Episode 5 - The State of Play Between Men and Women
When 1 woman a week is killed by a current or former partner in Australia and when men’s violence towards other men is even more prevalent again, what is truly going on for men?
Boys are born with a natural tenderness and fragility, so what is being fostered in our society that would render men capable of domestic violence many years later? And why do some women say they like ’tough guys?’
In this sensitive and considered interview, Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith explore the state of play between men and women and the essence of what a true expression of gender could look like, beyond the manufactured male/female ideals we are conditioned by.
This is utterly gorgeous: to look to our women and see if they are flourishing and if not, to tend to them so that they may.
This is a very powerful message to us all. The state of play between men and women has been for a long long time the same, even though aspects might change or look even different, the onslaught of the lack of equalness is still going on… this interview asks us to look a little deeper and start to look back in honesty of what has made us walk away from our essence, this loving nature, we naturally have, and observe more clearly what movements we have made us come — away from that?
Thank you for Rebecca Asquith and Serge Benhayon to open up the floor for actual true discussion.
” Any problem we need to take 100 hundred steps back away from the problem before we even attempt to understand the end result ”
This is such good advice for it usually takes some time before a problem becomes an issue.
When we look at the gender constructs in society it’s obvious we are avoiding something. There is too much animosity for their not to be something that we’re avoiding.
It makes so much sense for Serge Benhayon to say that in truth we are not capable of aggression – and whilst that might be our reality, it is not who we are, and it is up to us to look at why we are at the stage where we know how to be aggressive as a society.
I loved your mention of the caption of boys will be boys in this interview, and how by their true nature they are tender and caring, yet we allow society to dictate to us that they need to be tough. Surely we should be bringing up boys to be themselves delicate and tender as they truly are, and change the society in which we live in.
Thank you Sally, to me this says a lot about letting children be, that is to preserve who they naturally are.
What Serge offers here is something completley different to what we have become accustomed to not only hearing but also accepting as being normal and appropriate behaviour. To understand that men and women have equal responsibility in any relationship, whatever form that may take, potentially brings a whole new level of understanding and appreciation for one another.
It makes so much sense that if we as men and women are not flourishing within society and with each other, and are in fact getting sicker. Then isn’t this is telling us that something is not right with the way we are living.
wow what a statement – to look at the state of a women’s body in how we are running society. There has been such an increase of women’s illness, and yet we are not asking why. Serge Benhayon looks at where the world is at – the male energy that even women are going into. Perhaps this is telling of why we as women continue to get sick in our bodies.
I love the discussion here about fragility and how natural it is for us to be fragile as human beings.
Denying our fragility and sensitivity is so harmful to ourselves, it brings an imposed hardness in to the body that operates us from feeling all that is available and life and gives us a narrow perspective. We need to feel, observe and be aware of all of life and how we are within it. This is Empowering, not weak.
So true Samantha and such a great point to pick up on. I always used to think it was weak showing how sensitive I was and people used to think I was gay because of it. But it was simply me expressing how deeply tender I am, as we all are just have chosen to shut it down because the world generally does not accept it. Which for me meant completely fighting and going against my very nature which hurt for a long time and was very confusing growing up getting such mixed messages of how I should be rather than simply being myself!
There cannot be inequality without having two separate parts. Therefore the aim is not to bring the two separate parts to perceived equality but to actually come together as one so that equality is a given and not even a concept.
Michael, I love what you share here, if we get rid of the separation then we heal the inequality.
Serge Benhayon is leading the way in offering the truth of who we are and the expression of our genders and where that has got us to. The abuse and violence we have come to is far from who we are in our tenderness and delicacy and the livingness and respect of this. A great reflection of our responsibility and love.
To understand that both genders have been equally suppressed and denatured as this interview clearly outlined takes away a lot of the blame game, finger pointing and competitiveness between the genders and begins the real healing process that needs to occur.
It’s fantastic to be able to watch an interview where the conversation is actually expansive rather than fitting the confines of an agenda.
I often wonder if the conversation shared here took front page in our social media exchanges would society be open to realising how harming and abusive some relationships can be?
