actions but is there in its fullness in every moment. So how glorious to have this simple fact revealed to us in this short sex talk.
I like the way we are encouraged to be transparent with each other, sharing deeply personal information at a level we normally avoid, and that only by being truly honest with our partners can we truly come together in love. This means being honest with ourselves first.
And what I am noticing is that this is an always developing process, like one moment of honesty offers another something to uncover, explore and reveal.
I like the way that Serge Benhayon talks about impotence as being a part of a whole way of living in life, not limiting or isolating it to the mere functionality of bedroom activities. And I feel that this is gorgeous because it takes a lot of pressure off of men to be stupendous in that one moment and allows instead the room or the space for their expression throughout life to be explored, honoured and cherished.
Yes it a great to consider what the impotence is symbolic of in a sense, rather than just seeing it as a physical malfunction. Everything our body does and expresses, show us something deeply supportive to consider and learn for – that is for sure!
I hadn’t thought about that – the pressure that is on men to deliver in that activity and somehow blow a woman mind and rock her world. But when we isolate that to only in the bedroom it becomes a all or nothing kind of situation, rather than as Serge presents, a whole life approach where the whole day is an opportunity to love and express and be at ease with yourself and then the bedroom is simply an extension of the day, no pressure to perform because it’s been built to in every other moment.