Most parents want to support their children in living in this world the best they can. Yet what you refer to is so true. There is a world of difference between “moulding them to close down to fit into the world we live in” and in contrast supporting them to learn how to maintain their natural love, light and awareness whilst fully committing to living in the world.
We have become so used to relating to each other in protection and we think it is normal. We often blame each other, each gender, rather than taking stock of what there is to appreciate and also being responsible for our own behaviour. This interview is ground breaking concerning relationships between men and women.
It’s been an amazing journey for me, accepting many of my virtues and qualities that I used to suppress as they were too feminine and not manly enough.
Acknowledging the fact that women have gained equality through moving into male energy rather than maintaining their true nature and quality exposes that inequality is actually still here resulting in it being entrenched further and buried deeper in the illusion of equality.
In talking about gender conditioning I like that he points out that our current parenting is preparing us for the education system that does not focus on our beingness. We are brought up to be the absolute opposite of who we truly are.
Here is the real conversation, picking apart what we as a society have created.
Why wouldn’t we want to foster our beingness within as our key way of living and yet when we look at where we are as a society we are very far away from this. Generations after generations we have overlooked this and the education system is by no way touching on this. So it comes back to us and saying ok, so if we beautiful tender beings that has a body lets bring focus to this being, and together we learn and return to our truth.
I love the constant invitation by Serge Benhayon to deepen our level of understanding, awareness and ability to see to the heart of the matter, and how it always ends up with remembering that our true essence, bar none, is love, tenderness and caring for one another.
I loved the comment on the fact that our fragility, our ability to feel and be sensitive actually makes us better human beings in relating with each other as we can communicate from the depth of what we felt is going on and therefor deeply support each other in life.
I agree, Fiona, very healing indeed, and inspiring to realise that we are not at the mercy of what is presented to us from the outside, but actually responsible for living our true natures and that by doing this we break so many of the social cages of expectation and conditioning that we live in.
How simple and beautiful to hear that we are all naturally fragile and tender and that this is our true strength.
We went to an amazing festival yesterday, well, we did more than go, we volunteered our time and resources and provided a pop up café to support the amazing festivities. The event, Girl to Woman Festival, is on annually and is all about celebrating women and girls but I am only beginning to discover how this relates to the men and boys in our community and what a huge role they play in bringing about this much-needed family celebration. Which brings me back to this episode and the state of play between men and women. My sons, who attended the event had a very warm and loving way about them afterwards, one of them was being so loving towards his sister, hugging her and telling her how beautiful her hair was, how great she looked in her new t-shirt. Of course, this then allowed her to be her beautiful self and the harmony was just beaming between them. My daughter was not being hard or bossy with her brother either and you could feel that if we were supported by the world, this would be how they are in every moment.
Just shows that we all know they true way to be with eachother, there is nothing to learn, only to remember.
We are playing a game that just will never work … currently neither gender is where we should be by truth. Awesome that the education was spoken about here as something that is for the system … not for the being that are going through education ..but the system! So very much is said in this short interview. And if women are not flourishing we need to ask why? And Serge Benhayon has done it again ✨ in the reality bomb he dropped .. he didn’t just take it back to 100 steps he took it right back to the beginning.
Now thats what I call a reality check! The bombshell that Serge Benhayon drops in this episode is super insightful and powerful. It gives us the opportunity to empower ourselves to live our truth, not what we have created thinking it is our truth. A reality check worth investigating and exploring.
How come we have ended up with a reality that is not the reality of our beingness? And how come we choose to sustain this reality when we could align to our beingness and live the truth of who we are thus choosing a different reality. We have it in us.
A very good question Elaine and it shows just how very far we are from our true truth and gosh what a struggles this is .. putting sooooo much effort into something that is not even true!
It makes sense that as woman we sometimes have a tendency to choose rough bad boys over sensitive caring guys. For it is easier to hide our own hardness when we are with someone that is even harder than we are. It really explains my bad boy obsession in high school, I never fully understood the physchology until now.
I have found it a remarkable process stripping away the layers for the woman I thought I needed to be. I simply love listening to what Serge Benhayon is presenting here and as it is been a process of really letting go and accepting that I truly am fragile, tender and precious and that this is worth cherishing and honouring. It certainly is an unfolding process and one that I can feel has no dead ends just an open road to going deeper.
The “boys will be boys” is almost a throw away line. Showing that if you’re a boy anything is possible and you can get away with anything . The eternal excuse. I keep coming back to even though something is common, it does not mean that it is part of our natural expression. So violence in whatever form is very common, but its 100 steps away from our naturally loving and tender natures. Examining honestly but without blame feels like an important initial step in returning us to living in a way that is our natural way.
I love the way Serge Benhayon keeps inspiring us to peel back layers of falsity that we have for eons assumed is the best we can get, to once again see the gem that has always been there, waiting for us to remember and return.
Serge Benhayon just captures the very pinnacle of what holds us back. As a woman, I have certainly bought into feeling the pressure of trying to look like someone I am not. It has felt like a huge struggle that no one understands but at the same time it is not talked about. It is not the casual conversation I have with friends – and no doubt they feel the same. But we just bury what is going on rather than looking at why have we allowed this at such a mass scale. What is going on for us to try and be something we are not?
I used to think that being fragile was the losers game, so being tough and strong to meet the men should be how I was a part of this. How exhausting was that and I totally missed out on many years of being how I naturally wanted to be… Tender, fragile and precious, but not knowing how to be this in the world around me. Thank you Serge Benhayon for presenting the truth of who we are so I could start to let go of the shackles that I was tied up in and not being my natural divine being.
So poignantly presented and an incredibly inspiring TV episode – they all are, sharing how we are here both, men and woman, to inspire each other to empower ourselves to be all that we have incarnated to be, not overpower each other to gain the false sense of power that we already we naturally hold when we surrender and embrace the tenderness, fragility and sacredness that we innately are – who we really are in essence.
It is great to hear that competitiveness and combativeness are not our true nature; it implies that we will eventually come to our senses and discard what has no valid place in existence.
We are missing a big part of how to raise people to their full potential. The moment we say this is a woman and this is a man, without looking at where this information has come from, we are further away from truth than needed. The gender differences that we have come to know are actually false, men are in fact very sensitive as woman and naturally very still, even though we do not always see this in the way women and men live. What is being offered here is very needed in today’s climate. With breast cancer, period issues and a whole swag of other conditions that woman face on the rise, then we have to look at why women are struggling with their cycles and health issues, we have to look at whether we are supporting women in society to flourish. Maybe what we call normal, is not as normal as we think, but rather a sliding scale that has gotten so out of hand that we have distorted it to be the only reality, but in fact it is just a reflection of the falseness that we have brought into.
Great episode that asks us to look at the whole picture not at the end point of the problem but getting right back to the route, where did we start to stray from truth and how have we ended us so far from the truth. I love how we don’t get into ‘solutions’ but instead look for the real root answer, celebrating the fragility and sensitivity in each gender.
Men and women are caught in their ideals and beliefs and roles concerning how they should be as a woman or a man. As long as this exists men and women never meet each other in who they truly are but always pretending to be somebody different, a certain role or picture and as such they never meet each other truly.
I remember reading a statistic that over 90% of murders are committed by people who know the victim. A scary thought to consider what force needs to be brought through to murder another human being.
I love the approach that Serge Benhayon shares here about needing to take a hundred steps back to know how to address any problem that is before us. This takes the superficiality out of dealing with life’s problems and asks us to be more responsible in how we deal with things.
The old saying stands: Divide and Conquer. One just has to look around at all the things that are in place to separate us to see that there must be something more here than just chance or genetics or luck.
When we look at very young children, we witness grace and tenderness reflected. So how come many years later such divine qualities turn into something that has no resemblance to what we started with?
It is never about pointing the finger and labeling someone as the culprit and the other as the victim, but to deeply reflect on the personal responsibility each of us has in creating a world that facilitates such a change.
Super simple, super sweet and super true. Letting our innate tenderness out once again will disarm so much of the conflict that has become our ‘norm’.
‘beyond the manufactured male/female ideals we are conditioned by…’ there is a whole depth of honouring, respect, care and cherishing that we can bring into our relationships with ourselves and each other that will break down the current wayward ‘norms’ in society.
Serge Benhayon is raising an impotant point concerning parenting and education. As we do not foster and support the awareness that we are more ‘being’ than ‘human’, children are parented and educated in a way to be functional instead of learning to connect to their inner wisdom first before using their mind. This is growing a humanity of stress, heartlessness and disconnection. It is touching to hear that there is another way, that we do not need to be stuck in this functional mode, which in the end leads to illness and disease.
The state of play between men and women is shifting with the #metoo tag at the moment. It will be interesting to know where it ends up.
If we are not all living our natural state of being then it says a lot about the system of our world and how these contribute to an unnatural but seen as ‘normal’ way. We could include in this the way we parent and educate children and young adults, and the way work environments are and what they also foster. It seems that we are directing life depending on what the current beliefs and ideals are, for example “boys and men are tough”, instead of living from what’s already present and natural within us, such as the natural tenderness boys have, and preserving and fostering that. Generation after generation we change our beliefs and ideals, but we are still not living true to ourselves.
It’s an extraordinary experience for me to listen to Serge Benhayon because on the one hand what he shares is brilliant, yet once listened to feels very common sense and simple – even though I haven’t heard it before. The 100 steps concept is a great example of this, as we tend to look straight at a problem, such as domestic violence, and wonder how to tackle it and come up with things like stopping alcohol consumption and going to anger management. This may provide healing in some cases but how did we get there in the first place, and what are we doing as a society to create these kinds of “normals”, like domestic violence? Serge is a true philosopher with such a deep understanding of human beings, what he is offering is so needed worldwide.
I’ve always enjoyed being around women more than men, for there is something in the sweetness and tenderness that lights me up. What has been amazing is that more recently I have been able to see that quality in men also and value my time with each equally.
The truth is out, there is nothing to fight, we are all born equal, but we have got our wires crossed regarding how we express ourselves and communicate with one another. Men and Women compliment one-another sublimely if we allow ourselves to be who we are born to be.
Serge Benhayon inspires me to want to understand more about the relationships we have as men and as women as we all live and work together through our difficult times. In this we can develop a clarity that allows what is not the true essence of the person to be seen for what it is, and therefore there is no judgement.
Excellent TV indeed. A gift for us all to realise the strength and sweetness of the qualities of each gender and to embrace and honour these in all our relationships.
A brilliant and inspiring interview that wakes me up to the potential we all have to live the true qualities of our genders and the responsibility we have to be in our relationships with these, supporting each other to honour, cherish and realise what is possible.
Such a great hallmark of Ageless Wisdom. Instead of focusing on the unloving choices and bahviour of a person, to start by the awareness that every single one of us are deeply sensitive, aware, loving and multidimentional beings. The next natural question becomes what led such a being to behave in opposition to the truth of their expression? And here we start seeing the most profound revelations that fundamentally honour and consider every single person involved.
Serge expresses the true and irrefutable state of the world (irrefutable because each of us can see it play out, no matter where we live) with a level of complete and true understanding – for the man who is aggressive towards women or the woman who hardens herself to be who she thinks she needs to be to succeed in a ‘man’s world’ – for all people. That is refreshing and not often seen, but that is natural for us all.
It is both inspiring and liberating to me to feel how just by being willing to see another person, and ourselves, in our innate sensitivity can break down gender barriers.
I love how Serge takes on these issues that the world faces with a calmness and assureity – when we consider life from the perspective of energy first, it makes sense of so many seemingly senseless things.
As a humanity we are seriously sick when we can not live in harmony, we survive but we do not flourish, we see each other more as the enemy than our true compliment. We are all responsible for how we are with each other, there are no victims here. We all, women and men have a natural expression with can work in harmony with one another, do we allow it to be lived and expressed…I would say for the majority no…Serge Benhayon, may confront some, but if you listen to the words with an open heart you will hear and feel love to a depth that is rarely if ever encountered in humanity.
Is what we call normal…normal? This is very important to ponder further on. We have had clear downward spirals in relationships, health, lifestyle choices etc and have not questioned this. We have simply re calibrated our normal.
One of the things that stood out in this interview was that raising a child to be who they are is about showering them with love, that is not necessarily aimed at the fact that they are a boy or a girl but more at the essence of the quality they are, this is such a beautiful way for us to bring forth our next generation. The gap we have made between men and woman starts with the culture of how we rise our children, if we make our love for them about the essence of who they are and not what society expects them to be, we already turning the tide.
I was working on a hospital ward one day and saw one of our patients, who was a very big man walking down the corridor, carrying his very tiny 6 month old baby. I found myself having to stop and watch. What I realised at that point is that when men (and women too) are with babies we are as we are naturally meant to be. Very tender and sensitive. Not only are we born this way as babies and then children, babies and children inspire us to return to this very natural state also.
I saw a video where young boys were asked to slap a girl, and they all beautifully refused. When asked why, they gave the most tender and sweet looks and answers into the camera. The question then being – Where does this natural way of being disappear to to the point of violence we have currently?
This part about ‘liking tough guys’ is very exposing, because it shows to me a deeper unrest that is happening in women’s lives that many of us are perhaps yet to be aware of. But this is what I love about Serge Benhayon, when he presents this kind of thing that just makes me stop and look more closely or differently at what there is to consider.
Recently I was discussing that endometriosis is starting to be come a common condition for women. This is huge in the fact that it is being casually talked about as if it is normal to have this condition. Every movement and action has an impact on our bodies, if they are not harmonious then we need to look at the way we are moving and living that is not supporting this.
This masculine energy that Women in the west have turned to is something that I have known very well. From such a young age I could feel the competition with men and override and pushing to keep up or out do them. Now in my early 40’s and thanks to Serge Benhayon and the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom I have been able to connect much deeper than this, feel the innate stillness within and feel how sweet, delicate and precious it really is. That this is what I had been seeking my whole life I just didn’t know how to connect to it. 2014 was a year where I knew my life was about to change and I had been waiting for it my whole life. Huge appreciation for Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family for consistently showing to me that we are indeed much more than the physical form and that as a Woman I hold something very precious and sacred within me that is there for all to see and feel.
So much understanding is brought to the table… and with understanding, there is no battle of the sexes. We find there is a beauty in the expression of men as men and women as women and underneath is all a commonality of sensitivity.
Its our responsibility to educate and bring up our young to bring their full beingness to all that they do. This comes back to our relationship with ourselves and what best to teach, share and educate but to come from a lived expression of someone that is making those choices also. Leading by example and being role models is exactly what is needed so when we do encourage our young to do the same at least they are getting a reflection that this true.
This is something that we can’t deny – and that is the responsibility in our parenting skills and Education system and how this is key. The way we teach, share and integrate our way of living in connection with our Soul/Being and not to disconnect from this in and throughout life.
When reflecting on and discussing the issues between men and women, it is common for there to be anger, blame, opposition and animosity.
In this episode we have a wonderful example in Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith of how any issue, however contentious, can be observed, examined and discussed with the greatest level of love, care, honouring and consideration for all parties.
The fragility that both genders have is something that in the past i would have considered weak, pathetic and annoying. But today this is completely turned around as I have started to let go of the protection that I had created that was propped up by all this hardness and toughness. I thought I needed to be that way so I was cool, liked and also because I didn’t want to be hassled – so if I put off a tough persona then I was less likely to be hassled. There is so much beauty in allowing ourselves to be fragile, tender and precious not just for ourselves or the selected few but for all, and show that this is indeed our natural way of being.
What if in previous lives we were a different gender? Would that make us consider how we treat members of the opposite sex?
There needs to be a much deeper conversation about gender equality. What we are fostering is a false equality, particularly in the Western Societies as talked about here. An equality that asks women to give up their natural nurturing qualities is not a real equality but is actually harming us all. Men need the reflection of women deeply caring for themselves, and women can be leaders without replicating errant male ways, and yet this is such an emotive subject and difficult to write about with out it seeming like a restriction on the emancipation of women. If we are meant to be fragile and precious then it should make us question all the leadership and successes we have to date celebrated in men and women and consider if this is what we want to continue chasing and accepting as normal.
It is true that often when it is mentioned that women do not need to take on the hardness and the bullish driven characteristic currently shown by many men, many take issue with it as ‘restriction on the emancipation of women’. Yet what if these characteristics are not even natural for men? Then what?
The clarity Serge Benhayon shines on the many predicaments we are facing offers a much needed space for reflection and re-assessment of our ideals and beliefs.
This is so wonderful to listen to, the clarity of how to examine a situation in that the end result is not the problem. Its important to not go into reaction of the end result, problem, but to go back how ever many steps to realise the source of the end result which is called a ” problem “. Just lovely.
Whatever well worn topic is placed in front of Serge Benhayon, he never fails to ignite it with a new perspective and true purpose. When we make life about coming back to our innate tenderness, sweetness and powerful fragility regardless of our gender, we establish the true footings for successful relationship with both genders. Wise words in a world that continues to pitch gender against gender, words that uphold and empower our collective values.
Both genders are equally worse off- this feels true, we can compare the genders as much as we like and call out the behaviours of both sexes, but things will only change if we accept that much needs to change about how we all relate and the values we place on ourselves. “We are (all) fragile by nature” what a great starting point to make such a change.
It is refreshing to witness someone call out the abuse and atrocities for what they are, as not acceptable in any shape or form, yet also hold all parties in absolute love, understanding and regard.
On top of that, here Serge Benhayon is offering expanded insights into the state of play between men and women that is deeply honouring of us All.
I find it interesting how quickly the tenderness can disappear from boys’ behaviour. At age 2 they may be very tender but at age three they may already be quite different. This is very early.
I love that there is no bashing in this interview, it is a discussion about how we can all appreciate each other more. There is a surrendering offered to the body when we stop trying to justify our gender and simply live from the essence of who we are. Now that is well worth dating!
It was so supportive to feel the healing that is available when we are not fighting or competing against each other as women and between the genders.
How beautiful is it to confirm that men and women are the same and equal in their tenderness? We spend so much of our lives putting on a front, trying to toughen up, putting on an act to hide the fact that we are indeed sensitive beings. What if both sexes honoured their sensitivity and lived it so… how much of life would change?
It was so refreshing to hear men and women being discussed without any us and them. This interview shows the depth to which we need to go in order to turn around the problems we are experiencing in our relationships with ourselves as men and women and between the sexes. We need to step back a long way and question everything we think we currently know, not just a few steps to be able to see clearly.
Wow – how powerful is the quote ‘the world will be saved by the western woman’ – this really sums up where we are as a society and how much opportunity there is for women to work together. There is way too much separation that keeps us from living our potential.
A beautiful expression on tv of true harmony between men and women and the livingness of all that is said that can be felt and is known as truth . What a difference to most tv broadcast and how refreshing and real this is to hear, it offers so much to us all in society to take heed from. Expression of who we really are and the absoluteness of this for both men and women and our appreciative interactions together confirming our sensitivity, tenderness and love.
Exquisite television brought to us by an exquisite man and an exquisite woman. Absolute living proof of the power of the combination of man and woman living in their true expressions.
I can look back to when I was raising my daughter it was very noticeable that the young boys of her age were not allowed to cry if they hurt themselves and even at five there seemed to be huge pressure them to do well, compete against each other and excel at school. And this pressure was often coming from their fathers interestingly enough, so is it something that gets passed down from generation to generation and if this is the case perhaps it’s time to draw a line across this behaviour and say enough is enough, and start treating young boys and girls as the beautiful children they are.
” We ( male and female ) are fragile by nature we are very tender ” this is so lovely and true . The more we supports what is true about people the more it will be lived .
The tagline: “boys will be boys” its really actually not that subtle when it is laid bare here. And yet how many phrases and mannerisms do we associate with boys and men that keeps us stuck in a false picture of who we men are, which is gentle, tender and dare I say it naturally feminine in so many ways.
So true Stephen, there is such a cap put on men being tender and gentle yet the outplay of that is potentially men who don’t allow themselves to feel that tenderness as a positive and therefore fight it when it starts to come into their lives.
The depth of observation and understanding here is enormous. Serge Benhayon teaches us how, by taking some enormous steps back from every situation, we get to see a root cause and therein perceive another way forward. So far we have attempted to establish gender equality by ‘fighting for our rights’, yet the very essence of this takes us further away from our innate tenderness that lies within both men and women. The more we appreciate our true tenderness, the more we naturally grow together, re-discover our natural expression in this inherent partnership between men and women. Equality is not about doing the same things, it is about expressing from the same energy.
Oh it makes my heart melt hearing the unwavering love, tenderness and honouring with which Serge Benhayon speaks. I consider myself very loving and caring of people, yet I have a long way to go until I am able to hold people with so much grace and understanding regardless of what their behaviour and choices. He is a true role model for fundamentally and unconditionally loving people.
This war between the genders has been something that has been bugging me for a very long time. From a young age I always knew that boys are tender, and I never really understood what the term “boys will be boys” meant, until just now. This phrase always seemed like an insult to men so I was never interested in using it, and indeed it is. We are constantly doing/ saying things to keep ourselves in this illusion of ours.
I am in a relationship and comprehending the games we play in our genders really does allow us and me to be more free of judgement, protection and expectations. I am here to express being a woman, my husband a man, but both are equal in this, there is nothing to be superior or inadequate about. There are many binds in society that lead us astray from true relationships, it is so important that interviews such as this are on the internet, they blow the lid on the illusions we have buried into our interactions.
Serge Benhayon makes a great point about allowing people to be more of who they naturally are based on where they are at – so a woman who is caught up in what she looks like and is quite driven cannot go to the complete opposite overnight, but she can start to appreciate who she is underneath the drive and start from there.
Appreciating the comment you have shared here about ‘appreciating the women we are under the drive” is where I have been for a few weeks now and I must say the change is incredible. How amazing is it to view TV and be given a gift to heal an old way of living that keeps from being who we naturally are.
Now thats what I call a reality check! To ask where did we go astray and what caused this is not something that we have been asking and why. The comforts of how we are living and what we have created we are so attached to, that we don’t want to expose and question them because we then get to see that we are fully responsible for the loveless ways we have created.
Yes. We are not even asking the question – let along trying to find the answer. In fact, I feel that the the answer is very simple if the question is asked with absolute intention to find the truth; open ourselves up and the answers are there. So, how bad does it have to get before humanity has the humility to ask this question?
These interviews are worth watching several times over, as each time another piece of wisdom comes to the fore. Re-uniting both genders with our exquisite tenderness brings us back to a true foundation of relationship, firstly within our selves and then with each other. Never before has the issue of gender relationships been spoken about in such an empowering way.
It is so refreshing that this conversation goes nowhere near the usual norms that this topic usually engenders. When we consider life and our relationships between genders from the point of our ‘Being-ness’ and innate tenderness, we are empowered to see that the way to develop a truly honouring relationship is not through ‘fighting for our rights’ but in bringing to the fore what has been to date a very protected but immensely powerful quality within us. When we truly recognise one another’s tenderness, these relationships naturally resume their natural respectful expression.
It is a profound realisation that it is never about fighting, discord or demands. If we look through our history this has never brought a harmony, unity and honouring of one another, in fact it has always fueled further separation, animousity and abusive dynamics. “When we truly recognise one another’s tenderness, these relationships naturally resume their natural respectful expression”. A great truth to remember in every relationship.
Amazing interview with Serge Benhayon and Rebecca Asquith – an incredible job. Having this recorded so we can go back to every time we want to is absolute Gold. The biggest thank you to you both for such amazing truth. Life changing stuff!
When women and men allow more of their tenderness and fragility in their lifes relationships between men and women will look different.
‘We are accepting a game where we are the pawns’ yes and it’s a game which is getting more serious and extreme by the day as more and more people seem to accept living with hardness and abuse.